2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

[mschristine]

mschristine hnntrr Mande30
Ok ladies, how you doing? (in my Wendy Williams voice)
Thursday will be week 6 for me and this is when my shedding starts. I'm going to do a tea rinse on my next wash day, hopefully it will help. I had a minor setback. I had been really wanting to try the Dabur Vatika coconut oil and i finally ordered some. I used it as an overnight pre poo and behaved like a strong protein on my hair . I'm protein sensitive and it was so difficult to detangle after my DC that I had to DC a second time! But, my hair was so pretty that week. I'm sure Vatika is a good product, but I can't use it overnight and I will only use when I need protein. So, now I'm trying to combat this protein overload with moisture. Other than that I have a nice amount of new growth and I'm looking forward the second half of this 12 week stretch.

Wow, I had a protein issue as well. I tried to up my moisture by misting my hair with water/olive oil/vegetable glycerin mix and then M&S. that seems to be working. The back of my hair feels thin to me so I'm going to do scalp massages a couple times a week with some castor oil to see if it helps. I'm also trying out Biosilk hydrating conditioner and some new oils

 

[lamaria211]

That little boy of yours is a cutie pie!!!!

Yeah, lets do just that go as long as we can. My initial thoughts were to go for an additional 12 weeks. Can you imagine a 6 month stretch!??!??! I am happy to report my shedding is minimal and I am thinking the protein did the job. I am going to try that protein pudding once a week and keep bunning. I was in two braids but since I dont have a wig I was looking kinda country...lol...all for the greater good. I am planning to take it a week at a time and evaluate my hair often.

My new plan for growth is to prepoo/steam/poo/dc/airdry/LOCO/bun on Sundays and only take the bun down to m/s.

Thanks
My regimen hasn't changed, I'm still DCing x2 a week, washing on weekends and M&S daily. I really want that book The Science of Black Hair Care. So let's do this stretch on top of a stretch. I definitely think we can make it 6 whole Months

 

[Brwnbeauti]

Yes sorry...Creme of Nature....
Very close...I was maybe an inch or two longer in 2009 and I got too daggone happy with it and fried it curling it every week, just swanging it! Too much! and I had to cut it back to above shoulder length....

Bad pic.....lol

How are you holding up? I tried to dc with SheaMoisture Shea deep mask something something- cant remember the name but it made my hair erplexed now I'm sitting under the. Dryer praying for a decent roller set.

 

[sharifeh]

yoli184 girl stop, LOL! This is exactly what I've been doing for the past 2-3 cowashes, only I gently detangle with my shower comb in the shower so I won't have tangles as I air dry. I recently stopped combing my hair while wet and I've seen significantly less breakage/shedding.

I'm going to try this for the rest of the month to see how my hair responds to daily CW because Lord knows my scalp loves it!

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KiWiStyle i agree that combing hair while wet is not such a good idea, do you set your hair though? if so how do you deal with that? tia

 

[KhandiB]

I had an awesome air dry today. I did a CW and then moisturized with Ivory Moist conditioner and then used Jojoba, EVCO and Amla to seal, my hair is so soft.... wowow.

 

[sharifeh]

sunnieb can you direct me to any threads with some help on non-heat styles for relaxed hair? I've been on this board for about 4 years and I've pretty much only mastered roller setting. I've tried braid out, twist out, bantu knot maybe 1 time each and I couldn't get it. Or do you have any youtube recs? I'm trying to branch out and not be so dependent on roller setting when I have to go out since it's so much manipulation

 

[KiWiStyle]

KiWiStyle i agree that combing hair while wet is not such a good idea, do you set your hair though? if so how do you deal with that? tia

I have of late been Detangling in the shower while the conditioner is still on and water running down my hair. Honestly, I don't lose any hair this way. Now when I wait to detangle after I apply my leave-in, I lose more hair but an average amount. I lose even less if I wait to detangle when my hair is partially air dried. Mind you, I'm only 2 weeks post, lol! A few more weeks and plenty of new growth I'll have to reassess my Detangling/drying method.

I do rollerset my hair and my hair does really good with wet combing. A year or so ago, I could under no circumstances wet set my hair without tons of breakage.

