BSL to a BOB for a sorority?!?!

[GoldenBreeze]

I'm a member of a sorority, and I pledged "old school" and did a lot of crazy things. My LS's and I worked together to come up with creative ways to complete tasks. Back then, I would have cut my hair, because I was not trying to grow it long and really didn't care much about length. I was cutting it often myself without being asked. If I had been wearing my hair long at the time and wanted it to remain that way, then there is no way that I would have cut it. Most times the challanges that are given to pledges are to see how well they think on their feet, not really to have them do the rediculous thing that is asked.

ETA: It is fun to watch them do nutty stuff though.

 

[TLC1020]

I'm a member of a sorority, and I pledged "old school" and did a lot of crazy things. My LS's and I worked together to come up with creative ways to complete tasks. Back then, I would have cut my hair, because I was not trying to grow it long and really didn't care much about length. I was cutting it often myself without being asked. If I had been wearing my hair long at the time and wanted it to remain that way, then there is no way that I would have cut it. Most times the challanges that are given to pledges are to see how well they think on their feet, not really to have them do the rediculous thing that is asked.

ETA: It is fun to watch them do nutty stuff though.

Bold is my sentiments exactly....
If your line is tight then you will be straight, book smarts alone won't save you.. You need to be able to think on your feet and fast.. My dean once said there will be unforseen circumstances in your life will you be able to rise to the occasion or will you let others think for you.... Say it Soror..

That hits home b/c as a black women you have to be on top of your game: your family, relationship, job, health .. everything

 

[bgsix]

I am a member of a greek organization and when I was online if the big sisters had asked me to cut my hair I probably would have done it. Back then I didn't take care of my hair (shoulder length) and whatever I did to it , my hair seemed to recover.

However, I do not think anybody should have to go thru that.

 

[chayil0427]

Well having never been a member of a sorority or having ever wanted to be I think this sound upsurd and it makes me wonder what the other member's hair (REAL HAIR) looks like.

Yet she's an adult and if she feels like sacrifising her hair is no big deal then more power to her. However, if she did it because she felt pressure to be excepted then she needs to analyze her priorities and the other member's motives.

Chayil

 

[curlcomplexity]

I probably would have tried to get a sew-in weaved bob. (Even though I don't really like weave) to trick them. My line was all about finding a way around things. Some times it worked out for us, sometimes it didn't.

That's so strange. My big sisters were so busy making sure we all got our hair done for our probate/neophyte show. They wanted our hair swinging!
I have heard of big sisters making people take their weave out or not wear make-up while they were online.

My big sisters were even on us all the time about how we looked on campus while we were online. They said it was so obvious who the Deltas were gonna be because we looked a HOT MESS. At one point we were not allowed to wear buns anymore. I guess each sorority and each chapter are different. I went to a small school and people were always trying to figure out who was online. Girls who used to keep themselves together who were now looking a mess and falling asleep in class were usually online. It was so obvious, but the campus rules were that it was supposed to be kept secret until the show.

ITA!!! I 've seen coming out shows where they do this. I do not feel that someone should have to cut or drastically change their hair against their will for a probate that's only going to last a couple of hours. I remember at a AKA show, this one girl got a dominican blowout for her probate, she was natural. I dunno what they did to her hair, but it never reverted back completely. She had to shave it all off!

 

[cmw45]

I probably would have tried to get a sew-in weaved bob. (Even though I don't really like weave) to trick them. My line was all about finding a way around things. Some times it worked out for us, sometimes it didn't.

That's so strange. My big sisters were so busy making sure we all got our hair done for our probate/neophyte show. They wanted our hair swinging!
I have heard of big sisters making people take their weave out or not wear make-up while they were online.

My big sisters were even on us all the time about how we looked on campus while we were online. They said it was so obvious who the Deltas were gonna be because we looked a HOT MESS. At one point we were not allowed to wear buns anymore. I guess each sorority and each chapter are different. I went to a small school and people were always trying to figure out who was online. Girls who used to keep themselves together who were now looking a mess and falling asleep in class were usually online. It was so obvious, but the campus rules were that it was supposed to be kept secret until the show.

OKAY!!!!!!!!!
OKAY!!!!!!!!!

This post was edited to add that Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. is a non-hazing organization.

 

[hOnii]

This post was edited to add that Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. is a non-hazing organization

lol, that doesn't seem to mean much nowadays...

But, yeah, thats pretty extreme! It wouldn't be me losing all that progress and hard work for those letters.

 

[babiolu]

OKAY!!!!!!!!!
OKAY!!!!!!!!!

This post was edited to add that Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. is a non-hazing organization.

