My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for a little over two years now. I had a miscarriage last summer and while we were devastated, we hoped that maybe my body finally figured out what to do and that it would happen for us again quickly. Well, here we are nearing the one year anniversary of when we lost the baby and still nothing. Its really been getting me down lately. I was looking at some of the things I’d written in the past three months in a journal that I keep and I got depressed just reading it. I realized just how sad and discouraged I am about this. I desire with all my heart to have a baby with my husband, but sometimes I feel like it will never happen for me. I have prayed for one of my friends who had similar issues trying to get pregnant and now she is finally pregnant. It seems like I can get a prayer through when I am praying for someone else, but when I need to pray for myself I feel like God isn’t hearing me. I rarely have peace about the situation anymore. I had peace this morning and I was praising God throughout the morning, but this afternoon I can hardly fight back the tears. Any encouraging words out there?
Barren?
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Blossssom
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mrselle said:
Have you talked to your doctor about it? Hopefully, the miscarriage didn't do any permanent damage.
If you cannot conceive, please don't despair. Adoption is also an option.
Good luck to you and try not to stress. That could also be why you haven't conceived yet.
PretteePlease
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how much do you weigh? are you stressed are you too busy? are you taking supplements? has your sps had his fertility checked? somtimes when you do all of that then stop trying it happens. keep the faith if you are ment to have a baby you will. if you do get preggers you should immediately take it easy no heavy lifting etc.
To answer the questions...
I miscarried naturally (did not need a D&C or any medications) and was examined one month later and everything was fine. I see my doctor, who is also an infertility specialist, and all my examinations and bloodwork check out just fine. He feels confident that since I got pregnant before I will get pregnant again. My weight is fine, but I have been stressed and I am quite busy. I am working full time and working on my second degree. Things should calm down this summer, so we'll see what the summer brings.
I miscarried naturally (did not need a D&C or any medications) and was examined one month later and everything was fine. I see my doctor, who is also an infertility specialist, and all my examinations and bloodwork check out just fine. He feels confident that since I got pregnant before I will get pregnant again. My weight is fine, but I have been stressed and I am quite busy. I am working full time and working on my second degree. Things should calm down this summer, so we'll see what the summer brings.
PretteePlease
#fakeworkouts
i think good things will happen this summer when things are less stressful.
are you too busy to eat? sometimes being under nourished doesnt help the process.
i'll be praying for your situation.
are you too busy to eat? sometimes being under nourished doesnt help the process.
i'll be praying for your situation.
pebbles
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mrselle said:
You are not alone. My sister, after having tried for years, finally got pregnant last August, only to miscarry after a few weeks. It was devastating. She's still trying. Aside from taking care of your health and trying not to be stressed, in prayer rebuke the spirit of barreness, in Jesus' name. Lay hands over your womb and speak healing and life to yourself. I pray in agreement with you that healing be loosed over you and that children be born unto you and your husband. Remember, we have the authority to speak those things that be not as though they were. With God, all things are possible. Trust and believe. Be blessed!
teenie
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pebbles said:in prayer rebuke the spirit of barreness, in Jesus' name. Lay hands over your womb and speak healing and life to yourself. I pray in agreement with you that healing be loosed over you and that children be born unto you and your husband. Remember, we have the authority to speak those things that be not as though they were. With God, all things are possible. Trust and believe. Be blessed!
Thats right! Remember the power of prayer!
I was in your same situation, my husband and I tried for years to conceive I eventually did get pregnant after about a year of going to the fertility clinic but it was a tubal pregnancy, so I understand your pain...then I got pregnant again and when that baby was only 4 months old I got pregnant again....So beware that once God opens up that womb (and I know he will) you might be praying for him to close it back up, ha ha
Just keep this before the Lord
redeemed516
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God is still able. His arm is not shortened in any way by this. God does things in his time not ours. We have to trust that He is working everything out and even if we don't get what we asked for or it isn't in our time we have to be able to say "It is well with my soul" and continue to trust that God is working it out. I have a little boy (17 months) but since I had him I have miscarried twice. I do want more kids and this was very hard on my husband, but we both know that only God knew/knows what was ahead for us. Just trust that God has everything under control. Keep a song too. A song/music is one of the best ways to quickly restore some joy. Be joyful in knowing that God is hearing your prayers (for yourself and for other). You know that because he answers them. Be joyful in knowing that BECAUSE HE LIVES you CAN face tomorrow and the next and the next. (Hey, that's a good song to keep too BECAUSE HE LIVES) Remember the effectual, fervent prayer of the righteous availeth much. KEEP PRAYING AND TRUSTING AND SINGING. PRAISE GOD ANYHOW. your victory, deliverence, healing, power, strength is in your PRAISE!!
pebbles said:You are not alone. My sister, after having tried for years, finally got pregnant last August, only to miscarry after a few weeks. It was devastating. She's still trying. Aside from taking care of your health and trying not to be stressed, in prayer rebuke the spirit of barreness, in Jesus' name. Lay hands over your womb and speak healing and life to yourself. I pray in agreement with you that healing be loosed over you and that children be born unto you and your husband. Remember, we have the authority to speak those things that be not as though they were. With God, all things are possible. Trust and believe. Be blessed!
