At first I thought I settled with DH, but as time went by, I realized I had a winner. Even sex the first time was not bad, but there were no sparks. May be it was nervousness. 12 years later the sex is HAWT! Well it didn't take 12 years it may have taken 4-5 times. He is shy, soft spoken, and he was heavier at the time. He has been patient with me and was there for me in my time of need. I guess he kinda grew on me, but at the same time the physical attraction grew quickly because he was (and still is) such a prince charming. He calls me his queen constantly. Now don't get me wrong he is a Taurus and is no pushover, but when the bull comes out, and he is getting on my nerves I look into those big light brown eyes and I melt.
I think attraction is important. But if he is sweet and treats you right, give it time and prayer. Love and attraction CAN GROW. But after a while if there is just NOTHING...you may need to move on and let him treat some other woman as a queen. (something to think about IMO)...