2013 Relaxed Hair Buddy Thread

[karenjoe]

i am!!! I"m 7 weeks this week.

I'm going 12 weeks...... how about you?

 

[baddison]

I'm seeing a lot of shedding.. I saw as much shedding yesterday as I normally see in 3-4 days. This is a heeecckkkk naw. I'm going to try a couple things (tea rinse or some garlic) but if it's not improved over the next couple days I'll be relaxing on Saturday. 14 weeks is still a respectable stretch!

sorry buddy @Hairroots

GrowAHead
LOL!! 14 weeks is DEFINITELY a respectable stretch. Two thumbs up!!

 

[karenjoe]

oh well..... I'm solo.

 

[baddison]

Is there a good water-based moisturizer I can use as an alternative? Anything that you use that you found helpful?

hnntrr, I like to use a mixture of S-Curl & jojoba oil for a great non-protein, water-based moisturizer. I baggy with it, and then in the am, I seal in the "dampness" with EVCoconutOil.

Also, I have found the Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Mist to be nice too. Really great fragrance, water-based mist with nice ingredients too.

Contains de-ionized water, Cocos Nucifera (coconut) oil*, Butyrospermum Parkii (Shea butter)*, silk protein, essential oil blend, Melia Azadirachta (Neem) seed oil, algae extract, Hyssopus Officinalis extract, Salvia Officinalis (sage) leaf and Equisetum Arvense extract, Lonicera Caprifolium (honeysuckle) flower and Lonicera Japonica (Japanese honeysuckle) flower extract and Tocopherol (vitamin E). *Denotes certified organic ingredients.

 

[Mande30]

So you just put it allll over your hair or just the ends?
Normally I put the Cantu like over half my hair? If that makes sense? Focusing mostly on the ends.

And thats good to know cause the jar I bought is bigger than I anticipated. Good to know I wont have to melt it down to use it (unless I wanna add it to something).

@hnntrr- when I seal with it I put it lightly all over. When I add a little to my hands and rub them together, that usually melts it. When I prepoo with it I put a lot all over. Right now, I am adding it to conditioner to practice my self relaxing at prepoo. I have found that the consistency is better when I melt it down, slightly, to add the conditioner. But usually it just softens up (not melts) in my cabinet. I guess its from the heat of the house.

Also, I use S Curl No Drip Moisturizer as my water- based moisturizer. My hair has done very well with it.

 

[Toy]

I wish I was relaxing this weekend my hair is a mess. Just a little vent.

 

[Luckyladyj]

Ok so I am new at this.I really want heatlthy hair.I am tired of breakage split ends etc.I usually get relaxers every 8 weeks.My hair was extremely dry until i came on this board and found out about moisturizing and sealing. I need to develop a routine but i dont knw where to start.

I have heard girls mentioning neurralizing shampoos.can someone please tell me why this is good for your hair? I have even seen some girls say they dont shampoo at all and all they do is use conditioners.Some people dont get trims at all.I was told trims help your hair stay healthy and strong.I am so confused can someone please help me understand hair care a little better.

 

[Mande30]

Ok so I am new at this.I really want heatlthy hair.I am tired of breakage split ends etc.I usually get relaxers every 8 weeks.My hair was extremely dry until i came on this board and found out about moisturizing and sealing. I need to develop a routine but i dont knw where to start.

I have heard girls mentioning neurralizing shampoos.can someone please tell me why this is good for your hair? I have even seen some girls say they dont shampoo at all and all they do is use conditioners.Some people dont get trims at all.I was told trims help your hair stay healthy and strong.I am so confused can someone please help me understand hair care a little better.

Luckyladyj I started my healthy hair care journey in July 2012. I initially learned how to take better care of my hair from reading "The Science of Black Hair" by Audrey Davis-Sivasothy. This book explains everything and goes into great detail. I have read through it twice and use it as a reference. After reading this I discovered this website. I highly recommend the book for anyone that wants to start out on a healthy hair care journey. All of your questions will be answered and then some.

 

[londonfog]

@londonfog

Any pics? How did you know that 12 weeks was your stretching number?

I sure did take some pics, I'll post them when I get home! The last stretch was 10 weeks for me & I decided to aim for 12 weeks this time depending on how I was able to manage my NG. Around 11 weeks it was getting extreme but I still pushed for 12 weeks. I think that the longer my hair gets then the longer I might be able to stretch since I'll be able to go for ponytails and braid outs.