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[SunySydeofLyfe]

Thanks
My regimen hasn't changed, I'm still DCing x2 a week, washing on weekends and M&S daily. I really want that book The Science of Black Hair Care. So let's do this stretch on top of a stretch. I definitely think we can make it 6 whole Months

Lets do it. I know we can. I need to calculate how long i stretched while pregnant. I was so ugggghhh i bunned, barely washed my hair and when i did TU my hair had grown.

You peaked my curiosity. I looked up the reviews and this book got great reviews. I want one too. I wish i had a nook....10 looks better than 25....let me know your plans it seems like it would be a great asset.

 

[Mande30]

mschristine hnntrr klsjackson Mande30

Team Protein Overload!!!

 

[xu93texas]

Hi ladies! Now that we're all post relaxer now, how's our hair doing? Needing more protein, moisture or perfectly balanced? I would say I'm perfectly balanced. I am wanting to CW daily but I manage to stretch it out ever 2-3 days instead. I CW last night using TJ Nourish Spa, applied my leave-in DB Daily and then my Ceramide mix and bunned. This morning I moisturized with QB AOHC and sealed with QB Olive & Honey Hydrating Balm. I love sealing with this delicious product, these are the ingredients:

Grapeseed Oil
Olive Oil Blend
Vegetable Glycerin
Palm & Sorbitol Monosters (Vegetable Emulsifier)
Pure Wildflower Honey
MSM
Citrus Limon & Citrus Aurantium EO scent

I'm now whole head baggying underneath my scarf.

@yoli184
@xu93texas
@shortdub78
@Cattypus1
@Altruisticoam

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KiWiStyle, my hair is just OK. I've been focusing on maintaining a moisture/protein balance. I did a post relaxer wash this past Sunday. I used ORS Replenishing conditioner and Joico Moisture Recovery Treatment Balm for DC and a rinse out conditioner.

Today, I'm going to do an amla/henna/indigo treatment and cowash afterwards.

My future plans are to shampoo/DC on Sundays, and cowash on Tues/Thursday.

 

[Luckyladyj]

I am 7 weeks post this week and I plan to go another 14 weeks.Its going good so far I havent used too much heat so far.The only time I have used heat was under a hooded dryer once or twice for a deep condition,but I always air dry.I will co wash tonight air dry and bun.I made an appt to go to salon on Saturday for a wash and roller set.She is probably going to give me a trim but I really dont want to.I know its suppose to be healthy for hair but i am scared the length I gained will be gone with the trim.I wish I knew how to trim I will just have stylist blow dry the new growth and do a wrap.I really hoping for good results.

 

[sharifeh]

I have of late been Detangling in the shower while the conditioner is still on and water running down my hair. Honestly, I don't lose any hair this way. Now when I wait to detangle after I apply my leave-in, I lose more hair but an average amount. I lose even less if I wait to detangle when my hair is partially air dried. Mind you, I'm only 2 weeks post, lol! A few more weeks and plenty of new growth I'll have to reassess my Detangling/drying method.

I do rollerset my hair and my hair does really good with wet combing. A year or so ago, I could under no circumstances wet set my hair without tons of breakage.

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Hmm I still get breakage when I wet set. What changed for you?

 

[sunnieb]

sharifeh - Check these out:

Relaxed ladies with this Hair

Relaxed Bone Straight, No Direct Heat....

Airdrying Relaxed 4b Hair

 

[KiWiStyle]

KiWiStyle, my hair is just OK. I've been focusing on maintaining a moisture/protein balance. I did a post relaxer wash this past Sunday. I used ORS Replenishing conditioner and Joico Moisture Recovery Treatment Balm for DC and a rinse out conditioner.

Today, I'm going to do an amla/henna/indigo treatment and cowash afterwards.

My future plans are to shampoo/DC on Sundays, and cowash on Tues/Thursday.

xu93texas it looks like you are off to a really good start back on your relaxed HHJ .

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[KiWiStyle]

Hmm I still get breakage when I wet set. What changed for you?

Stronger hair in general which is due to protein treatments and porosity control correctives. Stretching my relaxers and using mild relaxers has helped me maintain thicker strands, before they were wisp little hairs that could barely be seen if you hold one strand up. Finally finding the right products that gives great slip while wet helps. Also, Henna has helped a lot too. Because the hair is in its most fragile state while wet, seamless comes are a must, especially when using rattail combs.

