Basic Mistakes to avoid for Late Boomers?

MarriageMaterial said:
@cutiebe2 theatres (wicked, etc), dinner/movies on thursdays (sit at bar), sit in a coffee shop on a saturday morning (just an 1 hour) men are rushing in for their coffee, etc.
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This sounds doable. I realize that I need to get out of the house more. I'm one of those people who can be cooped up in the house for 48 hours straight (if I'm off and school is out). Kinda hard to meet other humans that way.

I'm going to be more consistent with going to the Museum of Fine Arts on free days. I just love being among those old and cool things; I go home feeling cultured :lachen:... meeting people in that setting would just be icing on the cake.
 
@GraceV yeah and IME, people would automatically talk to me. When I'm alone, I'm trying to meet more people (and get numbers) so I have a variety of friends to hang out with.

GraceV said:
This sounds doable. I realize that I need to get out of the house more. I'm one of those people who can be cooped up in the house for 48 hours straight (if I'm off and school is out). Kinda hard to meet other humans that way.

I'm going to be more consistent with going to the Museum of Fine Arts on free days. I just love being among those old and cool things; I go home feeling cultured :lachen:... meeting people in that setting would just be icing on the cake.
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BeautifulFlower said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=af5J03FtSps&feature=player_embedded#at=99
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I think the video is cute, and I get what she's getting at: basically don't be needy, catering to his needs at all times, and don't be too available: with yourself, your thoughts, and with your time. Sounds fair.

What caught my attention though is a comment left by some guy:

This was an interesting video and it was a unique perspective. From a man's point of view, I think the best thing a woman can do to increase her value is to dress and act more feminine. Men don't want to see their woman in pants. They want her in dresses and skirts. A woman who is comfortable wearing them regularly increases her value tremendously in my book.

Do you all think his comment is valid? If so, that might be one more advice for the late bloomers as far as presentation is concerned.

I've noticed that when I wear dresses vs pants I get way more compliments from men and women. I also tend to get more 'help.' Here's an example: On my way back from church yesterday (knee length grey dress, black heels, pink pearls, hair loose-side pony tail) I stopped by the store to pick up ingredients for some cookies. After putting my items on the check-out conveyor belt thingie, this gentleman (also a customer) reached to pick up my basket and return it to where they were stacked. I could easily have done it myself since it wasn't too far but I appreciate it for what is what-- a kind gesture. I practically live in that store. This NEVER happens when I'm dressed my usual way. Even in church people are more generous with the compliments. And random men seem more flirtatious but in a more respectable way. Dunno.
 
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^^^^This is soooo true. Men love to see women in dresses that are feminine and classy. I am an addict for dresses in the summer time.
 
GraceV said:
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What caught my attention though is a comment left by some guy:

This was an interesting video and it was a unique perspective. From a man's point of view, I think the best thing a woman can do to increase her value is to dress and act more feminine. Men don't want to see their woman in pants. They want her in dresses and skirts. A woman who is comfortable wearing them regularly increases her value tremendously in my book.

Do you all think his comment is valid? If so, that might be one more advice for the late bloomers as far as presentation is concerned.

I've noticed that when I wear dresses vs pants I get way more compliments from men and women. I also tend to get more 'help.' Here's an example: On my way back from church yesterday (knee length grey dress, black heels, pink pearls, hair loose-side pony tail) I stopped by the store to pick up ingredients for some cookies. After putting my items on the check-out conveyor belt thingie, this gentleman (also a customer) reached to pick up my basket and return it to where they were stacked. I could easily have done it myself since it wasn't too far but I appreciate it for what is what-- a kind gesture. I practically live in that store. This NEVER happens when I'm dressed my usual way. Even in church people are more generous with the compliments. And random men seem more flirtatious but in a more respectable way. Dunno.
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I have never even given this much thought!! I'll be experimenting this weekend to test this theory!!!
 
Im 21... havent really been out there dating much...or having many guy friends...but Ive learnt that sometimes its best to act as dumb as a door post. LOL... I do this to make men just come out and say what they have to say.... clearly.... where there would be no 'misunderstandings' or 'misinterpretations'. This helps with not overanalysing stuff... if he is into me, wants to go out with me, be exclusive then he better come right out and say is as plain as day cuz im not biting those hints/clues they like to drop.
 
I am guessing you mean late bloomer?

I have late bloomed in several areas and I am looking forward to the comments.
 
renren said:
Im 21... havent really been out there dating much...or having many guy friends...but Ive learnt that sometimes its best to act as dumb as a door post. LOL... I do this to make men just come out and say what they have to say.... clearly.... where there would be no 'misunderstandings' or 'misinterpretations'. This helps with not overanalysing stuff... if he is into me, wants to go out with me, be exclusive then he better come right out and say is as plain as day cuz im not biting those hints/clues they like to drop.
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Now this is a true statement. Men generally, leave hints about what they want. I learned to pretend that I have no idea what they are trying to ask me, so I can be certain that we are on the same page.

But I respect a man more, if he say what he means and means what he say. If you want me to be your girl, than just ask!
 
renren said:
Im 21... havent really been out there dating much...or having many guy friends...but Ive learnt that sometimes its best to act as dumb as a door post. LOL... I do this to make men just come out and say what they have to say.... clearly.... where there would be no 'misunderstandings' or 'misinterpretations'. This helps with not overanalysing stuff... if he is into me, wants to go out with me, be exclusive then he better come right out and say is as plain as day cuz im not biting those hints/clues they like to drop.
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I like this method a lot. Last year I was talking to a guy who dropped hints. Never said anything and when I called him on it he got dumb.:rolleyes: Next time I'm not over analyzing anything. I just won't think anything until they say something. This is one reason we shouldn't get hung up on just one guy.
 
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