Ateeya Has Suffered a Major Setback! Tips of How to Avoid!!!

[blksndrlla]

Oh my! I feel so bad for her. I would have been balled up in tears. However, it was a a great learning tool. Too often we avoid good advice. Thanks for the great tips Ediese. I read through them before, but definitely needed the review...gonna try this sew-in thing one more time despite the horrors of the first one...

 

[RubyWoo]

woaaah... i feel bad for her...but she is silly for not detangling before washing the hair

even myself who had sew-ins/braids for years(pre lhcf) never took care of my hair underneath(i know...) but one thing i always did was detangling before washing!!!

ETA: ARGH just got finished watching the video and i don't think she learned her lesson... she keeps talking about how not to shampoo it and yada yada still no talk about detangling.. oh well

Good for you that you knew better! However, there are people that prior to the hair boards did not; myself included.

I feel awful for her. Hair is such a personal matter and I can totally empathize.

Also, Atteya's hair has been progressing well. She was definitely retaining length; just not as much as folks on here since it appears that she kept her ends trimmed. Nonetheless, her hair was fly.

I hope she learns from this and reaches her hair goals!

 

[Maracujá]

OMG! I'm so sad for her...she's a hair inspiration. She needs to join LHCF.

 

[Kerryann]

im sorry i never thought her hair was healthy because she is always flat ironing and thats very damaging.

from wearing weaves i use to wash my hair every 3 weeks but i made sure oil my scalp every 3 days. when i take it out i definately comb it out then wash at the salon cause i dont want to deal with all of that myself hell no

 

[MizzBrown]

My jaw dropped when I saw how much hair came out. And that matted section? Woowee!

I was wondering if someone was gonna mention that video!!!

I saw it this morning and my jaw also dropped! Was the hair she pulled out HER hair or the indian hair? Cause it was THAT much!

And i was loving her vids on her indian hair installment for the last couple months and then for her to take it down and see that mess!!!

I learned my lesson after getting some braids for 2 months...cut out a lock of my hair from frustration and vowed to NEVER do that again.

But I honestly dont see a lot of women's hair in better condition AFTER taking out the sew in. It always looks worse afterwards....and i figured what was the point?

 

[RubyWoo]

Ediese, thanks for posting this. I watched the video too and I would NOT have been brave enough to do a video showing the aftermath for the whole world to see. I think before we start getting on her about her hair practices, take into consideration that we all have LHCF and members like Ediese who get sew-ins on the regular and know the way to take a weave down properly. She stated in the video that she didn't know to do that hence the matting and the tangles. Her stylist didn't seem to tell her either, he just told her not to do it on her own. As far as her other practices, she always says that these things are what work for her hair. I think it's good to remember that everything isn't for everybody and some of the things you do may not work for someone else. I just commend her for doing the video in the first place b/c she really didn't have to and if it was me, my subscribers would've gotten a verbal summary and a new install video. I would've been too upset to post it. I believe she will bounce back though and I hope she stays encouraged, she was having good progress.

Excellent Post! Thanking you was not enough!

 

[MsBoinglicious]

yea i saw this as soon as she posted it! I felt bad! Even though i am a natural i like watching people do their straight hair.

I just knew she was going to have some colar bone length by now after this sew-in! But that not detangling was a bad move. I learned that lesson back in high school when i had my own real hair braid back in cornrows for like 3 weeks. I took it down jumped in the shower and oh boy it was a mess! it was horrible!

The look on her face had me a tad teary! But i bet she will never have this problem again! Best of luck to her!

 

[MizzBrown]

And how do you wash your scalp anyway? It just seems your scalp never gets to breathe.

How do u wash it without ripping out the thread and stuff?

 

[Ediese]

Ediese, thanks for posting this. I watched the video too and I would NOT have been brave enough to do a video showing the aftermath for the whole world to see. I think before we start getting on her about her hair practices, take into consideration that we all have LHCF and members like Ediese who get sew-ins on the regular and know the way to take a weave down properly. She stated in the video that she didn't know to do that hence the matting and the tangles. Her stylist didn't seem to tell her either, he just told her not to do it on her own. As far as her other practices, she always says that these things are what work for her hair. I think it's good to remember that everything isn't for everybody and some of the things you do may not work for someone else. I just commend her for doing the video in the first place b/c she really didn't have to and if it was me, my subscribers would've gotten a verbal summary and a new install video. I would've been too upset to post it. I believe she will bounce back though and I hope she stays encouraged, she was having good progress.

