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Awww come on lets finish the discussion! It was civil!
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antisocial
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Since when does it matter that it was civil 
msa
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OP did request it to be closed.
basically what she said was "people in the thread about the surgery to change eye color said that relaxing was the same as plastic surgery, skin bleaching etc. Do you think relaxing is a drastic alteration or just a style chioce?"
msa
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What other "hairstyles" require you to cut your hair off in order to change the style?
antisocial
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dreads
You can actually comb out locs if you want to, but I see your point.
Don't fall for the okie doke ladies...people start threads like this knowing the outcome...please check your dates
She was just continuing another thread that was started earlier.
heyfranz
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Style choice. Just like coloring. I switch back and forth between natural and relaxed. I just relaxed last April and i will bc again at some point. I've done it twice. It's just my nature. Right now i've hennaed to cover a few grays and add thickness to my strands. At some point i'm sure i will happily be all gray. Just depends on how i feel at a particular moment in my life.
msa
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you didn't see the locked thread? (that was started by someone else)...and we really were in the middle of a discussion...I guess I don't see this as trollish behavior.
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dreads
I agree.
Also if you want to go from long hair to short, you have to cut your hair.
Does anyone here think a hair cut is a body alteration?
msa
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What about them? Transitioners are neither exempt from self-hate or self-love, if those are the terms people want to use. There are numerous threads about people transitioning only because their hair or scalp couldn't handle relaxers. And there are people who are transitioning just to be a straight natural. There are transitioners who straighten their new growth every single week, never even giving their natural texture a chance. Then there are transitioners who actually love their natural hair.
And from what I've seen, people stretch in order to make it easier for them to relax the next time and to give their relaxed hair a break from chemicals. In fact, is the stretchers who seem to make the most disparaging comments about natural hair.
antisocial
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msa
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Exactly. I don't get where that keeps coming from. As I said in the other thread people who relax don't automatically hate themselves just like people who are natural don't automatically love themselves.
Kirei
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If you dont want to discuss then don't. I liked that particular discussion so I continued it. Period end of story.
I never understood straight hair naturals either. I don't get it.
That would be a good spinoff topic: Why do naturals straighten?
You'll find that there is no one reason why some choose to straighten.
msa
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why you delete that?
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Tyra
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I have transitioned 3 different times.
I didn't enjoy the extreme tenderness of my scalp.
I don't know if other women with natural hair have experienced this but I did and it was not fun.
I looooooved my natural hair it was really pretty. But the tenderness and the not being able to take care fo 4 and 5 inches of ng without tangling and damaging my hair was just too much.
I didn't know about LHCF or any other hair boards when I was doing this.
Yes now I know and I could probaly go natural again if I wanted to with much more ease but I figure at this stage why rock the boat?
I don't feel like my relaxed hair is any more beautiful than my natural hair. Honestly. But I don't want to go through it again. I couldn't let anyone put a comb to it without wanting to break someone's neck.
I love me ladies. Really I do.
Like I said in the "other" thread call me lazy or whatever but that's as bad as it gets.
It had nothing to do with self-image.
I didn't enjoy the extreme tenderness of my scalp.
I don't know if other women with natural hair have experienced this but I did and it was not fun.
I looooooved my natural hair it was really pretty. But the tenderness and the not being able to take care fo 4 and 5 inches of ng without tangling and damaging my hair was just too much.
I didn't know about LHCF or any other hair boards when I was doing this.
Yes now I know and I could probaly go natural again if I wanted to with much more ease but I figure at this stage why rock the boat?
I don't feel like my relaxed hair is any more beautiful than my natural hair. Honestly. But I don't want to go through it again. I couldn't let anyone put a comb to it without wanting to break someone's neck.
I love me ladies. Really I do.
Like I said in the "other" thread call me lazy or whatever but that's as bad as it gets.
It had nothing to do with self-image.
Summer_Rain
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Considering that I was involuntarily relaxed at 8yrs old before I was old enough to know what self-hate (in whatever form) was - I can only say that I continue to relax out of habit. I could possibly LOVE the hair that grows naturally out of my scalp, but I don't have the patience or the resources to go through the process of finding out. And because finding out isn't that important to me - I just continue to do what has been done to me for the past 23 years....relax my new growth every 8-12 weeks.
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