At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved?
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PinkPebbles
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Good question :Blush2:
35Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
38For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
39Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8)
Being unequally yoked with someone will have you compromise your standards and beliefs; and most likely go down the wrong path.
Are you willing to risk spiritual warfare or perhaps bondage for the sake of being with someone that is not a match!?!
Good question :Blush2:
35Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
38For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
39Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8)
Being unequally yoked with someone will have you compromise your standards and beliefs; and most likely go down the wrong path.
Are you willing to risk spiritual warfare or perhaps bondage for the sake of being with someone that is not a match!?!
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If I was asked this question last year around this time I would have responded with it doesn't really matter. However, at this point of my life I can see the importance of following God's word, so my answer has changed. I need for my future husband to be of equally yoke, it is important that we are on the same page when it comes to God. He should be able to uplift me, and I should be able to uplift him.
If I was asked this question last year around this time I would have responded with it doesn't really matter. However, at this point of my life I can see the importance of following God's word, so my answer has changed. I need for my future husband to be of equally yoke, it is important that we are on the same page when it comes to God. He should be able to uplift me, and I should be able to uplift him.
Prudent1
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. Nuh uhh, I'll pass on that heartache and drama. Marriage in and of itself brings challenges. With God they can be won
but, even then you will work your tail off and will have some bumpy emotional memories in the process. To further complicate things by being unequally yoked- NOPE! Everything you do will seem foolish and strange
to your SO. They will not be able to understand where you are coming from. It's just too much to know that you may spend years of blood, sweat, and tears, where both of you may never be on the same page. Then for us as women to not have the proper covering from our men. It is so much nicer when we can be on one accord. Then when the kids come and see your opinion being belittled. Nope, double nope JMHO.
No, absolutely positivley not. I have seen and personally know of too many couples who did this. I'm not even talking about different religious affiliations either. I'm talking baby Christian who just received salvation last week and seasoned Christian who has been walking with the Lord for 25 years
. Nuh uhh, I'll pass on that heartache and drama. Marriage in and of itself brings challenges. With God they can be won but, even then you will work your tail off and will have some bumpy emotional memories in the process. To further complicate things by being unequally yoked- NOPE! Everything you do will seem foolish and strange to your SO. They will not be able to understand where you are coming from. It's just too much to know that you may spend years of blood, sweat, and tears, where both of you may never be on the same page. Then for us as women to not have the proper covering from our men. It is so much nicer when we can be on one accord. Then when the kids come and see your opinion being belittled. Nope, double nope JMHO.
Laela
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Never settle for less than God's best for you... Jeremiah 29:11... that means, the best of the best. Not the cream of the crap... (sorry I'm Caribbean...)
That means, being unequally yolked by accepting less than God's best (settling, compromising) -- when He has something better already promised to you.
[disclaimer: this is generally speaking, when I say "you".. .not directed at you per say, OP ]
Never settle for less than God's best for you... Jeremiah 29:11... that means, the best of the best. Not the cream of the crap... (sorry I'm Caribbean...)
That means, being unequally yolked by accepting less than God's best (settling, compromising) -- when He has something better already promised to you.
[disclaimer: this is generally speaking, when I say "you".. .not directed at you per say, OP ]
OrganizedConfusion
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No way...especially if he's not even trying to talk that walk eventually (sooner than later). I never tempt the enemy...any crack in the door that we give the enemy he will try and take.
No way...especially if he's not even trying to talk that walk eventually (sooner than later). I never tempt the enemy...any crack in the door that we give the enemy he will try and take.
makeupgirl
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I've seen my mom's marriage to my stepdad as an example of not to marry a non-believer if you're a believer. My mom is saved but my stepdad wasn't (my sister said that she thinks he is now) I witness my mom stopped going to church by the wishes of her husband, I witness fights (some drunken), I've witnessed my mom's drinking to ease the pain, I've seen her unhappy and unsettled in her spirit. I've seen and felt Satan at work in the household. Even when I was living with them along with my sister, it was uncomfortable to say the least. This account is from both mine eyes and from my sister's POV.
Anyhoo, they are now separated with him traveling back and forth to Roanoke and my mom living with me and my sister to make ends meet. But, the damage is done because of my mom's desire to marry this man that she knew wasn't a believer.
