ChasingBliss
Well-Known Member
I am not that woman who fawns over a man, cleaning up behind him, making sure his every need is met. I'm not even close. I try to do for you what I do for myself. And I care about your well-being.
I'm kind caring and affectionate only to a degree, but I treat you like the adult that you are. I admit, I can be pretty selfish at times and have to remind myself that I am married. (Not meaning that I go out there and act unmarried). I'm talking about some basic things. I recently had a financial issue that caused me to go without something I needed. I spent two months working on taking care of that on my own. When dh found out, he was so upset. He kept saying "You have a husband! Why do you insist on solving problems by yourself when you don't have to".. I get this behavior honestly and sometimes it causes a problem. My mom instilled into me to be independent, solve your own problems....That coupled with the lack I previously discussed equals disaster.
I am an only child and I did not exactly get a good example of what a wife is supposed to be. Sometimes I think I am doomed some times I think I am just fine. I know one thing....if things go left. I AM NEEEEEVER GETTING MARRIED AGAIN!
Can I unlearn this? Or is it too late for me. Stuff to ponder for 2018.
I'm kind caring and affectionate only to a degree, but I treat you like the adult that you are. I admit, I can be pretty selfish at times and have to remind myself that I am married. (Not meaning that I go out there and act unmarried). I'm talking about some basic things. I recently had a financial issue that caused me to go without something I needed. I spent two months working on taking care of that on my own. When dh found out, he was so upset. He kept saying "You have a husband! Why do you insist on solving problems by yourself when you don't have to".. I get this behavior honestly and sometimes it causes a problem. My mom instilled into me to be independent, solve your own problems....That coupled with the lack I previously discussed equals disaster.
I am an only child and I did not exactly get a good example of what a wife is supposed to be. Sometimes I think I am doomed some times I think I am just fine. I know one thing....if things go left. I AM NEEEEEVER GETTING MARRIED AGAIN!
Can I unlearn this? Or is it too late for me. Stuff to ponder for 2018.