grow_N_Him09
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I want to follow "The Rules," but can I really just be friends with a guy? If so, how do I do it?
If I'm not supposed be doing the calling, how do I "check up" on them and see how they're doing, can we ever just "hang-out" without pressure that it's like a date?
And I guess should give a little background, to be fair...
I've known the guy for about a year now and at first I he pursued and seemed to be interested in a relationship (calls, texts, invites over to his house, etc.) but it didn't take me too long to realize he wanted a "physical" relationship. But I still played into it and went over every once and while and managed to keep my standards
So then I kind of fall for him and tell him. But I sort of lie and make it sound like I was into someone else when it was really him I was talking about. Right after that he tells me about some girl I never heard of until then and apparantly, it's serious I kind of get upset and don't answer his messages. Then I come clean a few days later with my real feelings toward him.
He claims he didn't know and it may have been different if he would have. Granted, I'm real nonchalant about it all and act like I really don't care about his feelings one way or the other. The main purpose for me telling him was to clear my conscious.
The next day he texts to "see how I'm doing." I guess I'm supposed to be so crushed and heartbroken.
this was back in April and we've talked periodically since then but never an extended conversation and I haven't been back over either. The agreement was to stay friends and since we've done some "friendly" things for each other but I'm just wondering how much I should pursue developing the friendship. Last week he invited me to a little get together but I didn't go (planned to but just didn't make it) but that may not have really meant anything to him.
I've come to grips that I basically played the fool and read his signals the wrong way
Basically, I just want to know how you can be "just friends" with guys and not seem like you're the obsessed girl who can't let go or the girl drooling all over them... erplexed
If I'm not supposed be doing the calling, how do I "check up" on them and see how they're doing, can we ever just "hang-out" without pressure that it's like a date?
And I guess should give a little background, to be fair...
I've known the guy for about a year now and at first I he pursued and seemed to be interested in a relationship (calls, texts, invites over to his house, etc.) but it didn't take me too long to realize he wanted a "physical" relationship. But I still played into it and went over every once and while and managed to keep my standards
So then I kind of fall for him and tell him. But I sort of lie and make it sound like I was into someone else when it was really him I was talking about. Right after that he tells me about some girl I never heard of until then and apparantly, it's serious I kind of get upset and don't answer his messages. Then I come clean a few days later with my real feelings toward him.
He claims he didn't know and it may have been different if he would have. Granted, I'm real nonchalant about it all and act like I really don't care about his feelings one way or the other. The main purpose for me telling him was to clear my conscious.
The next day he texts to "see how I'm doing." I guess I'm supposed to be so crushed and heartbroken.
this was back in April and we've talked periodically since then but never an extended conversation and I haven't been back over either. The agreement was to stay friends and since we've done some "friendly" things for each other but I'm just wondering how much I should pursue developing the friendship. Last week he invited me to a little get together but I didn't go (planned to but just didn't make it) but that may not have really meant anything to him.
I've come to grips that I basically played the fool and read his signals the wrong way
Basically, I just want to know how you can be "just friends" with guys and not seem like you're the obsessed girl who can't let go or the girl drooling all over them... erplexed