I've seen my mom's marriage to my stepdad as an example of not to marry a non-believer if you're a believer. My mom is saved but my stepdad wasn't (my sister said that she thinks he is now) I witness my mom stopped going to church by the wishes of her husband, I witness fights (some drunken), I've witnessed my mom's drinking to ease the pain, I've seen her unhappy and unsettled in her spirit. I've seen and felt Satan at work in the household. Even when I was living with them along with my sister, it was uncomfortable to say the least. This account is from both mine eyes and from my sister's POV.
Anyhoo, they are now separated with him traveling back and forth to Roanoke and my mom living with me and my sister to make ends meet. But, the damage is done because of my mom's desire to marry this man that she knew wasn't a believer.
Prudent1
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^^^ That's what I'm talking about. No children should witness things like that. No one should be asked to do things that go against God's instruction to preserve the relationship. He may be saved now (and I hope he is) but mom has already had a lifetime of hurts in her heart from things that happened between the two of them that we may never know:Rose:. For you and your family
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^^^ That's what I'm talking about. No children should witness things like that. No one should be asked to do things that go against God's instruction to preserve the relationship. He may be saved now (and I hope he is) but mom has already had a lifetime of hurts in her heart from things that happened between the two of them that we may never know:Rose:. For you and your family
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phynestone
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No, but I have in the past. Totally regret it. I don't date just to date, I date with a purpose. I have no intention on spending any time with a man that I don't see as marriage material. Who cares what society thinks?
No, but I have in the past. Totally regret it. I don't date just to date, I date with a purpose. I have no intention on spending any time with a man that I don't see as marriage material. Who cares what society thinks?
nicolesanjuan
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(Scuse me) but, hecks no!!! It's hard enough when two people are saved because the devil, believe it or not, is definitely against marriage, period..... However, I will say that when we read this scripture we focus on just being saved, but you can be "unequally" yoked in alot of other ways as well. For example, likes/dislikes, ministry/non-ministry... I believe that even if two people are saved that's not enough, but you not only have to be led by God...but be compatible, as well.....
Just a quick reply....
(Scuse me) but, hecks no!!! It's hard enough when two people are saved because the devil, believe it or not, is definitely against marriage, period..... However, I will say that when we read this scripture we focus on just being saved, but you can be "unequally" yoked in alot of other ways as well. For example, likes/dislikes, ministry/non-ministry... I believe that even if two people are saved that's not enough, but you not only have to be led by God...but be compatible, as well.....
Just a quick reply....
makeupgirl
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Thanks
...I was 23 when they got married and I actually said I wasn't going to get married until My pastor told me not to disbelieve in marriage because of what's happening in my mom's. Even though I witnessed this as an adult, that's my mom that I saw him verbally and emotionally abused everyday I was there and probably wasn't there and according to my sister it did get physical one time with my mom fighting back.
I boldly told my mom last year, "Mom you knew he wasn't saved why did you marry him" and she said that she loved him and doesn't want to move out of the situation until God says so. She left one time after a year of their marriage and then she went back and it got worse.
If he is saved, then I pray he's a better man this time around. I forgive him but it's hard to stay in the Lord's will when he's around because the flesh goes off the chain.
^^^ That's what I'm talking about. No children should witness things like that. No one should be asked to do things that go against God's instruction to preserve the relationship. He may be saved now (and I hope he is) but mom has already had a lifetime of hurts in her heart from things that happened between the two of them that we may never know:Rose:. For you and your family
Thanks
...I was 23 when they got married and I actually said I wasn't going to get married until My pastor told me not to disbelieve in marriage because of what's happening in my mom's. Even though I witnessed this as an adult, that's my mom that I saw him verbally and emotionally abused everyday I was there and probably wasn't there and according to my sister it did get physical one time with my mom fighting back. I boldly told my mom last year, "Mom you knew he wasn't saved why did you marry him" and she said that she loved him and doesn't want to move out of the situation until God says so. She left one time after a year of their marriage and then she went back and it got worse.
If he is saved, then I pray he's a better man this time around. I forgive him but it's hard to stay in the Lord's will when he's around because the flesh goes off the chain.
makeupgirl
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Amen sister. I'm doing the same thing, especially after the last one I had last year.