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[beautyintheyes]

So i have been trying the water only method on accident because school started and I've been so busy i only wash it every 2 or 3 weeks and I'm broke because of school so i have no product to use on my hair other than my oils i have left and it seems fine as long as i spray my hair in the morning and night then seal ... If i don't it doesn't feel soft but not dry at the ends so i focus only on my ends ill give it another month and see if its good or bad

 

[KhandiB]

I found the love of my life yesterday –

I got this because it had PolyQuats and Soy, Corn and Wheat Proteins, was looking for a new reconstructor and found this. Man this stuff is so luscious. It has ingredients that most people don’t use like mineral oil . Otherwise it is sulfate, paraben and glycerin free.

 

[xu93texas]

I found the love of my life yesterday –

I got this because it had PolyQuats and Soy, Corn and Wheat Proteins, was looking for a new reconstructor and found this. Man this stuff is so luscious. It has ingredients that most people don’t use like mineral oil . Otherwise it is sulfate, paraben and glycerin free.

KhandiB,
Your bun is lush. Your hair is always on point!!. Where did you find this product??

Sometimes mineral oil is not the devil. I actually like Silicon Mix conditioner and it has mineral oil in it.

 

[SunySydeofLyfe]

Lets do it. I know we can. I need to calculate how long i stretched while pregnant. I was so ugggghhh i bunned, barely washed my hair and when i did TU my hair had grown.

You peaked my curiosity. I looked up the reviews and this book got great reviews. I want one too. I wish i had a nook....10 looks better than 25....let me know your plans it seems like it would be a great asset.

My preggos stretch was for 19 weeks. We can do this 24!! I'm hoping to be BSL by then.

 

[KhandiB]

xu93texas – This was at Walgreens for 6.99 . Im not against Mineral Oil, Its in pretty much all my products. And TY for the compliment on my bun, I am happy because it looks like the cowashing and oil Ive been using has been working!!

KhandiB,
Your bun is lush. Your hair is always on point!!. Where did you find this product??

Sometimes mineral oil is not the devil. I actually like Silicon Mix conditioner and it has mineral oil in it.

 

[Cattypus1]

Hi ladies! Now that we're all post relaxer now, how's our hair doing? Needing more protein, moisture or perfectly balanced? I would say I'm perfectly balanced. I am wanting to CW daily but I manage to stretch it out ever 2-3 days instead. I CW last night using TJ Nourish Spa, applied my leave-in DB Daily and then my Ceramide mix and bunned. This morning I moisturized with QB AOHC and sealed with QB Olive & Honey Hydrating Balm. I love sealing with this delicious product, these are the ingredients:

Grapeseed Oil
Olive Oil Blend
Vegetable Glycerin
Palm & Sorbitol Monosters (Vegetable Emulsifier)
Pure Wildflower Honey
MSM
Citrus Limon & Citrus Aurantium EO scent

I'm now whole head baggying underneath my scarf.

yoli184
xu93texas
shortdub78
Cattypus1
Altruisticoam

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I think my hair is mad at bunning...I've been trying to change the position but the hair on the back of my head seems to be suffering...really, really tangly. I'm hendigo-ing today and I haven't tried the high bun yet but I think that's my next choice. Your hydrating balm sounds lovely! Did you henna last week? Any more henna-heads in the group?

 

[Evolving78]

I think my hair is mad at bunning...I've been trying to change the position but the hair on the back of my head seems to be suffering...really, really tangly. I'm hendigo-ing today and I haven't tried the high bun yet but I think that's my next choice. Your hydrating balm sounds lovely! Did you henna last week? Any more henna-heads in the group?

how are you doing your bun? i don't really mess with the high bun. it's too much manipulation with me trying to make it look neat.

 

[Rozlewis]

Toy, are you still relaxing this weekend? How has your hair been doing?

 

[KiWiStyle]

I think my hair is mad at bunning...I've been trying to change the position but the hair on the back of my head seems to be suffering...really, really tangly. I'm hendigo-ing today and I haven't tried the high bun yet but I think that's my next choice. Your hydrating balm sounds lovely! Did you henna last week? Any more henna-heads in the group?

I did henna last week I added a tad bit more indigo than usual so it's darker.

Are you using a sock bun? For some reason those high buns don't look cute on me, I guess I need more thickness and length. So the hair in the back is being damaged from your buns? What type of hair pins are you using??