 

[hnntrr]

5 weeks post, noting NG? I think. Maybe 1/4 of an inch. I texted so lightly its hard to tell. Looking forward to checking at 10 weeks post.

 

[Hairroots]

GrowAHead
LOL!! 14 weeks is DEFINITELY a respectable stretch. Two thumbs up!!

GrowAHead after you do the tea rinse moisture and seal. Can you wear a bun for a week without combing your hear for a week? That's what I've been doing and it's working. However if your shedding doesn't stop then all means RELAX .

 

[Cattypus1]

Luckyladyj I started my healthy hair care journey in July 2012. I initially learned how to take better care of my hair from reading "The Science of Black Hair" by Audrey Davis-Sivasothy. This book explains everything and goes into great detail. I have read through it twice and use it as a reference. After reading this I discovered this website. I highly recommend the book for anyone that wants to start out on a healthy hair care journey. All of your questions will be answered and then some.

Co-signing on The Science! That book is what lead me to this forum also.

 

[SunySydeofLyfe]

My shedding is actually not bad. I'm thinking by week 10+ it will most likely increase but I have a plan to avoid manipulation and use my queen Helene garlic poo on my next few wash days leading up to my TU. What day did you plan on ending your stretch?

Hey Buddy, its our hair day!!!!

Here are my plans for today:

Steaming with QH cholesterol mixed with proclaim oil for a hour, rinse, co wash with As I am coconut cowash (I like this stuff) add my leave ins, seal and call today complete.

I want to learn to rollerset but I dont have the patience or the time my baby is a constant nurser so my time is always short.

 

[Babygrowth]

I sure did take some pics, I'll post them when I get home! The last stretch was 10 weeks for me & I decided to aim for 12 weeks this time depending on how I was able to manage my NG. Around 11 weeks it was getting extreme but I still pushed for 12 weeks. I think that the longer my hair gets then the longer I might be able to stretch since I'll be able to go for ponytails and braid outs.

Yep! Exactly how I feel. All I can do is wear wigs or half wigs really.

 

[Kim0105]

Hey ladies, I'm 2 weeks post tomorrow and so far so good. Did a deep condition with AOHSR yesterday, co-washed with Silk Dreams Whip My Hair, creamy leave in and moisturizer from Shi-naturals and sealed with grape seed oil. My hair is in 2 cornrows that I'll take down and pin up for church tonight. Will moisturize and seal when I get home tonight.

 

[Cattypus1]

KiWiStyle and shortdub78. 8 days to go! Hard protein and DC tonight for me, what's your plan?

 

[KiWiStyle]

KiWiStyle and shortdub78. 8 days to go! Hard protein and DC tonight for me, what's your plan?

YES, we're at the 1 week count down!!! I'm terrified of doing a protein treatment because my ends have been dry and breaking so I've been conditioning and moisturizing like crazy. My next wash day is Saturday, maybe Sunday and I'm not sure if I will do protein at all. I won't clarify either because I did that less than two weeks ago. I'm torn :-(.

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[Evolving78]

shortdub78. 8 days to go! Hard protein and DC tonight for me, what's your plan?

i cowashed and dc'ed last night. i don't know if you saw my posts, but i went ahead and relaxed this past Sunday. my mother did it for me and she relaxed me root to tip. so i have been working on the process of repairing my hair. but i will still be able to stretch with you ladies for the next round. i plan on getting braids or something in March, since i will be in recovery and newborn mode around that time.

 

[crlsweetie912]

CafedeBelleza
Buddy how are you doing?
I'm shedding something TERRIBLE!
I ordered the alter ego garlic treatment and I'm thinking about getting braids or twists to leave it be. But they are so EXPENSIVE here....

 

[Babygrowth]

londonfog, sckri23, lovely_locks

Hey ladies! I treated my hair on Tuesday and its feeling mighty fine! Prepooed for 36 hrs with Hair trigger and Jar of joe, shampooed eith Elasta qp creme shampoo, rinsed ith SSI honey rinse, DC with Silk dreams vanilla silk with chamomile and green tea underneathe and eve oil on top... my hair is soft and moisturized. My style of choice has been a low braid so that my longest ends are in with my scarf on top and knit cap! I'm too lazy to wig it but my hair is still hidden. I can't wait until some products I ordered arrive! It will definitely up my moisture levels! Vanilla silk is an instant staple!