Aren't we all....LOL

 

[ChocalateDiva]

Nope- Not the the A- Not for the K- and Not for the A!!! Hell naw.

 

[Dee-Licious]

I won't say which sorority in that it has no bearing on it. Each chapter of each org is different. But ummm... I do consider that as hazing

 

[BillsBackerz67]

I won't say which sorority in that it has no bearing on it. Each chapter of each org is different. But ummm... I do consider that as hazing

I do as well..especially if its emotionally devastating to the girl. Whats next plucking the girl's pubes one by one with a tweezer?erplexed

 

[Sasha Fierce]

I do as well..especially if its emotionally devastating to the girl. Whats next plucking the girl's pubes one by one with a tweezer?erplexed

Ouch.

 

[TLC1020]

Nope- Not the the A- Not for the K- and Not for the A!!! Hell naw.

I don't recall reading it was for the A to the K to the A!!
It really don't matter what organization or chapter she was in, if she didn't want to do it she didn't have to it that was the choice SHE made.. That org or chapter is not a representation of the BGLO as a whole, although some take things too far..

 

[LiberianGirl]

No

 

[LuvLiLocks]

Heck NO! My hair is where I draw the line. No one is going to tell me to do anything drastic with my hair. If I cut it, it's because I want to, not for a TV show or modeling or sorority or ANYTHING! I'd sew in a weave and cut that, but never my own stuff cause someone else wanted me too

 

[sareca]

Wow, that's really sad. Why did she need these people that bad and what else are they going to urge her do?

 

[blazingthru]

There was a Christian Sorority on my campus and it seemed like every body that was on line chopped all their hair and went natural when they crossed. When asked about it they had a bunch of BS excuses. I thought it was strange. IDK if I'd be able to do it. Maybe they just wanted to see how bad she wanted to join the sorority?

Hey I saw that here in philly at Temple University I thought it was a convention but evidently it was a sorority --ALL the girls had huge afros and other natural styles, all crossing the street at the same time. I almost hit someone trying to look at them. I wanted to pull over and ask them about it but I was on broad street and here in philly broad street is a very busy -travel area especially at temple U.

 

[bravenewgirl87]

I probably would have tried to get a sew-in weaved bob. (Even though I don't really like weave) to trick them. My line was all about finding a way around things. Some times it worked out for us, sometimes it didn't.

That's so strange. My big sisters were so busy making sure we all got our hair done for our probate/neophyte show. They wanted our hair swinging!
I have heard of big sisters making people take their weave out or not wear make-up while they were online.

My big sisters were even on us all the time about how we looked on campus while we were online. They said it was so obvious who the Deltas were gonna be because we looked a HOT MESS. At one point we were not allowed to wear buns anymore. I guess each sorority and each chapter are different. I went to a small school and people were always trying to figure out who was online. Girls who used to keep themselves together who were now looking a mess and falling asleep in class were usually online. It was so obvious, but the campus rules were that it was supposed to be kept secret until the show.

ITA! I don't really think these ladies would have been so unprofessional and risk the issue of "hazing" by requiring the line to cut their hair. They probably were looking to see who were the kiss-asses and fools and who was really going to be a leader in the sorority. Besides, its no different then what girls do to fit in at school, look like stars, or for a job. Certain jobs won't hire you with natural hair, and I have yet to see a big model with relaxed hair. I find this one to be the story of an overzealous pledge.

 

[gone_fishing]

Well not to offend in Sorors in here but (and I'll leave out the chapter), I have 3 sisters who are AKA's, I call them pinkies (they don't like that) and I have 1 sister who is a delta.

When i went to college they tried to force me into picking a sorority to join. At the time I had quite a few friends who were pledging and they were asked to do things to alter their appearance such as cut hair, not wear certain things, wear no make-up to social events (if they normally did), don't shave legs at social events but they'd want you to wear a skirt, etc.

As quiet as I know things were supposed to be, when I heard about this I thought it was ridiculous. It was emotional hazing. They asked women to do things that were demeaning (the AKA's) and I had a serious problem with that. Now, I've met AKA's from other chapters that were very nice. One of my nieces has since become an AKA and the other a Delta (they are sisters) at different colleges and they say it's wonderful. But I never would have joined the chapter I was close to because those women were stuck up and vicious. I have "sisters" - and a lot of them. If I have to go through all that just to prove myself screw em and that's exactly what I told my siblings. To this day they try to get me to pledge graduate status. They keep telling me something about being a legacy member. I'm like ok, let it go. I think it embarrasses them that they have a sibling who didn't pledge. erplexed

