2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

[Evolving78]

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I'm finger detangling my hair while watching the Bachelorette. From this point on in this stretch, I will be finger detangling prior to shampooing. 'll be 9 weeks post on Wednesday and my NG is trying to show me whose boss. I'm trying to stretch to 17 weeks do I'm going to need some cheerleaders. Sixteen weeks was my longest stretch ever and that was a struggle.

I've been seriously thinking of getting medium box braids to help me get. I can't do wigs because I sweat in my head something fierce. If you have worn a weave OR braids, what is the shortest and longest you've ever kept them in??

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shortest was the same day, the longest was a month. i don't keep braids in long.

 

[divachyk]

Can you use salt often? Or once in a blue? @divachyk

@DominicanBrazilian82, there's a thread I studied along with shortdub78's recommendation. It seems some have pulled it off successfully a little more frequent than others. I will only use it if my hair is super dry and I can't get moisture up through steaming and/or suffering from protein overload. I'm just cautious of using it frequently as I don't want the salt 1) causing cuticle damage, 2) eating away at my strands or 3) stripping too much protein out of my hair that it weakens the strands too much. These are not documented, just my personal fears.

@shortdub78, how often do you use the salt conditioner?

 

[Evolving78]

@DominicanBrazilian82, there's a thread I studied along with shortdub78's recommendation. It seems some have pulled it off successfully a little more frequent than others. I will only use it if my hair is super dry and I can't get moisture up through steaming and/or suffering from protein overload. I'm just cautious of using it frequently as I don't want the salt 1) causing cuticle damage, 2) eating away at my strands or 3) stripping too much protein out of my hair that it weakens the strands too much. These are not documented, just my personal fears.

@shortdub78, how often do you use the salt conditioner?

i only used it a few times last year. i think once you recover, go back to your regular deep conditioning sessions. once i got my hair back in shape, i stayed away from protein for about 6 months.

 

[KiWiStyle]

shortest was the same day, the longest was a month. i don't keep braids in long.

I'm going to see if I can get a box braid installed at 12 weeks post then leave them in for four weeks. Take down and protein treat and baby for a week prior to relaxing at 17 weeks. A lady I found says to call for a consult appointment when I'm ready to get them installed. I'm not paying an absurd amount of money either.

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[Cattypus1]

I bet, LOL! That's why Cattypus1 had to give up, she needed her fix any how...any way and SD wasn't delivering, lol.

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You ain't lying! Still having a little withdrawal and haven't even tried the stuff!

 

[Cattypus1]

.....KiWiStyle...Not very much slip huh? Yeah I'll pass on it. I need slip in my life .

So in the Chi Kiwi is getting her DC....Meanwhile in Georgia Enexit ain't did nothin' but detangled and applied her prepoo. I still need to Shampoo, Do my reconstructive treatment, and steam (DC).

*SIGH* I sure wish this struggle wasn't as real as it is......

Girl, you betta get that party started! I gotta try my straw set again with some different products...I'm lookin a little raggedy right now! You can do it!

 

[Cattypus1]

Cattypus1 xu93texas Altruisticoam yoli184 shortdub78 EnExitStageLeft soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe
I'm finger detangling my hair while watching the Bachelorette. From this point on in this stretch, I will be finger detangling prior to shampooing. 'll be 9 weeks post on Wednesday and my NG is trying to show me whose boss. I'm trying to stretch to 17 weeks do I'm going to need some cheerleaders. Sixteen weeks was my longest stretch ever and that was a struggle.

I've been seriously thinking of getting medium box braids to help me get. I can't do wigs because I sweat in my head something fierce. If you have worn a weave OR braids, what is the shortest and longest you've ever kept them in??

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Got my skirt and pom-poms! Ready to get my cheer on...we'll be stretching and cheering together. Gotta show that NG She's not the boss of me!

 

[klsjackson]

divachyk: I need to do a corrective relaxer. I'm wondering if I could correct those areas that are really underprocessed and continue to stretch my relaxer? I would not go near the new growth, just those areas in the middle that need correcting.

Anyone else have any thoughts or suggestions? Please let me know. These underprocessed areas are really working my nerves. I am 5 weeks post and normally stretch for 10 to 12 weeks. shortdub78 KiWiStyle: I would like to hear your thoughts. Thanks ladies!

 

[Evolving78]

divachyk: I need to do a corrective relaxer. I'm wondering if I could correct those areas that are really underprocessed and continue to stretch my relaxer? I would not go near the new growth, just those areas in the middle that need correcting.

Anyone else have any thoughts or suggestions? Please let me know. These underprocessed areas are really working my nerves. I am 5 weeks post and normally stretch for 10 to 12 weeks. shortdub78 KiWiStyle: I would like to hear your thoughts. Thanks ladies!

i say wait another week or so and do a corrective and the new growth. have someone help you, so that you can have another pair of eyes. recently, i was 6 weeks post and got a corrective. my hair is doing great. you want to do everything at one time. remember the relaxer will run off on the previous relaxed hair when you rinse. you don't want to do that twice.