 

[Cattypus1]

i cowashed and dc'ed last night. i don't know if you saw my posts, but i went ahead and relaxed this past Sunday. my mother did it for me and she relaxed me root to tip. so i have been working on the process of repairing my hair. but i will still be able to stretch with you ladies for the next round. i plan on getting braids or something in March, since i will be in recovery and newborn mode around that time.

Baby due in March?...I thought I saw something a while back...congratulations! You're just week or so ahead of KiWiStyle and me...we're still buddies. I'm working on some repairs myself after my 2012 setback that started my HHJ. I really think I have chosen to ignore the craziness that is going on with my hair. One morning my DH asked me if I was going to comb my hair before I left for work...I told him gravity was going to take care of it...so late in my stretch I have to pretend that the mirror doesn't exist...some times I just have to turn my head and keep it moving.

 

[Cattypus1]

YES, we're at the 1 week count down!!! I'm terrified of doing a protein treatment because my ends have been dry and breaking so I've been conditioning and moisturizing like crazy. My next wash day is Saturday, maybe Sunday and I'm not sure if I will do protein at all. I won't clarify either because I did that less than two weeks ago. I'm torn :-(.

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I ended up doing Kerafuse protein condish with some Shea Moisture on top under heat. I really hate the way Kerafuse smells but it seems to work. Followed that with the Headdress leave-in and the Wen styling gel for my twist-out.

 

[KiWiStyle]

I ended up doing Kerafuse protein condish with some Shea Moisture on top under heat. I really hate the way Kerafuse smells but it seems to work. Followed that with the Headdress leave-in and the Wen styling gel for my twist-out.

Sounds like a nice wash day. Almost there.

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[KiWiStyle]

Baby due in March?...I thought I saw something a while back...congratulations! You're just week or so ahead of KiWiStyle and me...we're still buddies. I'm working on some repairs myself after my 2012 setback that started my HHJ. I really think I have chosen to ignore the craziness that is going on with my hair. One morning my DH asked me if I was going to comb my hair before I left for work...I told him gravity was going to take care of it...so late in my stretch I have to pretend that the mirror doesn't exist...some times I just have to turn my head and keep it moving.

This is hilarious!!! Please don't tell me you leave the house looking all crazy girl, lol!

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[Cattypus1]

This is hilarious!!! Please don't tell me you leave the house looking all crazy girl, lol!

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You should see me rolling down the x-way finger combing so that I don't look like A bush woman by the time I get to work, sometimes "all crazy" is as good as it gets! I'm not winning any beauty contests but I'm clean. LOL I'll be all cute again next week, though.
7 days...bye, bye bush woman!

 

[sunnieb]

Team 18 Weeks Round Up Time!!!

baddison Nix08 Cherry89

How ya'll doin'?

 

[Cherry89]

Still holding in over here, my new growth is kicking in, lol.
I just did a protein treatment with real mayo ( until I can get a hold of some that golden CPR) rinsed out, and applied some aussie 3 min as conditioner and leave in. Pinned into a side bun

 

[Nix08]

Doing well over here Practicing doing updo's.... as that's going to be my go to for the 18 weeks

 

[Evolving78]

Baby due in March?...I thought I saw something a while back...congratulations! You're just week or so ahead of KiWiStyle and me...we're still buddies. I'm working on some repairs myself after my 2012 setback that started my HHJ. I really think I have chosen to ignore the craziness that is going on with my hair. One morning my DH asked me if I was going to comb my hair before I left for work...I told him gravity was going to take care of it...so late in my stretch I have to pretend that the mirror doesn't exist...some times I just have to turn my head and keep it moving.

you sound like me at this point!

but you will have it goin on again in a few days! i still had a rough patch that felt a little raised, so i just decided to put a little Roux PC on it, and it smoothed it right out. i think the next time i dc, i will add it to my conditioner.

i noticed that i gained some length, but i think i got more thickness. you know how that comes first? i get thickness, then the relaxer after that, i get length. i am going to try to hold on to this hair with all of my strength!

hey ladies, please show some pics of your relaxer touchups! i would show mine, but it's in recovery mode and i don't feel like using anything heat to straighten it out all the way. i will post a pic in a month or so, so you ladies can see my progress.

 

[Guinan]

Here's pics of my relaxer 2wks ago. I posted these some where else but I can't remember where; so excuse the repeats if you guys have seen these already.

The 1st two pics are before my relaxer and then the rest are after.

I used Linanage Shea Butter Texturizer, LYE.