I love my in-laws to death! All of them!
At first my Mil was not feeling our relationship and threatened to not come to the wedding (she thought he was too young and that I was manipulating him into marriage). But before it happened she called to apologize and make up. But she still had the attitude that she was not looking for another daughter to "go shopping with" and stuff. After the wedding she was pleasant but we didn't have a close relationship. I was close with other members of his family though.
When I had DD, that broke the ice in a major way. She started to treat me more like a daughter. Fast forward 2 more years and our relationship turned a corner. Years later she told me it was because I was so nice and did not react to her little comments or attitudes and so she constantly felt bad. She said my genuine love changed her heart towards me. She cried when she told me.
Now we are inseparable! My own mom complains about how much she babies me lol.
Even though I'm divorced now, I'm keeping his family.
All of my relationships with my in-laws are independant of my ex. I see and interact with them way more than he ever has so they see me as their daughter/granddaugher/niece/sister/cousin rather than an extension of him. Regardless of our divorce, my mil expects me to come over weekly and is constantly asking me to move in with them cause "don't you just want to save some money for a year or two sweetie?"
I lucked out yall!
ETA: They are not biased towards him. We'd been seperated before and they did not hold back checking him and clinging to me. It's been the same through this separation and now divorce.
