40+ single, never married no kid..waiting!

I didn't get married until I was 43 and have only been married for 20 months, so I was single for a long time. Girl, embrace your singleness and become very comfortable in your own skin. I really believe that God wants you to be happy and content with your relationship with Him, and then He will cause you and the person whom He has for you to come in contact with one another.

But it is true that God helps those who help themselves. Go places that tend to be frequented by men. I love doing DIY home projects, so I became a fixture in Home Depot, Lowes, the tool dept. in Sears, etc. You know how many men you encounter in those places. While in there, ask questions and look for help. Take classes at your local community college where you will find a mixture of men and women.

Also, don't be afraid to go it alone. Seeks out events going on in your city or other cities. I loved being single, so I had no problem buying one ticket to go to plays, concerts, sporting events, etc. And it is true that men are more comfortable approaching a woman individually then one who is among a group of girlfriends. Of course, as in any situation, you have to ask God for discernment. Folks out there these days can be crazy!
 
Yes it's true they do flap their gums too much :grin:, but I believe there is some truth in what he is saying hell he had me questioning some of my past realtionships. I think if we are brutally honest with ourselves we can't keep blaming the lack of decent men (because many of us have had at least one decent guy). The question is what prevented us from marrying that guy, just a thought.

Is he married?

What's his take on men over 30 who've never married? Is it the same?
 
ITA. IMO S_P it sounds like you are self-sabotaging. :ohwell: You have an opportunity to NOT be single and probably have a great life with a great guy, but you aren't giving it a chance. Just my two cents, for whatever it's worth...

Thanks. Before I met Guy #1 I wasn't dating anyone else. I allowed myself to just be with him. I can't help that I'm not in love with this guy. I'm just not. There's nothing that I can do about it. I've tried unsuccessfully for over 3 years now. I can't marry a man that I simply do not love and am not attracted to. I watched my parents make that mistake over and over because they didn't want to be alone. I'd rather be alone than be in a loveless relationship. I DO NOT LOVE HIM! I can't be made to feel horrible about myself because of feelings that aren't there. For 3 years I hated myself because I didn't feel that way. The amazing amount of guilt nearly made me suicidal. I can't continue to beat myself up and blame myself because I don't love the guy. I will not do that to myself anymore.

As for Guy #2, I broke up with him last weekend. He's history. :hardslap:

I'm getting out there and enjoying my single life. Being proactive and taking charge. I've signed up for 3 Meet-Up events over the weekend and doing something I've never done: Salsa dancing!! :giggle:

I'm doing much better now that I have Guy #2 out of my life. Me and Guy #1 will always be friends, but I have absolutely no romantic feelings for him at all.
 
I've tried unsuccessfully for over 3 years now. I can't marry a man that I simply do not love and am not attracted to. I watched my parents make that mistake over and over because they didn't want to be alone. I'd rather be alone than be in a loveless relationship. I DO NOT LOVE HIM! I can't be made to feel horrible about myself because of feelings that aren't there.

Me and Guy #1 will always be friends, but I have absolutely no romantic feelings for him at all.

I understand how you feel. I ended a relationship with someone I did not love and wasn't attracted to. I'm so happy I made that decision. If I'd married him I would have been so unhappy right now. Why settle? Follow your heart.
 
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