Amen sister. I'm doing the same thing, especially after the last one I had last year.
EbonyHairedPrincess
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Okay if we doing real talk, I wouldn't be married at all knowing what I know now. Let's not even think about binding my life, children, future & spirit to a heathen
. I LUUUUUV my boo but ....... 
Okay if we doing real talk, I wouldn't be married at all knowing what I know now. Let's not even think about binding my life, children, future & spirit to a heathen
. I LUUUUUV my boo but ....... 
StarScream35
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I have been on the walk a long time and I must say at this point I don't think it matters if he is unsaved or not. There are just so few men in the church that I felt the need to open up my options. I know its not a good thing but I run into so few saved men and when I do, they are either married or in a relationship. The last guy I dated was Buddhist and I tried to put all the religious stuff aside. Had it not been for the baby mama drama, I think the relationship would have worked out just fine.
I have been on the walk a long time and I must say at this point I don't think it matters if he is unsaved or not. There are just so few men in the church that I felt the need to open up my options. I know its not a good thing but I run into so few saved men and when I do, they are either married or in a relationship. The last guy I dated was Buddhist and I tried to put all the religious stuff aside. Had it not been for the baby mama drama, I think the relationship would have worked out just fine.
humility1990
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No, because the people who are closest to you influence you. As iron sharpens iron so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. A mate is a friend and so much more so we need to be of an accord. Our children need to see mommy and daddy setting biblical standards in their life, consistency is important. Also I truly believe our lives are a test and though I could be wrong I genuinely think most of the world is going to hell. Now the thought of being in hell causes me so much anguish its unbelievable, that in itself is dreadful, but being separated from a benevolent God for all of eternity is beyond the pale. Though we are all sinners and make mistakes, I would not want to make such a major decision that would cause me to sin even more.
No, because the people who are closest to you influence you. As iron sharpens iron so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. A mate is a friend and so much more so we need to be of an accord. Our children need to see mommy and daddy setting biblical standards in their life, consistency is important. Also I truly believe our lives are a test and though I could be wrong I genuinely think most of the world is going to hell. Now the thought of being in hell causes me so much anguish its unbelievable, that in itself is dreadful, but being separated from a benevolent God for all of eternity is beyond the pale. Though we are all sinners and make mistakes, I would not want to make such a major decision that would cause me to sin even more.
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True... very true.
However...........
Don't allow the 'sinner' to pull the saint back into his/her 'past' which God has shed His Blood so freely and to the very death, to deliver them from.
Why crawl into the muddy waters when Jesus has given so freely unto us, His living waters.
Here's a clue:
When a woman compromises to get a man, she will compromise even further to 'keep' the man she has compromised to be with. If she compromised her faith to be with him, she'll compromise all the more to 'please' him.
Don't even think that the devil will not 'trouble' the waters of the relationship and almost ALWAYS, the woman surrenders to the will of her husband...therefore it's better if he's one with Jesus, least she ends up in the quicksand struggling to keep her head and hair above the mud's surface, for fear of losing him.
It is written... 'Your desire shall be to your husband.'
I can write an entire volume of books on this... volumes.
Marry a man of God; marriage is one of satan's biggest targets. satan is out to defile that which God has ordained between a man and a woman
A woman needs a man whose heart is turned towards God and no other. Even if it means marrying outside of one's race, as long as he knows Jesus, a woman is doing what's right for herself, her husband and with God.
To God be the Glory...
You will reap if you faint.... not.
Every saint has a past and every sinner a future.
True... very true.
However...........
Don't allow the 'sinner' to pull the saint back into his/her 'past' which God has shed His Blood so freely and to the very death, to deliver them from.
Why crawl into the muddy waters when Jesus has given so freely unto us, His living waters.
Here's a clue:
When a woman compromises to get a man, she will compromise even further to 'keep' the man she has compromised to be with. If she compromised her faith to be with him, she'll compromise all the more to 'please' him.
Don't even think that the devil will not 'trouble' the waters of the relationship and almost ALWAYS, the woman surrenders to the will of her husband...therefore it's better if he's one with Jesus, least she ends up in the quicksand struggling to keep her head and hair above the mud's surface, for fear of losing him.
It is written... 'Your desire shall be to your husband.'
