Ivonnovi
Well-Known Member
New guy and he's instantly head-over-heals.
I can list several positives about this guy such as he opens all the doors when we're together; pulls out my chair; always a gentleman; thoughtful; caring; ....considerate....and so on (less than 1 month into knowing each other but so far most indicators are a "thumbs-up")
"MY" problem......
Inhale exhale......and he's aware of the problem but not the extent to which it annoys me.
I've politely explained (more than once) that I'm just getting over the "relationship from hell" and have just started dating, ,....and do not want to rush into another relationship let-a-lone committing to someone who I hardly know
So again? Am I being shallow? I know several men in who in this situation would run for the hills, what I want to know is how do women (the nurturers) respond to this ? Help!!!!
I can list several positives about this guy such as he opens all the doors when we're together; pulls out my chair; always a gentleman; thoughtful; caring; ....considerate....and so on (less than 1 month into knowing each other but so far most indicators are a "thumbs-up")
"MY" problem......
Inhale exhale......and he's aware of the problem but not the extent to which it annoys me.
1. He is not "well spoken" at all
o English: The sentence put this over there with that thing or contraption
o New guy: Da Sintince put dis ova dare wit dat ding owr contraptin.
2. I have tried "strong" coaching on the proper pronunciation and tongue placement to create the "th" sound. But I honestly don't see him "trying". ...It's like the "old dog refuses to learn " a new trick! (He even reworded a statment to avoid the "th" sound because I asked him to repeat what he said)
3. He ran off a similar sentence when we were in public (he was talking to a store clerk) and I literally cringed. Now I'm feeling shallow because this "embarrassment" is feeling like a deal breaker for me.
4. He's also trying to "rush" the relationship with questions like what size ring should I get you? Has offered to make space in his closet for me. Asking his young son if he'd mind if I spent more time with them.
.o English: The sentence put this over there with that thing or contraption
o New guy: Da Sintince put dis ova dare wit dat ding owr contraptin.
2. I have tried "strong" coaching on the proper pronunciation and tongue placement to create the "th" sound. But I honestly don't see him "trying". ...It's like the "old dog refuses to learn " a new trick! (He even reworded a statment to avoid the "th" sound because I asked him to repeat what he said)
3. He ran off a similar sentence when we were in public (he was talking to a store clerk) and I literally cringed. Now I'm feeling shallow because this "embarrassment" is feeling like a deal breaker for me.
4. He's also trying to "rush" the relationship with questions like what size ring should I get you? Has offered to make space in his closet for me. Asking his young son if he'd mind if I spent more time with them.
I've politely explained (more than once) that I'm just getting over the "relationship from hell" and have just started dating, ,....and do not want to rush into another relationship let-a-lone committing to someone who I hardly know
So again? Am I being shallow? I know several men in who in this situation would run for the hills, what I want to know is how do women (the nurturers) respond to this ? Help!!!!
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