Good luck with your henndigo!!!

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[Cattypus1]

I did henna last week I added a tad bit more indigo than usual so it's darker.

Are you using a sock bun? For some reason those high buns don't look cute on me, I guess I need more thickness and length. So the hair in the back is being damaged from your buns? What type of hair pins are you using??

Good luck with your henndigo!!!

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I have been using my scrunchie for buns. It's the ponytail that my hair doesn't like. The hair in the middle gets all tangly. I added less indigo this time because I thought my hair got too dark last time. What is your recipe? Last time I did 100 gm of henna and indigo each. This time I used only 50 gm of indigo. High buns don't really look good on me either. It's just a thought to change the position of the pony.

 

[Toy]

Rozlewis,I will be relaxing this weekend and i cant wait..my hair is a puffy itchy mess.

This 12 wk journey has been a new expierence but this will be my stretching limit.

I survived

 

[hnntrr]

mschristine klsjackson Mande30

hey ladies! i am doing really well with my stretch! normally id be perming right about now, but! I have been doin my cowash 3x a week and tea rinse once a week and have been nearly heat free for about 3 weeks now and my ng is feelin SO good. Confident I will make it to my 12 week mini goal. My long term goal is 6 mo to see if I want to transition to natural. If not I may just start relaxing every 6 mo (if I can make it) I am super excited. sooo excited. plus! seeing some length . planning on wet wrapping after my DC on sunday, and dusting my ends/splits.

 

[Mande30]

@mschristine @klsjackson @Mande30

hey ladies! i am doing really well with my stretch! normally id be perming right about now, but! I have been doin my cowash 3x a week and tea rinse once a week and have been nearly heat free for about 3 weeks now and my ng is feelin SO good. Confident I will make it to my 12 week mini goal. My long term goal is 6 mo to see if I want to transition to natural. If not I may just start relaxing every 6 mo (if I can make it) I am super excited. sooo excited. plus! seeing some length . planning on wet wrapping after my DC on sunday, and dusting my ends/splits.

hnntrr You have a plan, don't you. Thats good. When you cowash, do you do anything after you rinse the conditioner out or just M/S and style? At one time I was considering cowashing, but I am too lazy to do it more than once a week........Six months is a SUPER stretch. When you reach that point I would really like to see a picture of that NG. I get all cross-eyed thinking about it.
What exactly does the tea do and do you dust your ends on dry or wet hair?......... I really get super excited about my HHJ also. Its like I finally feel like I have control of the path that my hair takes. Before, I had just resigned myself to thinking that my hair was destined to grow to shoulder length and break.

 

[hnntrr]

hnntrr You have a plan, don't you. Thats good. When you cowash, do you do anything after you rinse the conditioner out or just M/S and style? At one time I was considering cowashing, but I am too lazy to do it more than once a week........Six months is a SUPER stretch. When you reach that point I would really like to see a picture of that NG. I get all cross-eyed thinking about it.
What exactly does the tea do and do you dust your ends on dry or wet hair?......... I really get super excited about my HHJ also. Its like I finally feel like I have control of the path that my hair takes. Before, I had just resigned myself to thinking that my hair was destined to grow to shoulder length and break.

Ahaha, Yeah I like planning things. I dont like change much so if I can plan to a unknown outcome I feel a little better about it.

When I cowash I let the conditioner set for about 5 minutes while I shower, rinse, apply again (but a smaller amount) and then rinse out. Then when I am done I squeeze the excess water/ conditioner out and then do a leave in, moisturize, heat protectant (usually just on my crown where I flat iron my bangs if I am wearing it straight) and oil seal. And yeah I do that 2 times a week. I also co-wash on my major wash day which includes the tea rinse.

For the tea rinse I let it set anywhere between 3 hours and over night if I can remember to put it on. I have noticed it has cut back on my shedding and breakage and my hair feels softer, heavier and thicker.. as for dusting...I have never done it before so I am going to see what happens. I might dust on damp hair since my hair has a tendency to clump and lay flat when wet so its hard to notice new growth. I have seen some ladies who dust on dry hair though.

But yeah I will def keep you guys updated on the NG, as of now I cant really tell cause my ng looks like the texlaxed part of my hair so we will see what happens. About to rewet and wrap it so I can dust tomorrow night.

 

[camilla]

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