BC at 18

[skyborn09]

Hi Ladies, I feel so weird right now. I'm between crying and being happy about my hair. I was suppose to transition 2 yrs but I ended up only doing 10 months. I was so terrified when I went to school today because I didn't know how other people would react. Just to let u guys know I'm a senior in High School. My friends liked the new look but the boys at my school didn't, but they're not cute anyway lol. But the thing that got me the most is how my mom reacted, she hates it and told me I look horrible. She told me I'm such a beautiful girl and why in the world would I do something like that, people who do something like that hate themselves so they sabotage their looks. Then she asked if anythings wrong and I need to sit down to talk about whats going on. I hate the fact she thinks I'm crazy so I got up and left and told her I didn't wanna talk abt it. Here's some pics of my hair.

If there's any naturals out there with my texture, PLease let me kno so I can get a picture of what my hair will look like once it gets more length.

 

[janet]

First of all congratulations on your BC! You and your hair are beautiful! I love your curls! I'm not good with the hair typing thing but you look like a 3c to me. Maybe 3c/4a.....not sure.

Just give your mom and everyone else time to adjust to your hair. They Will because it is sooo pretty! Hang in there and hold your head up! Let people see the confidence that you have with your pretty curly hair!

 

[rsmith]

I am sorry people are not reacting to the new you. I am sorry your Mom feels that way. She will change hair mind once she sees your progress. It was a dramatic change. So people will have to get use it. Your hair will grow back.

 

[mscocoface]

I can't see your pictures and I see a little of your hair in your siggy. Not sure if you are exactly like mine but you can check out my fotki for pictures.

Mwedzi, Sera252 the have fotki's also. Once you get to my fotki you can link to other ladies fotkis on my site.

Hang in there. We have always had such a strong emotion with our hair, I am sure that it is something in your Mom that is coming up about having short hair. Help her to understand what you are doing and even if she doesn't do your best to stay respectful and just agree to disagree.

In time she will come around or at least when your hair is longer in it's natural state she will see it's natural wonder for all that it is.

Hold on and always know you can come here to get words of encouragement.

 

[menzieto]

Your hair is gorgeous!! Don't let your mom's feelings deter you. It will soon grow and she will learn to understand why you made the decision to cut it off. I feel for those that don't have the support of their parents. My mom is natural and always have been. So I always have her support.

 

[smwrigh3]

I am not the one to go around hair typing so I can't help u there! But I think that you are beautiful and i can't even see your face! you are amazing and it takes alot of courage to cut your hair off.. esp in high school! Let your friends and your 'cousins' be your support system! If it will help show your mom this site and even wat your hair is going to look like in the future. Tell her that you are her child and whether you hair is down yo back or a twa she has to except YOUR decision. There is nothing wrong with rocking your natural hair!

 

[SW2011]

The picture in your siggy is very cute!

 

[Libra08]

I've been natural all my life, but only started to wear my hair in its natural state until about 2 1/2 hears ago. My mom pretty much flipped out the same way yours did, but now that it has grown and has gotten MUCH thicker she can't keep her hands out of it and is always complimenting my hair and wishing she could be natural again. I believe the reason why my mom flipped out so much was because she said she had to work hard when I was younger for my hair to grow because I was bald and she didn't want me to ruin all of her hard work . Just give it time, and when she sees how healthy its growing I'm sure she'll come around

 

[tonia682]

I am 40 stiil debating about going natural.... I think you have to be secure in yourself to do go natural at such a young age. Keep ya head up. Your curls are pretty and I am sure that they are flattering on your face. At 40 I can tell you two things. 1) Boys/Men don't know WHAT they like. You make sure that you stay true to yourself and they WILL begin to see the the reflection of your beauty. As for your mom she will come around. i can remember tiffs my mom and I had about the way I dressed...etc. This too will pass...

 

[DanaDane]

I'm sorry you didn't get more support IRL--the pic in your siggy is beautiful. I am so impressed that you are so young and taking control of your hair!

 

[lusciousladie07]

Sweetheart.. ur hair is beautiful.. just visited your fotki. Don't let anyone one else bring down your self confidence. Boy at school are just that.. boys. They think what they see on t.v. is normal...just wait till they graduate and meet real women.. they are going to be so sour! lol. And your mother.. she probably buys into hype too. Just be patient (but respectful) with her and let her rant.. When (and not if) your hair grow long and healthy in its natural state, her comments will change. If you feel comfortable, bring her to lhcf and show her some pics and fotkis of naturals...But any case...YOU ARE GORGEOUS WITH YOUR TWA...LEAN WITH IT...ROCK WITH IT!!

 

[DozenRoses99]

Congrats on your BC! You and your hair are beautiful! As long as you like your hair that is all that matters. I know that is easier said than done. Hopefully, they will adjust to the 'new you' soon. However, if they don't, that is ok. You can't please everyone whether you are natural, relaxed, short, long, colored-haired, no hair color, etc....

