anybody feel the need to be complimented?

[hairedity]

Let's be honest

Okay, so I had some braids put in about 1 month ago, and truly I wasn't satisfied with the job, but then going into work and having almost no comments was just confirmation that it looked like crap. Worst, this lady knew I was going to get them, she didn't even say anything. Pathetic me said "hey I got my hair done".. she said "yeah, I saw... it looks great" -I knew that answer was a forced lie.
Anyway I felt like crap the rest of the day, and almost mad at my team lol! ...and then I wondered to myself, even though I know I didn't like it, would I have felt better having more people at least lie to make me feel better by saying it looked nice?

Anyone else feel like crap when your new do goes "unnoticed" or are you like, I really don't care! ?

-are you one of those that always get complimented -hair, outfit etc...
or
-are you one of those that hardly get compliments -hair, outfit etc...

 

[Nonie]

I get compliments. Sometimes I get laughed at. But I made up my mind a long time ago to dance to the beat of my own drum so that I really do what makes me happy. Yes, sometimes I have a bad hair day and know I will not get away with it. But there's something about wearing an air of confidence even when you know you look like crap that throws people off and they start doubting their disapproval.

It could be worse, Sweetie. You could've heard, "Did you pay for that? Or did you just do it as a joke?" Or you could've heard some of the dumb comments some people have heard from rude coworkers where they straight up make it clear that your do sucks. "What the heck did you do that for?" "What's that on your head?" So count silence as a blessing. And make the most of your do, even though it may not be up to the standards you want.

I can assure you, when I wore this do to work, I knew I looked like a nut. But when someone called me Pippi Longstocking, I played it off like that's the look I was going for for Casual Friday, and left the speaker with her head tilted to the side the way you study a piece of complex art. And she was no longer laughing. She kinda looked confused or even smitten.

 

[hairedity]

awwwh, what an awesome view on this Nonie. I hear you about the throwing people off w/that air of confident thnx~

 

[JustKiya]

I hardly ever get any comments on my appearance. I really don't care though - folx don't like it, they don't have to look at me. The only one who gets taken into account is DH..... I want him to look at me.

 

[Shay72]

I don't care about being complimented. If I do, its a plus. It's about how I feel and funk the rest. I have been getting compliments lately bc people can see the difference in my hair and that it looks healthy. Appreciated but not necessary.

 

[Iluvsmuhgrass]

I go through periods of both. When my hair's "done" and swinging people look and sometimes they say something but it's a rarity. I don't mind either way but I don't feel I "need" to get compliments. BUT I have those days when I look like a hot mess (or feel like I do when my hair's "protected" in a bun or something or when I'm so many weeks post it's ridiculous and it's frizzy and not polished.

 

[titan]

yes because I'm a vain person.

 

[santwon]

I think the only day I felt like "hey, what the?!?!" Was the day after my bc when I went to work and no one said ANYTHING. I was like...how are they not even noticing that I have less than half the hair I had on Friday?

But then, something inside me said, "Well okay...if they didn't even notice then they CLEARLY don't have a problem with it". So I went along. I didn't really mind what my friends said/thought.

 

[Glib Gurl]

Don't we all?

 

[oldcrayons]

I always get compliments. I don't really go fishing for them though. As long as I like it then who cares

 

[hairedity]

I think the only day I felt like "hey, what the?!?!" Was the day after my bc when I went to work and no one said ANYTHING. I was like...how are they not even noticing that I have less than half the hair I had on Friday?

But then, something inside me said, "Well okay...if they didn't even notice then they CLEARLY don't have a problem with it". So I went along. I didn't really mind what my friends said/thought.

No one noticed a BC! ..that's def. a bit crazy. But then again I guess it's like me going from regular transitioning state to a whole set of braids and same non reaction lol!

 

[Akemi]

Yes. I do sometimes. But not always.

But what about when they just say "You look different", and leave it at that? Someone said that to me once after I changed my hair. What's that supposed to mean??

 

[Jetblackhair]

I think what you at least wanted was a little acknowledgment. This happened to me too a while back.

I had braids put in and the people around me at work had never seen me in braids before. It seems like everybody just pretended like they didn't see the braids.

I wasn't expecting mad compliments but they could have at least acknowledge them..."oh, you got braids, how long did it take?... etc."

 

[lilsparkle825]

when i BC'd i wanted them...when i did my own kinky twists i REALLY wanted them...and when i got a dominican blowout last month i wanted them too. i suspect i would have gotten them since my hair is long by non-LHCF standards (i'm inching towards APL)...if it hadn't been for the fact that i stepped out of the salon and was hit by a cloud of post-rain humidity.

 

[santwon]

No one noticed a BC! ..that's def. a bit crazy. But then again I guess it's like me going from regular transitioning state to a whole set of braids and same non reaction lol!

Yep, nothing at all.

I think what you at least wanted was a little acknowledgment. This happened to me too a while back.

I had braids put in and the people around me at work had never seen me in braids before. It seems like everybody just pretended like they didn't see the braids.

I wasn't expecting mad compliments but they could have at least acknowledge them..."oh, you got braids, how long did it take?... etc."

Yeah, I think this was my case. You know, you transition and get all hyped up for your bc and then for there to be no reaction makes you go...huh?

 

[Jetblackhair]

^ ^ ^ Yup.

 

[discodumpling]

I get compliments but they would be worth nothing if I had to seek them out. Compliments from people I actually care about and value their opinions mean the most to me. Random compliments from strangers and co-workers get a "thank you kindly" and then I keep it moving.

I'd rather most folks keep their opinions of me (good, bad or indifferent) to themselves. I know it takes lots of restraint, because I practise this everyday!

I operate on the level of pleasing the GOD within...all others be dammned