 

[DominicanBrazilian82]

These underprocessed areas are really working my nerves.

klsjackson... Girl I know how you feel . My 2 inches of under-processed hair with flat roots and silky stands looks so silly when the humidity hits it. I'm gonna wait it out though. Been dealing with it for 10 weeks now... So it'll have to just be what it is until Aug. 31.

 

[klsjackson]

@klsjackson... Girl I know how you feel . My 2 inches of under-processed hair with flat roots and silky stands looks so silly when the humidity hits it. I'm gonna wait it out though. Been dealing with it for 10 weeks now... So it'll have to just be what it is until Aug. 31.

That's exactly my issue!! It has gotten very hot and humid here and those areas puffed up like crazy yesterday. It looks really silly for parts to be relaxed and other areas area are all puffy.

 

[klsjackson]

i say wait another week or so and do a corrective and the new growth. have someone help you, so that you can have another pair of eyes. recently, i was 6 weeks post and got a corrective. my hair is doing great. you want to do everything at one time. remember the relaxer will run off on the previous relaxed hair when you rinse. you don't want to do that twice.

I think I will have my mom help me, so that I don't risk overprocessing my hair. I didn't think about the run off during the next relaxer. But what if I coated the previous relaxed hair, won't that protect it from run off when I rinse, or no?

 

[naija24]

scheduled a relaxer touch up for today! very excited. It would be great to feel my scalp again. I'm gonna be about 7 weeks post. i'd stretch longer but my hair is a hot mess right now.

question: since I attempted a relaxer last week and it failed completely (did only 1/4 of my head and my roots didn't change at all) should I wait or something? I used color treated relaxer only and I think it was too gentle.

thoughts? My appt is this evening at 5:30pm.

 

[Evolving78]

I think I will have my mom help me, so that I don't risk overprocessing my hair. I didn't think about the run off during the next relaxer. But what if I coated the previous relaxed hair, won't that protect it from run off when I rinse, or no?

yes, but you don't want to do that twice. just do everything at once. don't correct the underprocessed parts, then turn around weeks later an relax the new growth. that's doing too much.

 

[DominicanBrazilian82]

scheduled a relaxer touch up for today! very excited. It would be great to feel my scalp again. I'm gonna be about 7 weeks post. i'd stretch longer but my hair is a hot mess right now.

question: since I attempted a relaxer last week and it failed completely (did only 1/4 of my head and my roots didn't change at all) should I wait or something? I used color treated relaxer only and I think it was too gentle.

thoughts? My appt is this evening at 5:30pm.

You just did a relaxer last week? I would wait; even if it was only on a part of your head. Technically you aren't 7 weeks post because you relaxed last week. IMO, you should definitely wait. Give it a good 6 weeks of bunning and PS'ing. If you don't, you might over process and get breakage. HTH

 

[KhandiB]

Loving - I relaxed this weekend, here is my measure, not a TON of growth but my hair is thickening up! I wont measure again until the fall , but Im happy with the growth Ive gotten in 6 months!! Hows it going? I will be clipping at that time

 

[divachyk]

klsjackson, ITA with shortdub78. Relax all of it at the same. I ended my relaxer stretch around weeks 6 or 8 when needing a corrective. I didn't go the full 10-12 as I normally would.

 

[Loving]

KhandiB It looks great! And shiny!

I'm only 4.5 weeks post so I'm not due for a T/U until next month. I'm getting married in November and have been toying with the idea of evening up my ends then. Another thought I have is to wait until January to do it.

 

[KhandiB]

Loving - awww! Congrats on your upcoming wedding!!! I am actually going to try and go no direct heat for 4 weeks, and bun it up as much as possible, I have decent length, I want to give my ends a break .

KhandiB It looks great! And shiny!

I'm only 4.5 weeks post so I'm not due for a T/U until next month. I'm getting married in November and have been toying with the idea of evening up my ends then. Another thought I have is to wait until January to do it.

 

[naija24]

You just did a relaxer last week? I would wait; even if it was only on a part of your head. Technically you aren't 7 weeks post because you relaxed last week. IMO, you should definitely wait. Give it a good 6 weeks of bunning and PS'ing. If you don't, you might over process and get breakage. HTH

DominicanBrazilian82 None of my NG was straightened or even "relaxed" a little when I did it last week. I don't have enough hair to bun and there are really very few PS styles someone like me can do other than weave or braids. I considered doing cornrow extensions but that may be pricey.

I just can't stand how my hair looks right now. It's so hot, I work out a lot, and nothing in my arsenal of products is helping.

 

[FelaShrine]

Nice shiny hair KhandiB whats the regime?

 

[DominicanBrazilian82]

DominicanBrazilian82 None of my NG was straightened or even "relaxed" a little when I did it last week. I don't have enough hair to bun and there are really very few PS styles someone like me can do other than weave or braids. I considered doing cornrow extensions but that may be pricey.

I just can't stand how my hair looks right now. It's so hot, I work out a lot, and nothing in my arsenal of products is helping.

naija24 I'm so sorry Mama... Before relaxing, try to get a better understanding as to why it didn't take. What relaxer did you use? Did you have a lot of product on your hair and roots (oils, conditioners, moisturizers, etc)...