 

[TheQueenBeeMaya]

girl, your hair is GORGEOUS ! i've never had a twa because i've been natural all my life, but trust me, i would rock one ! i'm a 3c as well, here are some pictures of my hair....

<a href="http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v228/11centz/?action=view&current=myhair3.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v228/11centz/myhair3.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket"></a>

<a href="http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v228/11centz/?action=view&current=myhair2.jpg" target="_blank"><img src="http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v228/11centz/myhair2.jpg" border="0" alt="Photobucket"></a>

 

[TheQueenBeeMaya]

my links didn't work, let me try this again...

sorry they are so big

 

[Kay.Dee]

Sweetheart.. ur hair is beautiful.. just visited your fotki. Don't let anyone one else bring down your self confidence. Boy at school are just that.. boys. They think what they see on t.v. is normal...just wait till they graduate and meet real women.. they are going to be so sour! lol. And your mother.. she probably buys into hype too. Just be patient (but respectful) with her and let her rant.. When (and not if) your hair grow long and healthy in its natural state, her comments will change. If you feel comfortable, bring her to lhcf and show her some pics and fotkis of naturals...But any case...YOU ARE GORGEOUS WITH YOUR TWA...LEAN WITH IT...ROCK WITH IT!!

Exactly
I know I wouldn't have had enough confidence to BC while in high school, I couldn't even do it as a fresh. in college.
I think you already have a lot more confidence than most people. Don't listen to any negative comments that anyone feels the need to share concerning your hair. It's yours and as long as you like it, who else cares? I know it's hard since it's your mom but at then end of the day it's your hair. But like luscious ladie says, still be respectful because she is your mom
And as far as the men folk . If women based their looks around what most men wanted, no telling what we'd all look like!

You and your hair look gorgeous, congratulations!

 

[chosen07]

congratulations! I just bc'ed and it was quite the experience for me and I've got you by 10 years. so the inner strength that it took for you to do this is commendable! take the positive and let the negative flow past you--that's literally what I have had to do in the past 2 months. your hair will grow! its already gorgeous from the pic in your siggy so you only have 'up' to go. good luck with your new natural journey! and as hard as it is...shake this off and let your confidence and inner beauty speak for you!

 

[vainღ♥♡jane]

congrats on your bc. don't worry so much about others, you'll get used to your hair quickly. you'll grow to love it. natural hair is awesome =] nappturality.com can be a great help with the mental transition. you should really take a look over there. everything will be fine.

 

[ClassicChic]

Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!

You are beautiful and so is your hair!!!!!!!!

 

[cutiebe2]

I also cut my hair my senior year of HS (I was already natural but it was badly damaged). You can PM me if you want

The one thing that kept me going is that I wanted my hair to look great in college..so I didn't want to fall into old habits. I did C&G method all that year which helped a lot

 

[tatambabyy]

oh my goodness! im 18 too and I just bc'ed also. I didnt transition for barely a month, so imagine how much hair I have on my head! Girl, you will be fine. I am a freshman in college so people are a bit more mature. But I cant imagine BC'in in highschool, people were extrememly immature in my highschool. But I completely understand how you feel. A few of my guy friends asked me "Is something wrong in your life?" "There has to be a problem, are you okay?" I simply told them, maybe I just wanted to cut my hair! Some will understand, and others won't. You are doing this for yourself, not for anyone else. you won't regret it!

 

[SmartyPants]

I just went to your fotki (your pics aren't showing up for me).

Beautiful hair on a beautiful girl.

 

[brucebettye]

I went to your fotki and I love your hair and it looks so thick. I am not natural but I am texlaxed and I got alot of negative comments and looks when I first started to wear my own hair and I am over 30 years old. But I feel beautiful with my hair and since it has grown out I get complements on my hair and alot of men seem to pay more attention to me now than with my straight hair. So don't worry about what other people think. If you feel that your are beautiful with your hair other people will too!!!!!! And since your are starting out so young before you know it your hair will be the same length it was when you were relaxed. I wish I started this hair care journey at 18 instead of in my thirties!!!!!!!

 

[emo]

Your natural hair is beautiful!
Congratulations on the BC, and going natural!

 

[RavenMaven]

No worries. I'm a junior in high school and I did a BC. It worked out the opposite. The guys loved it, girls hated it (haterssss!!) lol. But you will love it.

 

[Odontyouwish]

Girl, I went through exact same thing: Senior in High School, I kinda had a "name" at my school as the most cute girl/the girl all the guys wanted so of course girls HATED me , and my mom is anti-nappy hair. So when I did my bc after 10 months, like you did, I had earlength hair when pressed and EVERYBODY had a doggone comment. But, it's all good because my hair has grown back and surpassed theirs and it hasn't even been 3 years. Now they are calling me for tips