Also, I got into an argument with an AKA once when I told her why I didn't become one. This was a few years ago. She was really nice about it but continued to persistantly tell me how much more fulfilled my life would be as an AKA and that "many doors would be opened" as a result of my association. And I'm thinking opened to where? I was almost willing to listen to her but later that night when she went out partying she apparently been drinking or something and called me on my cell phone telling me what a bytch I was from talking about the AKA's and how they rule the black community and support the black community and I mean it she was serious. I kept hanging up on her and she kept calling me back. She was from some chapter in Virginia. erplexed

The next day she called to apologize but I didn't answer my phone. She left one message that started off in a winey voice - I'm sorry for what I said last night and then she'd call again and everytime I didn't answer she'd get progressively abusive with her language until she ended up calling me a bytch again for not answering my phone!

So I know all AKA's aren't like that but my experiences with sororities are not pleasant so I will never join one as a grad - legacy or not and I tell my mother, and my great aunt who graduated from Spelman (she's almost 70 now) and they get preachy but i don't care.

But, I was married at the time soooooooooooooooooo wasn't really worried about finding a group to accept me.

Spare me all the parks that come with being a soror (not meaning to be offensive) but I work in white corporate america and they don't care what historically black sorority you came from.

 

[justNikki]

I definitely would have to say NO. But I personally don't have a good taste in my mouth when it comes to greek orgs. On the otherhand it is "just hair" and it will grow back...hopefully.

One of my good friends had a sister who pledged and they put peanut butter, eggs, ketchup, etc in her hair and she couldn't get the peanut butter out so she had to cut her wasitlengh hair to APL, it's never really gotten back to where it was.

That's weird. Peanut butter is what's used to remove gum from hair. Peanut butter DOES come out.

 

[Dee-Licious]

^^^^ depends on how long they let that gunk sit in her hair. I doubt it was for a few minutes.

To the OP: before taking care of my hair now

your and is

 

[ClassicBeauty]

OKAY!!!!!!!!!
OKAY!!!!!!!!!

This post was edited to add that Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. is a non-hazing organization.

Thanks for adding that.
But for the record, I didn't say I was hazed, I was just trying to show that we were busy and tired and didn't have time to worry about our hair. Our big sisters thought that was unacceptable. I'm actually glad they were that way because there were many times after we crossed that we were just as busy with school, Delta, etc, and we still had to represent ourselves and our sorority well. It's all about learning and growing.

 

[Creatividual]

unless they held a gun to her head, nobody forced her to do anything sometimes people will ask you to do crazy things when you're on line, but it's up to you to decide if you'll do it or not...just 'doing' without thinking is often what gets a lotta people in trouble when it comes to pledging...you often have to look a certain way when you're on line, but my front has BSL hair, and my pros would NEVER dream of asking her to cut her hair just so it could be like the rest of ours...if they did and she dropped, i could totally understand that!

if you take this out of the sorority context, this could just be a case of pure hair hate...i mean, how many times have we run into jealous stylists who CHOP instead of trim? how many times have we heard of jealous little girls 'accidentally' cutting our daughter/sister/niece's long hair in school? it seems to me that if this girl (and others) with long hair have to cut their hair to get in this particular chapter, then they're walking into a chapter of girls who are using their sorority status (and the long-haired girl's 'need' to belong) to simply make them feel better about themselves and their poor hair habits...

ITA. It is NOT that serious. I did some crazy things on line but my line was never made to cut our hair. I think that's some female jealousy going on. You should not have to sacrafice all that to be in a community service based organization. I love my sorority and I understand that it's just hair that will grow back but it's not that serious.

 

[Neroli]

Well not to offend in Sorors in here but (and I'll leave out the chapter), I have 3 sisters who are AKA's, I call them pinkies (they don't like that) and I have 1 sister who is a delta.

When i went to college they tried to force me into picking a sorority to join. At the time I had quite a few friends who were pledging and they were asked to do things to alter their appearance such as cut hair, not wear certain things, wear no make-up to social events (if they normally did), don't shave legs at social events but they'd want you to wear a skirt, etc.

