southernchocolate
Well-Known Member
I’ve never seen a good relationship in my family. I mean never!!! I don’t even know what a normal relationship is. The only thing I’ve seen in my family as far as relationships are fighting and cheating. The men constantly cheat and the women constantly take them back. This includes my mother, my grandmother, some of my aunts and my own little sister. For a long time I thought that this was love. If there is no fighting or no one is cheating, then it must not be a real relationship because these are just normal problems that relationships go though. I saw myself going down this path at one time and even cheated with someone else’s man because in my family, “love” is all that matters. (I didn’t really love that kneegro; I just had some jacked up self-esteem)
I’m currently single and taking this time to get closer to my God and get to know me better. But I’m also at the age where thoughts of marriage and baby’s are starting to creep in. I want love. I know that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but I don’t want to go through what the ladies in my family are going through. It’s so bad in my family that if they do see a couple that is happy, someone will go, “He’s probably cheating on her.” This is the thinking that goes on. I want to be able to break the cycle but I really am scared. How would I even begin?
I’m currently single and taking this time to get closer to my God and get to know me better. But I’m also at the age where thoughts of marriage and baby’s are starting to creep in. I want love. I know that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but I don’t want to go through what the ladies in my family are going through. It’s so bad in my family that if they do see a couple that is happy, someone will go, “He’s probably cheating on her.” This is the thinking that goes on. I want to be able to break the cycle but I really am scared. How would I even begin?