I can write an entire volume of books on this... volumes.
Marry a man of God; marriage is one of satan's biggest targets. satan is out to defile that which God has ordained between a man and a woman
A woman needs a man whose heart is turned towards God and no other. Even if it means marrying outside of one's race, as long as he knows Jesus, a woman is doing what's right for herself, her husband and with God.
To God be the Glory...
You will reap if you faint.... not.
blazingthru
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I think that dating is so inappropriate and unnessary. We look at the world and we think we should date to get a spouse. I look back on my life and I regret all of it. Had I learned to make friends I would not have have so many regrets and I spent time talking to other woman. Its not that hard to find a mate. If your prayed up and your desire is to please God, he will send the right man to you in the right time. Its best to learn to be friends if you want to get to know someone invite them to church with you. have them stay for lunch or some social event at service. But don't look at them in any other way but friendship. I have learned that when your friends with people you are more yourself, your not as guarded if you like to sing you will sing or do whatever you would normally do and thereby you get to see a persons real out look on life, real opinion no one is trying to please anyone I have met several men at my church that I just enjoy being in their company and I love to see who they really are and what they are about since there is no hidden agenda everyone is theirself oh sure we all try to be nice but once you get to know a person you start little by little revealing truths about yourself with no hesitation. And they as well. I don't like the dating process, you go on a date, you dress really nice, get your hair done nails, all that, now some people do that on the regular and some do not. But we want to make a good impression. So we are going to do things we ordinarly do not do thats not good. But then you see oh good grief this person is not the one for me and you end up in the evening upset that you did all you did to go out with this person or worst you like them and they do not like you. Or they believe 50/50 and you got to pay although you dicuss everything somehow you never got around to money since he asked you out. NO thank you. Or he picks his teeth and complains about everything or talks about things to impress you but thats not who he really is. Its to much of a Fake game and to much time gets wasted. Now days christian or not, sex is expected. Now I have not dated since 1986 really and back then I wasn't pressured to have sex but my daughter says woman have sex on the first date. What!! without really knowing the person at all!! Yuck no thanks.
Any man I meet I hope he is willing to come and visit my church and stay for lunch and meet my friends and enjoy himself and come again. I won't give undivided attention but I would try to make him feel comfortable and see what he thinks and if he is willing to come again and keep it moving. If I ever date again it will be after the person that I have met has already completed bible studies and I know as a good friend first. This is my p's and q's. Plus he has to love me as I am, I wear no make up, I rarely put nail polish on, If I do I chip it off so why bothered. I am natual and love it. I sing out my car window all the time and wave my hands praising the lord anywhere any time. I sing while I am shopping in the mall, in the market. all these things annoyed my husband. I like pop music an since I listen to christian music I love the more mellow type of Christian music I love gospel too but most days I prefer mellow praising songs. I only clean up when I get an urge too and I use to be very very organized and perfunctory but no more. I'll get to it when I get to it so you see if I am going to date anyone he has to be serious about me from the door other then that I am not wasting my time anymore. I only like to cook when I like to cook and for the first time in my life its okay for me to be me. I would hate for anyone to disrupt that ever again. I pray this is not discouraging I am hoping this is though provoking. Christians should always be willing to do something then what the world is doing.
I think that dating is so inappropriate and unnessary. We look at the world and we think we should date to get a spouse. I look back on my life and I regret all of it. Had I learned to make friends I would not have have so many regrets and I spent time talking to other woman. Its not that hard to find a mate. If your prayed up and your desire is to please God, he will send the right man to you in the right time. Its best to learn to be friends if you want to get to know someone invite them to church with you. have them stay for lunch or some social event at service. But don't look at them in any other way but friendship. I have learned that when your friends with people you are more yourself, your not as guarded if you like to sing you will sing or do whatever you would normally do and thereby you get to see a persons real out look on life, real opinion no one is trying to please anyone I have met several men at my church that I just enjoy being in their company and I love to see who they really are and what they are about since there is no hidden agenda everyone is theirself oh sure we all try to be nice but once you get to know a person you start little by little revealing truths about yourself with no hesitation. And they as well. I don't like the dating process, you go on a date, you dress really nice, get your hair done nails, all that, now some people do that on the regular and some do not. But we want to make a good impression. So we are going to do things we ordinarly do not do thats not good. But then you see oh good grief this person is not the one for me and you end up in the evening upset that you did all you did to go out with this person or worst you like them and they do not like you. Or they believe 50/50 and you got to pay although you dicuss everything somehow you never got around to money since he asked you out. NO thank you. Or he picks his teeth and complains about everything or talks about things to impress you but thats not who he really is. Its to much of a Fake game and to much time gets wasted. Now days christian or not, sex is expected. Now I have not dated since 1986 really and back then I wasn't pressured to have sex but my daughter says woman have sex on the first date. What!! without really knowing the person at all!! Yuck no thanks.