ITA! I took birth control the first year my husband and I were married... I wasn't actually thinking about getting pregnant or having kids! Actually, I didn't want any kids. We were married in 1998. In 1999 after graduating college, I stopped taking the birth control pills. In April 2002, I was blessed with a 1lb 9oz beautiful baby girl. I got pregnant again before my she turned one! I was blessed with my second daughter, who was born very prematurely as well, but she only lived 12 days. I felt like a part of me died with her, but one day at a worship service God gave me a garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness that I had over the loss of little Charity! I got pregnant again before a year was up, I became pregant again, and in August 2004, I was blessed with another girl, who is now 7 months old. Hold on! I believe that God has a little bundle of joy just for you!
Continue to give Him all the praise through the good times and the bad times.Ladies,
Thank you so much!!!! I was having a bad day yesterday, but today I feel encouraged and my faith is coming back. God is always in the blessing business. He never takes a day off and I believe that He is steadily working behind the scene so when the time comes I will know that it was Him. It WILL happen in God’s time.
Thank you so much!!!! I was having a bad day yesterday, but today I feel encouraged and my faith is coming back. God is always in the blessing business. He never takes a day off and I believe that He is steadily working behind the scene so when the time comes I will know that it was Him. It WILL happen in God’s time.
JuJuBoo
Child of THE King!
mrselle said:
YES! Be encouraged!! Don't you know NOTHING is impossible with God? REJOICE! The Scripture says "Look at the sparrow. It does not sow or reap yet God provides for them. How much more important are you?" God knows what you're going through, he knows your wants, your desires--Just know that when God does things in HIS timing, it's always BEAUTIFUL, and PERFECT, and you'd wish it NO other way! So rejoice, because God has something great for you and your husband! When we stay faithful, He blesses us BEYOND our sorrows, so stay encouraged and know that God won't simply provide for you-He'll also BLESS!!!
aquarian1252004
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mrselle said:
That is so not true about you being able to get a break through in prayer with someone else and not yourself. That is not how God opperates. I would suggest first that you read and meditate on the story of Sarah and Abraham (Genesis 15-21). Sarah was old and barren, but God had promised both of them a son. They both doubted God's promise and Sarah even convinced her husband to sleep with his maid because she did not believe that she could conceive herself. But she eventually bore Issac, just as God had promised. I suggest that you and your husband fast corporately on the subject to really seek the face of God. Pray for His guidence, His understanding, His will, His purpose and plan for your marriage ministry. When Abraham told Sarah that God had promised them a son, she laughed because she couldn't beleive it. . . but nothing is impossible or too hard for God. Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart. The bible says that there is the power of life and death in the tougue. You have the ability to SPEAK to your situation. Speak life, speak prosperity, but don't negatate it with a lack of faith. I SPEAK IN THE NAME OF JESUS THAT YOU WILL CONCEIVE IN A YEAR. Amen.
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missyT
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Well, I don't believe that you are not meant to have children of your own. Adoption is a great thing, don't get me wrong. You will get pregnant, just keep trusting in GOD, He knows all things, even when you are going to give birth to your own children.
The bible says that there is a time for everything and your season of fertility is coming.
We also believe that the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but of the spirit, so we're not believing in the report of a doctor although doctors are great but the Lord God is our healer and all good things come from Him.
I will keep you in my prayers and remember those children are on their way. You are not barren, that is not your portion.
The bible says that there is a time for everything and your season of fertility is coming.
We also believe that the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but of the spirit, so we're not believing in the report of a doctor although doctors are great but the Lord God is our healer and all good things come from Him.
I will keep you in my prayers and remember those children are on their way. You are not barren, that is not your portion.
missyT - I just finished reading your testimony and thought it was awesome and then I continue to scroll down and see that a new post is on the thread I started and it is from you!!!
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and your prayers. I have been feeling a lot better about things and I just know that I know that I know that I know that everything will work out. Isn't it awesome when God gives you that kind of assurance?
Thank you so much for your words of encouragement and your prayers. I have been feeling a lot better about things and I just know that I know that I know that I know that everything will work out. Isn't it awesome when God gives you that kind of assurance?