I totally agree with you, and that's exactly why I said I don't want this to be a bashing thread. I think it was really courageous that she showed the horrible experience that she suffered in order to help others from experiencing the same fate.

I know I had the same thing happen to me, so I definitely know what she's going through. Hopefully, it will serve as a lesson learned for others. I'm sure she will recover from this.

 

[cicilypayne]

Gosh so sorry to see Atyeaa had a setback. It has happened to me more times than I care to remember. Thank you OP for the good tips..I too have been wearing weaves for a while now, but great advice is always needed.

 

[metro_qt]

Awww. she didn't know.

I had this happen to me 3 years ago, but i lost waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more hair than her.

My problem was that the hairdresser sewed the thread too tight into my hair, and it was tangled into my hair.

I thought the best idea would be to get under the shower and detangle, since i *could not* detangle my hair dry.. that thread was all up in my hair.

wellllp.

I ended up losing so much hair, I had 3 bald spots.
I went to 3 different hair technicians, including a dread lock specialist, who works on films sets, who is able to untangle dreds into normal hair again...
she said there was nothing that could be done with my hair.

i ended up going back to my hometown, sitting down at my mother's lap, and having her detangle my mess, a week later. it took 8 hours.

i learnt my lesson.


but... it's also how i was introduced to wigs. lol

I wish i had pictures of what it looked like at the time.. i think my mother does,
but, there's hope...
here's what it looked like 10 months later...

 

[MochaEyeCandy]

But i bet she will never have this problem again! Best of luck to her!

We'll be seeing a video like this a lot sooner than we expect if she doesn't get it through her head that not detangling is what caused her problem...she's going on and on about shampooing techniques

 

[HauteHairGurl]

Ediese,
I hope she joins your network too. I was considering getting a sew in to GMYOMH and don't know the first thing about weave so I was overjoyed to see your network!

 

[Platinum]

OMG! I'm so sad for her...she's a hair inspiration. She needs to join LHCF.

I believe she joined last year because I remember seeing her posts. I don't think she stayed active that long though.

 

[Ediese]

Another thing I wanted to add is that it is inevitable that when you take out an install that you had for 2-3 months there will be A LOT of shed hair. Please DO NOT freak out. That's normal. Just remember you're suppose to shed 50-150 strands a day. If your hair has been braided for 2-3 months, your shedded hair will still be there until you detangle. Once you detangle, the hair that you're losing is SHED hair. DO NOT PANIC!!

 

[jaszymeen]

And how do you wash your scalp anyway? It just seems your scalp never gets to breathe.

How do u wash it without ripping out the thread and stuff?

with like a dye applicator bottle. one is half diluted with water and shampoo the other with conditioner and shampoo. that way the product doesnt just sit and build up on the scalp.

 

[that_1_grrrl]

ok, my hair mats like that all the time esp if i don't comb it in a few day. She didn't need to cut that piece. . I'd be bald if i cut out every dread!

I was thinking the same thing. Every so often I will get a small section of hair (usually a few strands) that just mat together. All it usually takes is me using some conditioner and using my hands to work through it. It takes a minute, but it does come out.

I think with a lot of things, patience is the key. You can not rush through hair.

 

[Summer_Rain]

When I saw the title my heart dropped - I thought she was sick or something. But I have to tell you, I had to shead a tear or two for her when I watched the video. That one section of matting and tangle was NO.JOKE. But she'll be aight - it's hair & it grows back.

 

[Ediese]

I was wondering if someone was gonna mention that video!!!

I saw it this morning and my jaw also dropped! Was the hair she pulled out HER hair or the indian hair? Cause it was THAT much!

And i was loving her vids on her indian hair installment for the last couple months and then for her to take it down and see that mess!!!

I learned my lesson after getting some braids for 2 months...cut out a lock of my hair from frustration and vowed to NEVER do that again.

But I honestly dont see a lot of women's hair in better condition AFTER taking out the sew in. It always looks worse afterwards....and i figured what was the point?

Yep..I just saw the link to it. It was her hair that she pulled out. I think it was the shed hair for not being able to detangle for however long she wore the weave, and plus the matted hair.

I see a lot of women that have had great success with weaves, and I'm just one of them. I know I've mentioned this before, but I think you just have to make sure that you get it properly installed, maintained, and taken down.

 

[Maracujá]

I believe she joined last year because I remember seeing her posts. I don't think she stayed active that long though.

She needs to rejoin asap, she can get alot of help here.