Any man I meet I hope he is willing to come and visit my church and stay for lunch and meet my friends and enjoy himself and come again. I won't give undivided attention but I would try to make him feel comfortable and see what he thinks and if he is willing to come again and keep it moving. If I ever date again it will be after the person that I have met has already completed bible studies and I know as a good friend first. This is my p's and q's. Plus he has to love me as I am, I wear no make up, I rarely put nail polish on, If I do I chip it off so why bothered. I am natual and love it. I sing out my car window all the time and wave my hands praising the lord anywhere any time. I sing while I am shopping in the mall, in the market. all these things annoyed my husband. I like pop music an since I listen to christian music I love the more mellow type of Christian music I love gospel too but most days I prefer mellow praising songs. I only clean up when I get an urge too and I use to be very very organized and perfunctory but no more. I'll get to it when I get to it so you see if I am going to date anyone he has to be serious about me from the door other then that I am not wasting my time anymore. I only like to cook when I like to cook and for the first time in my life its okay for me to be me. I would hate for anyone to disrupt that ever again. I pray this is not discouraging I am hoping this is though provoking. Christians should always be willing to do something then what the world is doing.
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blazingthru - So are you saying you don't plan on ever compromising anything about your personality or lifestyle to accommodate another husband? That doesn't sound realistic but hey.. maybe it'll work out for you.
I think the term "dating" gets a bad rap in Christian circles because we define it very narrowly.
blazingthru - So are you saying you don't plan on ever compromising anything about your personality or lifestyle to accommodate another husband? That doesn't sound realistic but hey.. maybe it'll work out for you.
I think the term "dating" gets a bad rap in Christian circles because we define it very narrowly.
StarScream35
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blazingthru
Very nice intimate post.
blazingthru
Very nice intimate post.
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I get your point which is to be real from beginning to end. No games or fronts which will only be exposed sooner or later.
Blazing, I like your post because it's you, being you.. and you are indeed very special.
Don't change for anyone but Jesus. If folks disagree, let it be. It's still you and that's all that matters. :Rose:
I get your point which is to be real from beginning to end. No games or fronts which will only be exposed sooner or later.
Blazing, I like your post because it's you, being you.. and you are indeed very special.
Don't change for anyone but Jesus. If folks disagree, let it be. It's still you and that's all that matters. :Rose:Yes I would. I am not going to say no to an amazing person because of a label or temporary condition. You don't know what the future holds. As long as I keep myself right and do not compromise what I believe in Christ, why not? If everything else is on point, he respects my beliefs, and he treats me like the queen I am, heck yea...
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Hmm.. but Biblically speaking, aren't women and men commanded to "submit" to each other..and isn't the very core of submission adapting oneself to your husband's needs? For me personally this is something I've had to come to terms with in my journey to become marriageable.. but not everyone has marriage as a priority and that's perfectly fine.
I agree with this..
Blazing, I like your post because it's you, being you.. and you are indeed very special.
Hmm.. but Biblically speaking, aren't women and men commanded to "submit" to each other..and isn't the very core of submission adapting oneself to your husband's needs? For me personally this is something I've had to come to terms with in my journey to become marriageable.. but not everyone has marriage as a priority and that's perfectly fine.
fifi134
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2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
Wouldn't this compromise what you believe? It worries me that you feel "Christian" is just a label. It is a lifestyle. A man can have everything on point but if he is not saved, he is not the man for me.