As quiet as I know things were supposed to be, when I heard about this I thought it was ridiculous. It was emotional hazing. They asked women to do things that were demeaning (the AKA's) and I had a serious problem with that. Now, I've met AKA's from other chapters that were very nice. One of my nieces has since become an AKA and the other a Delta (they are sisters) at different colleges and they say it's wonderful. But I never would have joined the chapter I was close to because those women were stuck up and vicious. I have "sisters" - and a lot of them. If I have to go through all that just to prove myself screw em and that's exactly what I told my siblings. To this day they try to get me to pledge graduate status. They keep telling me something about being a legacy member. I'm like ok, let it go. I think it embarrasses them that they have a sibling who didn't pledge. erplexed

Also, I got into an argument with an AKA once when I told her why I didn't become one. This was a few years ago. She was really nice about it but continued to persistantly tell me how much more fulfilled my life would be as an AKA and that "many doors would be opened" as a result of my association. And I'm thinking opened to where? I was almost willing to listen to her but later that night when she went out partying she apparently been drinking or something and called me on my cell phone telling me what a bytch I was from talking about the AKA's and how they rule the black community and support the black community and I mean it she was serious. I kept hanging up on her and she kept calling me back. She was from some chapter in Virginia. erplexed

The next day she called to apologize but I didn't answer my phone. She left one message that started off in a winey voice - I'm sorry for what I said last night and then she'd call again and everytime I didn't answer she'd get progressively abusive with her language until she ended up calling me a bytch again for not answering my phone!

So I know all AKA's aren't like that but my experiences with sororities are not pleasant so I will never join one as a grad - legacy or not and I tell my mother, and my great aunt who graduated from Spelman (she's almost 70 now) and they get preachy but i don't care.

But, I was married at the time soooooooooooooooooo wasn't really worried about finding a group to accept me.

Spare me all the parks that come with being a soror (not meaning to be offensive) but I work in white corporate america and they don't care what historically black sorority you came from.

Yep, Yep, Yep . . . .

Have family and my best girls all pledge, but me? naw . . . all the way thru lawschool, neva pledged cuz too much drama and trauma . . . .

 

[EMJazzy]

A.B.S.O.L.U.T.E.L.Y. NOT!!!

 

[~*~ShopAholic~*~]

NO I wouldn't and knowing me back in the day I would have told one of the BS to cut their's first, , I was always letting it be known "DON'T NOBODY RUN ME BUT ME!"

I also agree that they more than likely expected her and her LS to find another way of handling that situation and no one can make you do anything that you don't want to do.

 

[bludacious]

I am a sorority girl (Zeta) and I love my sorority but there is no way in hell I would cut my hair off for anybody! That is taking it wayyyyy to far! But I guess some pledges will do anything to belong to something. So Sad....

Z-Phi, Soror! I have to agree with you!

 

[Suerte]

What next? Getting tattoos on your face to show your dedication? All the girls who wanna be down gotta get a ring of fire tatted around their hairline or gotta get an eyebrow ring or some other body modification?

I find it real interesting that black sororities seem to have a little trend of having their girls cut their hair. It's almost like black women PREYING upon a common place of many feelings of inadequacy among black women. Especially young (under 21) women who are most often INTENSELY connected to their hair, clothing, physical appearance, etc. Would they ask the same of say, a woman who had overcame cancer and had JUST grew her hair back to cut it off to join them?

Greek orgs leave a bad taste in my mouth as well, seeminglysweet.

This just reinforces that whole image of the teenage girl mentality of who is cool and who is not cool and "You gotta run through ol' man Jefferson's house and touch the urn that holds his wife's body" to be down with us". And I bet that many times these girls *DO* feel forced.

Yes, no one put a gun to their head but sometimes I think that these little demonic orgies of power create an environment of force... cuz if you get so far into pledging and then decide NOT to follow through with their ridiculous requests and you step aside...those girls will surely make your 4 years on campus HELL and you will automatically be excluded from certain social circles and possibly miss out on opportunities associated with said sorority.

This just disgusts me and reminds me of those little stuck up wenches that we all knew in elementary school. The groups of insecure little wenches who'd go find other girls with just ONE MORE insecurity than they had themselves and prey upon it...and basically force them to go along with whatever they said for the promise of lots of fun and friends...and if they didn't go along with it, they'd be ostracized on the school yard.

I'm waiting for sororities and fraternities to insist that all their members participate in a murder or something to ensure secrecy.

Are sororities gonna start forcing their pledges to all be a uniform skin color, height, weight, eye color, hair color, language, faith, etc? What next?

This is why girls are being gang raped and ran over and drugged to death and drowning out in oceans and dying of dehydration, etc... all in the name of a sense of belonging.

The MS-13's orientations are more realistic than many sororities.

 

[Sha76]

With a request like that.> I am glad now that I did not pledge in college. Cutting your hair for uniformity. I agree , a sew in or a bob wig yes, but actually cutting your hair, No way.

 

[Evolving78]

I would never do it for anybody or anything, but for myself. You have to live with that and what if it doesn't look right? I can't stand Tyra. She is always cutting someone's hair and putting color in it. Then when it calls for them to have a longer style, she wants to throw a weave or wig on their head. Her own natural hair looks terrible.