AdeyemiTL
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[FONT="]I have been living nappily-ever-after since 2004. I have taken a few people along with me on my journey to embrace the hair that God has given me. It has been a beautiful experience and now that I have really been consistent and diligent about nurturing my hair and maintaining growth, it has been thoroughly rewarding. But I digress, this post is not about me and my journey, rather it is about the experience of me and my friends as we go through our natural hair journey and the Black men that we encounter along the way.[/FONT]
[FONT="]My girlfriend and I were talking on the phone today about a possible love interest in her life. She met him on her birthday in November, but things didn’t pick until a few weeks ago. They had been playing phone tag or were only able to speak sparingly until last night. Now my friend is pretty, brown and petite, with a face like a doll. She wears her hair in braid-outs and afro puffs. With me and my twin brother’s encouragement she stopped relaxing her hair three years ago. To complete the picture she is a graduate student in Africana studies and she loves all things Black, she really is my type of woman. [/FONT]
[FONT="]So she is talking with this possible love interest and every comment he makes shoves his foot further down his throat. He finally tells her that, “he appreciates black women that relax their hair.” He goes on to say that “most black women can’t pull off natural hair because they don’t have a ‘good’ texture.” After he realizes his faux pas, he backpedals by telling her that “she didn’t have to worry about that because she has the ‘right’ texture.” She remained conciliatory with him throughout the phone conversation and when they hung up she knew that was the last time that they would be conversing.[/FONT]
[FONT="]Now I am in no way saying that this mentality is the norm among black men, but I will say that it is prevalent amongst black men. There is something about the image of a black woman with straight preferably long locks that entices most brothers down to their very core. If we want to be honest, it entices most black people to their very core. The question that remains on my mind is, if we as a people cannot acknowledge our native beauty (characteristics common in people of African Descent) then who will? Furthermore isn’t ironic that people outside of our race acknowledge before we do?[/FONT]
[FONT="]My girlfriend and I were talking on the phone today about a possible love interest in her life. She met him on her birthday in November, but things didn’t pick until a few weeks ago. They had been playing phone tag or were only able to speak sparingly until last night. Now my friend is pretty, brown and petite, with a face like a doll. She wears her hair in braid-outs and afro puffs. With me and my twin brother’s encouragement she stopped relaxing her hair three years ago. To complete the picture she is a graduate student in Africana studies and she loves all things Black, she really is my type of woman. [/FONT]
[FONT="]So she is talking with this possible love interest and every comment he makes shoves his foot further down his throat. He finally tells her that, “he appreciates black women that relax their hair.” He goes on to say that “most black women can’t pull off natural hair because they don’t have a ‘good’ texture.” After he realizes his faux pas, he backpedals by telling her that “she didn’t have to worry about that because she has the ‘right’ texture.” She remained conciliatory with him throughout the phone conversation and when they hung up she knew that was the last time that they would be conversing.[/FONT]
[FONT="]Now I am in no way saying that this mentality is the norm among black men, but I will say that it is prevalent amongst black men. There is something about the image of a black woman with straight preferably long locks that entices most brothers down to their very core. If we want to be honest, it entices most black people to their very core. The question that remains on my mind is, if we as a people cannot acknowledge our native beauty (characteristics common in people of African Descent) then who will? Furthermore isn’t ironic that people outside of our race acknowledge before we do?[/FONT]