Trinity1
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Hey Ladies,
I've been dating this guy for about 3 months who was in the Military and stationed in my hometown..He told me when we first met that he was going to be released in September and returning back home to Atlanta...After he told me that I was totally turned off and told him I didnt see the point in spending too much time together because he is leaving and where is the future in that....Long story short he spent 5 hours on the phone with me trying to convince me that I shouldnt write him off because of that and I should stay open to see what can become of us....Moving forward....We continued spending time together and enjoyed one another immensely but I always told him that I had no interest in a long distance relationship.One night we were talking because I noticed I didnt hear from him that much on that particular week. When I called to see what was up,he basically said he was tired of hearing me say that there could not be a future with us because of the distance and he felt that he didnt want to let his feelings go and then get hurt....After a nice heartfelt talk,we continued to move forward.
Wouldnt you know that by the time he was getting ready to leave,I had changed my mind because I had developed feelings for him. We had "the talk" about the long distance thing and I revealed to him that I had changed my mind about a long distance relationship. He asked me why did I wait until the day before he is leaving to tell him that and I told him that I didnt know I would feel this way for him. Anyway there wasnt a commitment but we agreed that we would definitely keep in touch and see where/if things go anywhere.He has always said that if God showed him that I was the one that he would do what he had to do (sell his house in Atlanta) to be where I am.
My question is,he left last week and I know he has ALOT to do to get re-acclimated to being back home. My thing is that I dont want to be the first to call him...I feel like he left and before he left I told him what I was open to. If he is interested then he'll call me and follow through. Am I wrong for feeling that way? Does it matter who calls whom first?
Also if I didnt call him first and waited to see if he'd call me,how long is too long to wait? Ofcourse I would be getting on with my life regardless but I've never been in this type of situation before and would like my beautiful sisters to chime in on some advice
TeeTee2
I've been dating this guy for about 3 months who was in the Military and stationed in my hometown..He told me when we first met that he was going to be released in September and returning back home to Atlanta...After he told me that I was totally turned off and told him I didnt see the point in spending too much time together because he is leaving and where is the future in that....Long story short he spent 5 hours on the phone with me trying to convince me that I shouldnt write him off because of that and I should stay open to see what can become of us....Moving forward....We continued spending time together and enjoyed one another immensely but I always told him that I had no interest in a long distance relationship.One night we were talking because I noticed I didnt hear from him that much on that particular week. When I called to see what was up,he basically said he was tired of hearing me say that there could not be a future with us because of the distance and he felt that he didnt want to let his feelings go and then get hurt....After a nice heartfelt talk,we continued to move forward.
Wouldnt you know that by the time he was getting ready to leave,I had changed my mind because I had developed feelings for him. We had "the talk" about the long distance thing and I revealed to him that I had changed my mind about a long distance relationship. He asked me why did I wait until the day before he is leaving to tell him that and I told him that I didnt know I would feel this way for him. Anyway there wasnt a commitment but we agreed that we would definitely keep in touch and see where/if things go anywhere.He has always said that if God showed him that I was the one that he would do what he had to do (sell his house in Atlanta) to be where I am.
My question is,he left last week and I know he has ALOT to do to get re-acclimated to being back home. My thing is that I dont want to be the first to call him...I feel like he left and before he left I told him what I was open to. If he is interested then he'll call me and follow through. Am I wrong for feeling that way? Does it matter who calls whom first?
Also if I didnt call him first and waited to see if he'd call me,how long is too long to wait? Ofcourse I would be getting on with my life regardless but I've never been in this type of situation before and would like my beautiful sisters to chime in on some advice
TeeTee2
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