 

[Ediese]

Awww. she didn't know.

I had this happen to me 3 years ago, but i lost waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more hair than her.

My problem was that the hairdresser sewed the thread too tight into my hair, and it was tangled into my hair.

I thought the best idea would be to get under the shower and detangle, since i *could not* detangle my hair dry.. that thread was all up in my hair.

wellllp.

I ended up losing so much hair, I had 3 bald spots.
I went to 3 different hair technicians, including a dread lock specialist, who works on films sets, who is able to untangle dreds into normal hair again...
she said there was nothing that could be done with my hair.

i ended up going back to my hometown, sitting down at my mother's lap, and having her detangle my mess, a week later. it took 8 hours.

i learnt my lesson.


but... it's also how i was introduced to wigs. lol

I wish i had pictures of what it looked like at the time.. i think my mother does,
but, there's hope...
here's what it looked like 10 months later...

Absolutely gorgeous!!! Yep...a lot of us don't know if we haven't experienced it, or had someone tell us. I hope she knows that it'll only get better from here.

 

[Ediese]

Ediese,
I hope she joins your network too. I was considering getting a sew in to GMYOMH and don't know the first thing about weave so I was overjoyed to see your network!

Thanks!! I have got to do better with that site. I've been working on getting my business up, so I haven't invested a lot of time recently. I will though as soon I finalize things.

 

[MizzBrown]

Yep..I just saw the link to it. It was her hair that she pulled out. I think it was the shed hair for not being able to detangle for however long she wore the weave, and plus the matted hair.

I see a lot of women that have had great success with weaves, and I'm just one of them. I know I've mentioned this before, but I think you just have to make sure that you get it properly installed, maintained, and taken down.

But no one ever does it seems! They get braids or an install and think its great then they get a setback when the takedown comes and the takedown is so horrendous that they just weave or braid it back up!

It becomes a cover-up instead of a useful protective style. I wish someone would post a thread on before and afters of their braid/sew-in styles to really see.

It shouldnt take me 8 hours to get braids out my hair. And folks were telling me to keep them in longer and had my stylist telling me NOT wash my hair...Never again!

Its like only a select few really know what they are doing in this department. Seriously!

 

[Thann]

OMG...my heart sank for her. That was way worse than I've ever imagined. Wow.

 

[Ediese]

I was thinking the same thing. Every so often I will get a small section of hair (usually a few strands) that just mat together. All it usually takes is me using some conditioner and using my hands to work through it. It takes a minute, but it does come out.

I think with a lot of things, patience is the key. You can not rush through hair.

I experience the same thing with my natural hair that you experienced. You're right you can take it down with conditioner and patience. However, I experienced the same thing that she did, and there was NOTHING that I could do to help it. It literally looked like a dry, matted dreadloc. I did EVERYTHING, and took a couple days to try to detangle it. I even tried to get help, and there was nothing that could be done. I had to cut it out.

 

[Hairsofab]

I watched that video this morning. It was sad.

 

[Kacie]

I know that she's not into the hair boards, but if you know the information is out there....well you know.

I'm sure she'll rebound.

 

[metro_qt]

Absolutely gorgeous!!! Yep...a lot of us don't know if we haven't experienced it, or had someone tell us. I hope she knows that it'll only get better from here.

if she's anything like me?
It will never happen to her again.
lol.
She's probably learned her lesson, if she's serious about her hair.

she'll probably investigate better ways at detangling her hair after she takes down a weave...

but secretly, i think she's just going to get her weaves taken down at her stylist from now on... lololol....


whatever the case, trust me. She's done learned her lesson.

 

[Hairsofab]

And her hair never shows any length retention. If you are actively taking good care of your hair, then we should see evidence of growth retention.

She states in her videos that she gets her hair trimmed everytime she goes to the salon, which I imagine is the biggest reason you don't see a lot of retention. Although, even with that frequent trimming she managed to go from ear length to shoulder length in 2 years.

 

[MissYocairis]

ok, my hair mats like that all the time esp if i don't comb it in a few day. She didn't need to cut that piece. . I'd be bald if i cut out every dread!

ok? girl, I was just saying this. There is no way in hell I would have cut that hair out of my head. Even if I did end up with what she had. I would have WORKED with that as long as it took. She shouldn't have begun such a project on a work night like that. When you are tired, you cut corners and slip up and mess something up. She could have saved this as a weekend project and then took her time, took breaks, worked with it and gotten that out.