2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
Wouldn't this compromise what you believe? It worries me that you feel "Christian" is just a label. It is a lifestyle. A man can have everything on point but if he is not saved, he is not the man for me.
blazingthru
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I would not want to have my future husband to be anything but what he is sure there are somethings we need to be more mindful of and when we love each other those things are no burden as long as it doesn't make you become something you are not. I was that person for years. My husband told me I could not sing and so I stopped. I didn't dance much because I thought I didn't dance well and he would get upset. There were so many things I had to change for my husband that I no longer knew who I was.
I would not want to have my future husband to be anything but what he is sure there are somethings we need to be more mindful of and when we love each other those things are no burden as long as it doesn't make you become something you are not. I was that person for years. My husband told me I could not sing and so I stopped. I didn't dance much because I thought I didn't dance well and he would get upset. There were so many things I had to change for my husband that I no longer knew who I was.
blazingthru
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Re: At this point in your Christian walk, would you date/marry someone who is unsaved
I think the world looks at the word Submit as a negative. Husband submit to theirs wives and wives submit to their husband. This is what I feel this means. it doesn't mean that you change the person that you are, hopefully if he is a man of God he has accepted you the way you are and not require you to change but if he likes his wife to only wear dresses and skirts that is submitting to his will. You submit to your husband will in terms of him being the head of the household which means if he says This is how things will be run and it doesn't intefer with the blessings that God has given you then fine. One of my husbands rule was that all garbage gets frozen. I thought that was strange and weird, but i did it. Later I realize that I never had a smelly trashbin. His second rule was that all peanut butter and jelly jars get wipe out so that when you pick it up you can see a clear line around the top. Now this annoyed me, but I got over it because I never had to deal with a sticky top and gross stuff on the top side. So I obeyed. He is also to submit, there are certain things I expect him to do as head of house and I tell him. I would love for you to make sure there is always eggs, butter, milk and bread in the house. These things do not affect the person that you are, they only make you a better spouse. etc., I Hope that make sense. I gave up the person who I was for my marriage and in the end I could not save my marriage. Because that kind of power destroys people. This is not God's desire for marriage. We are to love one another and submit to one another not just to one. its so miscontrued its like everyone knows that scripture but forget that we submit to one another. So what I am saying everyone that knows me know that about me already. It won't be this great surprise after the wedding. I love to cook when I want to cook. Everyone knows why I don't wear make up or rarely nail polish. I can be a great spouse and still be the person that God has designed me to be. I use to be a very quite person just observing but now I am very open about how I feel so much so that I am on so many ministries at service because people want to hear what I have to say. Everything that I have to say I pray is blessed by God and give him the glory. I would never want anyone to interfere and block my blessings ever again.
I think the world looks at the word Submit as a negative. Husband submit to theirs wives and wives submit to their husband. This is what I feel this means. it doesn't mean that you change the person that you are, hopefully if he is a man of God he has accepted you the way you are and not require you to change but if he likes his wife to only wear dresses and skirts that is submitting to his will. You submit to your husband will in terms of him being the head of the household which means if he says This is how things will be run and it doesn't intefer with the blessings that God has given you then fine. One of my husbands rule was that all garbage gets frozen. I thought that was strange and weird, but i did it. Later I realize that I never had a smelly trashbin. His second rule was that all peanut butter and jelly jars get wipe out so that when you pick it up you can see a clear line around the top. Now this annoyed me, but I got over it because I never had to deal with a sticky top and gross stuff on the top side. So I obeyed. He is also to submit, there are certain things I expect him to do as head of house and I tell him. I would love for you to make sure there is always eggs, butter, milk and bread in the house. These things do not affect the person that you are, they only make you a better spouse. etc., I Hope that make sense. I gave up the person who I was for my marriage and in the end I could not save my marriage. Because that kind of power destroys people. This is not God's desire for marriage. We are to love one another and submit to one another not just to one. its so miscontrued its like everyone knows that scripture but forget that we submit to one another. So what I am saying everyone that knows me know that about me already. It won't be this great surprise after the wedding. I love to cook when I want to cook. Everyone knows why I don't wear make up or rarely nail polish. I can be a great spouse and still be the person that God has designed me to be. I use to be a very quite person just observing but now I am very open about how I feel so much so that I am on so many ministries at service because people want to hear what I have to say. Everything that I have to say I pray is blessed by God and give him the glory. I would never want anyone to interfere and block my blessings ever again.
