BroadstreetBully
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...has me rethinking my friendship with a few people. When your friends are dating each other, things can get complicated. Names have been changed of course. Sorry this is so long, I'll try to break it up.
Years ago I met a guy, Alex, and we became friends. I got to know some of his friends and became close to a few of them, especially one of them--Brian. Alex started dating a girl, Melanie, and she and I became really cool with one another. Now Alex and Melanie only dated briefly and never became exclusive. They never became exclusive because Alex wasn't that into her. He had been chasing this other girl for years, and he would date around to get his mind off of her, but he couldn't forget about her. He started getting flaky with Melanie who got tired of it and moved on.
Fast-forward to a few months later and Melanie gets close with his friend Brian. They start dating. Alex is perfectly cool with this because...
1. He was never that into Melanie
2. He was still into the other girl who gave him a little false hope
3. He knew Brian was looking for love and would treat Melanie right.
Now the present. Melanie and Brian are still together and VERY happy, in fact, they announced their engagement a few days ago. Alex is still single and has come to terms with the fact that he'll never have that girl he's been chasing for years. He had been acting strange for the last few months and once he heard Melanie and Brian were engaged, things got worse. He called me earlier today and in a rage told me stuff I'd rather not know.
Alex said he is in love with Melanie. I'm not sure how this can be, but he's positive that he regrets letting her get away. They haven't done anything because Melanie is so in love with Brian, but Alex wants to change that. He hates Brian now. Back when Brian and Melanie got together, Alex was their biggest cheerleader, now...not so much. He feels like Melanie should have been his. He's mad that he gave the other girl so many years of his life, and he's blaming Brian for it. Alex actually told me that he is going to try to break them up.
I don't know what to do because I don't want to be in the middle of this crap. I'm not sure whether I should take him seriously or not. I am cool with everyone involved and I hate that it has come down to this. I don't want to cut everyone off but I might have to. I know you all think I should tell them was Alex said but it is much easier said than done.
Years ago I met a guy, Alex, and we became friends. I got to know some of his friends and became close to a few of them, especially one of them--Brian. Alex started dating a girl, Melanie, and she and I became really cool with one another. Now Alex and Melanie only dated briefly and never became exclusive. They never became exclusive because Alex wasn't that into her. He had been chasing this other girl for years, and he would date around to get his mind off of her, but he couldn't forget about her. He started getting flaky with Melanie who got tired of it and moved on.
Fast-forward to a few months later and Melanie gets close with his friend Brian. They start dating. Alex is perfectly cool with this because...
1. He was never that into Melanie
2. He was still into the other girl who gave him a little false hope
3. He knew Brian was looking for love and would treat Melanie right.
Now the present. Melanie and Brian are still together and VERY happy, in fact, they announced their engagement a few days ago. Alex is still single and has come to terms with the fact that he'll never have that girl he's been chasing for years. He had been acting strange for the last few months and once he heard Melanie and Brian were engaged, things got worse. He called me earlier today and in a rage told me stuff I'd rather not know.
Alex said he is in love with Melanie. I'm not sure how this can be, but he's positive that he regrets letting her get away. They haven't done anything because Melanie is so in love with Brian, but Alex wants to change that. He hates Brian now. Back when Brian and Melanie got together, Alex was their biggest cheerleader, now...not so much. He feels like Melanie should have been his. He's mad that he gave the other girl so many years of his life, and he's blaming Brian for it. Alex actually told me that he is going to try to break them up.
I don't know what to do because I don't want to be in the middle of this crap. I'm not sure whether I should take him seriously or not. I am cool with everyone involved and I hate that it has come down to this. I don't want to cut everyone off but I might have to. I know you all think I should tell them was Alex said but it is much easier said than done.