Anonymous21
New Member
Here is the deal. I am an Older-30 single female and not "involved" with anyone seriously. I had a serious boyfriend for 3 years (we were almost married) and tragically after we broke up he was killed in an auto accident. Since then I really haven't been involved with anyone seriously (I don't believe it is related to his untimely & unfortunate death /images/graemlins/frown.gif) It had been 2 years since we stopped dating when the incident occurred.
Anyway I met this one guy that I found this guy with the personality, charisma that I really dug-we are very much alike and for lack of a better word he CAN Handle me and my personality. He lives in another state and unfortunately is VERY good looking and has an EGO to match. I find it hard to feed an EGO that big so I pretty much just left it alone. We corresponded for a while and it fizzled out.
Well I met another guy who is 4 years younger than me and is a SWEETHEART! He caters to my every need and I LIKE HIM but I am in no way attracted to him. At one point he tiptoed around me because he didnt want to "mess up". I was like BE YOURSELF!!!!!! I would prefer a MAN more aggressive but when I say he is a sweetey I mean just that. He tries to do everything for me and treats me wonderfully. I hang out with him, kick it with him. He is Aggressive in a sense he is always in my hair (ha ha-I have met his friends & family) but I am NOT attracted to him at all. I don't want to lead him on and I like his company but he wants to continue to something serious. I have already told him I cannot give him anything but the current day we are in and can't promise him a FUTURE, but this persitent one does not CARE!
My questions are
1) What to do about the sweetheart that I have no attraction to. I do like him but can take him in small dosages. We spent a LOT of time together this past weekend and he began to ANNOY me A LOT! I believe it is because I "like him to a point" This lead to my conversation about I can give u nothing but this moment. Mind u he is NOT giving up! Am I just a SHALLOW & pathetic person to dismiss him because of a lack of attraction????? He did annoy the H#ll out of me which leads me to believe it is more than the lack of attraction to him.....???? TRUST ME I KNOW A GOOD MAN IS HARD 2 FIND!!!!!! Mind you if I was attracted to him....I would probably be on the way to a relationship with him.
2) Should I just forget the dream guy I forgot to add both of us admitted to seeing other people and I havent spoken to him in a minute so he may be involved with someone else. When we talk we laugh have a GREAT time and enjoy each other's company! But he lives in another state and from what I notice about him...he will take a lot of work and effort......??
ADVICE PLEASE
Anyway I met this one guy that I found this guy with the personality, charisma that I really dug-we are very much alike and for lack of a better word he CAN Handle me and my personality. He lives in another state and unfortunately is VERY good looking and has an EGO to match. I find it hard to feed an EGO that big so I pretty much just left it alone. We corresponded for a while and it fizzled out.
Well I met another guy who is 4 years younger than me and is a SWEETHEART! He caters to my every need and I LIKE HIM but I am in no way attracted to him. At one point he tiptoed around me because he didnt want to "mess up". I was like BE YOURSELF!!!!!! I would prefer a MAN more aggressive but when I say he is a sweetey I mean just that. He tries to do everything for me and treats me wonderfully. I hang out with him, kick it with him. He is Aggressive in a sense he is always in my hair (ha ha-I have met his friends & family) but I am NOT attracted to him at all. I don't want to lead him on and I like his company but he wants to continue to something serious. I have already told him I cannot give him anything but the current day we are in and can't promise him a FUTURE, but this persitent one does not CARE!
My questions are
1) What to do about the sweetheart that I have no attraction to. I do like him but can take him in small dosages. We spent a LOT of time together this past weekend and he began to ANNOY me A LOT! I believe it is because I "like him to a point" This lead to my conversation about I can give u nothing but this moment. Mind u he is NOT giving up! Am I just a SHALLOW & pathetic person to dismiss him because of a lack of attraction????? He did annoy the H#ll out of me which leads me to believe it is more than the lack of attraction to him.....???? TRUST ME I KNOW A GOOD MAN IS HARD 2 FIND!!!!!! Mind you if I was attracted to him....I would probably be on the way to a relationship with him.
2) Should I just forget the dream guy I forgot to add both of us admitted to seeing other people and I havent spoken to him in a minute so he may be involved with someone else. When we talk we laugh have a GREAT time and enjoy each other's company! But he lives in another state and from what I notice about him...he will take a lot of work and effort......??
ADVICE PLEASE