 

[KhandiB]

Hi FelaShrine

Thanks! I airdry with Coconut Oil and seal with JoJoba Oil

Nice shiny hair KhandiB whats the regime?

 

[naija24]

naija24 I'm so sorry Mama... Before relaxing, try to get a better understanding as to why it didn't take. What relaxer did you use? Did you have a lot of product on your hair and roots (oils, conditioners, moisturizers, etc)...

I used Dark and Lovely Color Treated Relaxer that I got from Sally's. It didn't take even though I left it on for like...20 minutes. I think half of my forehead's edges took a little. But that's it.

I maybe had a lot of oil on my head from the day before but that's it.

 

[Tatilove]

I used Dark and Lovely Color Treated Relaxer that I got from Sally's. It didn't take even though I left it on for like...20 minutes. I think half of my forehead's edges took a little. But that's it.

I maybe had a lot of oil on my head from the day before but that's it.

This has happened to me before, but I don't like when my hair is too straight anyway. I actually purposely put some oil on my hair before I relax it, so it won't be over processed or too straight, like that I still have some body.

I know using heat every day is not really option, so what I would suggest would be to rollerset. When you wash or cowash, rollerset with the regular rollers (magnetic), and let dry over night (I do that all the time, and since your hair isn't very long, it won't be uncomfortable when sleeping).

On days when you don't wash your hair, but the sweat from your workout makes your hair curly, I suggest using a good moisturizer and wearing sponge rollers to bed.

 

[Cattypus1]

Lmbo!

girl i told you i got a lot just to be trying something out! i was sitting around here like a crackhead waiting for my fix! it was like Ray Charles going cold turkey!

I'm so green...I want some . I gotta know how you love it on your hair...crack kills!

 

[Cattypus1]

Cattypus1 xu93texas Altruisticoam yoli184 shortdub78 EnExitStageLeft soonergirl SunySydeofLyfe
I'm finger detangling my hair while watching the Bachelorette. From this point on in this stretch, I will be finger detangling prior to shampooing. 'll be 9 weeks post on Wednesday and my NG is trying to show me whose boss. I'm trying to stretch to 17 weeks do I'm going to need some cheerleaders. Sixteen weeks was my longest stretch ever and that was a struggle.

I've been seriously thinking of getting medium box braids to help me get. I can't do wigs because I sweat in my head something fierce. If you have worn a weave OR braids, what is the shortest and longest you've ever kept them in??

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I looked into box braids using my own hair...NOT...I discovered some serious breakage at my nape which is usually a pretty stable area for me--not cool. I do have some advise for those considering a straw set...never, never, NEVER do it if your hair is not even because of breakage or whatever...the ends knotted something fierce in the places where my hair is uneven. I had to resort to the shears is some places.

 

[DominicanBrazilian82]

I used Dark and Lovely Color Treated Relaxer that I got from Sally's. It didn't take even though I left it on for like...20 minutes. I think half of my forehead's edges took a little. But that's it.

I maybe had a lot of oil on my head from the day before but that's it.

Well I'm #TeamLinange... So maybe that will be a better option for you. Quick question: You purposely only relaxed 1/4 of your hair and left it on for 20 minutes? We're you just trying it out, or...? Just curious. naija24

 

[KiWiStyle]

I looked into box braids using my own hair...NOT...I discovered some serious breakage at my nape which is usually a pretty stable area for me--not cool. I do have some advise for those considering a straw set...never, never, NEVER do it if your hair is not even because of breakage or whatever...the ends knotted something fierce in the places where my hair is uneven. I had to resort to the shears is some places.

Oh, no! Cattypus1 How much did you have to cut?? My husband asked if I could just have my own hair braided...I was like, boy I'd look like a bald headed fool, lol!

I recently discovered a small area above my nape that has been splitting like crazy, I'm talking more than one split on some strands. The area appears to be under processed and had been for a while...I think my stylist misses it when she's trimming. I've been doing my own trims this year so when I noticed it, I went all over and trimmed my ends and strand by stranded cut splits from the breaking area using a 4X magnifying mirror. I was horrified! This is also contributing to my thin ends because its not as long as my nape or crown. I'm going to take another look at it when I straighten again at the end if the month to see how the splits are doing. Hopefully I had gotten most of them...I remember going cross eyed because I had been searching and destroying for soo long, I had to stop.

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[naija24]

Well I'm #TeamLinange... So maybe that will be a better option for you. Quick question: You purposely only relaxed 1/4 of your hair and left it on for 20 minutes? We're you just trying it out, or...? Just curious. naija24

DominicanBrazilian82 no, I just suck at doing it hahaha. I wanted to do the whole head but oh well.

Doesn't matter now. I got a fresh touch up last night and I"m so pleased! Zero burns. It's crazy! She's officially my go to stylist now. Also, because my roots are straight, I can go back to really not using any heat.

I wish my sides would catch up with my nape though. I have 3 inches to SL in the back and 2 inches on the sides to be NL. I think I'd look more...reasonable by October.