Awkward ex 'How are you doing' texts...

Every year the ex from two relationships ago contacts me right before his birthday. Oh, we need to keep in touch and hang out.... blah..blah...blah. Sure enough, I look at the calendar and his birthday is two weeks away. Do women just take men out for their birthdays who are not their men? And who they haven't heard from since who knows when? I don't, so why does he keep calling before his birthday?? Maybe he thinks I'll bake him a cake??? Fat chance!!
 
ms.mimi said:
I call it fishing. Just throwing out lines to see who'll bite, if you still care, are you miserable without him, has your number changed, do you have a man yet, can he still hit it, etc.....One of my single friends hates fishing so much she unfriends and blocks ex's on all forms of social medua and uses Mr. Number to block all texts and calls (even if the breakup was civil or her idea). Lol
Click to expand...

I like your friend. I do the same thing. I even changed my number. He did find a loop hole though. On reddit. Kind of ticked me off. He wanted me to unblock him on Facebook so we could catch up. Hell no

Sent from my iPhone 5 using LHCF
 
I have an ex who for the past few years has texted every TDay and New Year's. I text back and it stops there. He is the ONLY one I would respond to because neither of us are interested in going back down that road again and I know he isn't doing it to play with my feelings.


We were friends before dating.


The rest can kiss it
 
I usually respond, "I'm doing better than ever. Thanks for asking. Tell your mom that I said hello."

That works for me, I'm friendly with all of my exes, but the creeps and weirdos in between get ignored. I can't block anyone on my phone. I have ATT and I don't even see an option online.
 
RUBY said:
What is cuffing season?
Click to expand...

nestingeseasonp.png
 
1QTPie said:
I usually respond, "I'm doing better than ever. Thanks for asking. Tell your mom that I said hello."

That works for me, I'm friendly with all of my exes, but the creeps and weirdos in between get ignored. I can't block anyone on my phone. I have ATT and I don't even see an option online.
Click to expand...

@1QTPie Mr. Number app will help you block numbers.
 
We made a pact not to speak anymore, so we don't. He deleted his twitter and Facebook and we never followed each other's private Instagram accounts. I know he has a girlfriend but have no idea what's going on with him.

Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
Good question. Men are weird creatures, lol. What's even more interesting is why do some women entertain their exes feeble attempts of communication and just change their phone number ? Believe me I'm guilty of this myself and a conclusion I've come too is a part of me doesn't want to let my ex go. We have established a history and he left a permanent fixture in my heart. I'm very happy in my present relationship but occasionally I'll chat with my ex to see how life is treating him. Great thread op!!! :)
 
Does anyone have any ideas why a man would still text his latest ex when he has already gotten back with his old ex?
 
^^^^^
Ensuring the latest ex is still interest and willing re: sex
Regret getting back with old ex
Wants to sleep with both


Either way, you deserve better
 
I received one of these last week and thought about this thread. Well it was actually a VM but have received the text as well. Something about he was driving my way and thought about the good times we had. etc. etc. I don't remember any of those.

It is a very strange phenomenon of how they disappear and then pop back up. It's almost like a dormant virus.
 
faithVA said:
I received one of these last week and thought about this thread. Well it was actually a VM but have received the text as well. Something about he was driving my way and thought about the good times we had. etc. etc. I don't remember any of those.

It is a very strange phenomenon of how they disappear and then pop back up. It's almost like a dormant virus.
Click to expand...

I got a couple last weekend...Smh they really just want to stay on your brain.
 
All people do this -- men and women alike. It's a tactic used to string someone along and keep some semblance of a coal blazing. Some people just hate the idea of someone moving on without them.

My advice to anyone in this situation: Just ignore and move on with your life. I side eye any and everybody who says you need to be cool with your exes. No you don't. Get your life. Block the numbers of all exes. Defriend, Detwitter, De-instagram, whatever you need to do. Remove exes from your life. Period. When you think about the time wasted on people who are exes for a reason, the valuable mental space that they take while "we" (not me I found him) could be finding our prince charming... it's sad.
 
danniegirl said:
idont see why numbers are not instantly blocked these days

in my hey days before the blocking technology i use to store every guy number under "loser" i never knew what loser it was just some loser texting or trying to call if they called from there cousins, grandma, uncle phone and i happened to answer i would store that number under "loser" also i swear i had so many losers in my phone. :lachen::lachen:

The real stupid ones that bothered me i would text them with a message like

::message514263:: this subscriber can no longer receive messages through this service to contact this subscriber send a text to #77859 a $10 surcharge will be applied to each message.
Click to expand...

Your post made me laugh boisterously like a maniac. :lachen:

Mine was "Do Not Answer" in my phone. LOL!
 
Kindheart said:
I have fun,sometimes i read them out loud to DH :look:
Click to expand...

Oh wow! Wouldn't be me.

My parents have been married for almost 30 years and my dad cannot stand the mention of one of my mom's exes. TO THIS DAY. So I follow suit. As far as my husband is concerned he is my first, last, everything. (He knows I've dated other men but I never have and never will talk about them & if one dared to text me, so help me God.)
 
Random 'merry Christmas' text, let's not forget the 'happy veterans day' text. Ugh. Blocked his number. Merry Christmas to me!!!
 
Confession: I'll sometimes text an ex when I'm bored. I'll usually wind up saying something along the lines of "What's new with you?" The answer is usually "Nothing much" so it's only once in a blue moon.


There's only one ex that I'll touch base with out of genuine interest in how he's doing.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Similar threads

Silkycoils
Drive-by Texts
Replies
17
Views
447
LdyKamz
L
alwayzalady22
when did you and SO start going to church together?
Replies
13
Views
226
IntelligenceisBeautiful
IntelligenceisBeautiful
loolalooh
This Guy Stands Me Up and Texts Me A Month Later
Replies
25
Views
952
MizAvalon
MizAvalon
vivEz daNs lamouR
Are men really saying things like this now?
Replies
24
Views
937
LadyPaniolo
LadyPaniolo
Sapphire
Communication w/SO while on vacay
Replies
27
Views
473
Westend_Girl
W
Back
Top