kbragg
Well-Known Member
The things that attract you to your spouse/SO later become the things that irritate you the most?
The things that irritate you the most about your spouse/SO are the things you are lacking?
You eventually take on many of these irritating traits you hate?
This probably doesn't apply if you married your clone, but if you married your opposite it makes sense.
My example. I was attracted to DH because he wasn't like other guys. He was smart, stable, reliable, organized, focused, and someone I knew I could count on. I knew the moment I met him he'd be an excellent husband and father. He didn't try to get the pannies like other dudes, he really wanted to know me as a person.
DH was attracted to me because my personality is soooo animated. I was spontaneous, fun, a go-getter, a risk taker, a little wild, a bit of a bad girl
sexy, confident, bold, un-domesticated
and just different. I wasn't the "wife material" girl he was used too (literally no one else in his family shares my personality type.)
Then we get pregnant and then married
Sharing the same space ummm....yeah lol. He irons everything including his socks and drawls. Me? Straight out the dryer is fine
I only iron if it looks really bad but why iron if as soon as I put on my seat belt I'll have wrinkles (I made the dry cleaners and boot guy rich when I was on the Army - DH on the other hand ironed his own stuff...) I'm just a messy person. Disorganized like crazy. Thank God YEARS later I discovered LISTS. LISTS saved our marriage![Lol :lol: :lol:](/smilies/lol.gif)
I'm super affectionate and he's all about being "proper." I'll do the do anytime any place...possibly with spectators. He cannot do the do if everything is not put away, kids in bed, clothes folded and ready for the next day etc.
My spontaneity irks him and his stability irks me
We we over his parents house and I had a migraine so I laid my head on his lap and he got mad at me saying it was "inappropriate."
Now I find my self acting more like him and him more like me. He's more spontaneous talking about "lets just go, no plans." and I'm more tight wad like "Hell no I need an itinerary list and minute by minute schedule.
I find it funny now but there was some serious hell those first few years. We're BOTH very strong willed. Last night we actually got into an argument over an AT&T commercial (I'm right though
)
But we both realize what we have with each other. He knows that in me he has a down chick who will have his back through it all. He knows I'll change his diapers and wipe his drool. He knows I'll never complain at him about not making enough money and will always do what ever it takes to lighten the load on him and make him smile. He knows I'll light a fire under his butt and push him to reach his full potential.
I know in him I have a man I can depend on. I know he'll always put this family first and will do what most men won't to make sure we are well taken care of. I never have to worry about him coming through. I know he will support me in all I do and keep me accountable. I know he'll never complain about my weight (well unless I get too skinny
), my natural hair, my clothes, my make up, and sees more than just the outside of me.
He still gets on my damn nerves though![Lachen :lachen: :lachen:](/smilies/lachen70.gif)
The things that irritate you the most about your spouse/SO are the things you are lacking?
You eventually take on many of these irritating traits you hate?
This probably doesn't apply if you married your clone, but if you married your opposite it makes sense.
My example. I was attracted to DH because he wasn't like other guys. He was smart, stable, reliable, organized, focused, and someone I knew I could count on. I knew the moment I met him he'd be an excellent husband and father. He didn't try to get the pannies like other dudes, he really wanted to know me as a person.
DH was attracted to me because my personality is soooo animated. I was spontaneous, fun, a go-getter, a risk taker, a little wild, a bit of a bad girl
![Sekret :sekret: :sekret:](/smilies/sekret.gif)
![Look :look: :look:](/smilies/look.gif)
Then we get pregnant and then married
![Look :look: :look:](/smilies/look.gif)
![Lol :lol: :lol:](/smilies/lol.gif)
![Lol :lol: :lol:](/smilies/lol.gif)
I'm super affectionate and he's all about being "proper." I'll do the do anytime any place...possibly with spectators. He cannot do the do if everything is not put away, kids in bed, clothes folded and ready for the next day etc.
![Roll Eyes :rolleyes: :rolleyes:](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/8.0/png/unicode/64/1f644.png)
![Lol :lol: :lol:](/smilies/lol.gif)
![Ohwell :ohwell: :ohwell:](/smilies/ohwell.gif)
Now I find my self acting more like him and him more like me. He's more spontaneous talking about "lets just go, no plans." and I'm more tight wad like "Hell no I need an itinerary list and minute by minute schedule.
I find it funny now but there was some serious hell those first few years. We're BOTH very strong willed. Last night we actually got into an argument over an AT&T commercial (I'm right though
![Look :look: :look:](/smilies/look.gif)
But we both realize what we have with each other. He knows that in me he has a down chick who will have his back through it all. He knows I'll change his diapers and wipe his drool. He knows I'll never complain at him about not making enough money and will always do what ever it takes to lighten the load on him and make him smile. He knows I'll light a fire under his butt and push him to reach his full potential.
I know in him I have a man I can depend on. I know he'll always put this family first and will do what most men won't to make sure we are well taken care of. I never have to worry about him coming through. I know he will support me in all I do and keep me accountable. I know he'll never complain about my weight (well unless I get too skinny
![Lol :lol: :lol:](/smilies/lol.gif)
He still gets on my damn nerves though
![Lachen :lachen: :lachen:](/smilies/lachen70.gif)