hopeful
Well-Known Member
I was thinking about how many of us listen well primarily to words but ignore or miss what someone is really saying or showing us. The next time you are hurt by someone who "said" they liked you or wanted to get to know you better, think back on all of the other ways they communicated with you how they really felt about you. Little follow up, too busy, hot and heavy too soon, not seeming to be really interested in you or your life, everything on their terms, etc. All of these things are communicating that they are not interested, are selfish, don't want anything serious, etc. And when we ignore this communication and pursue them, we are communicating I am lonely, I am desperate, I don't value myself, you are more important than me etc.