2012 Relationship Resolutions

I will continue to work on my relationship with myself. At this moment I am not eager to meet anyone.

I will have a low tolerance for BS. Whenever you take things slow, you get to see the subtle redflags early. I feel so much more wiser after that last scenario, my BS radar is way more spot on. I will politely put them in the friend category or cut off ties.

I will not steer away from my values and compromise.

I will take care of self first.
 
sunnieb said:
To my honey baby dh as we prepare to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary at the beginning of 2012. I love you dearly, but:

  • I am a night owl, get over it. I got over you getting up at 6am on the weekends (we're working on this one :giggle:).
  • Yes, I'm going to balance our checking account. Everyday. Right before bed. Sorry, I sleep better knowing how much we have and that everything that needs to be paid is paid. I will not allow you to make me feel like I'm being obsessive or worrying about money or sending passive aggressive messages to you that you aren't "providing". I just like knowing where we stand financially. You see how I basically just say, 'here's what we got' and that's it. I leave it up to you to get the extra money or whatever else we need. I do my part and you do yours.
  • I do my hair every other night, get over it. You know how you love the way my hair looks and you compare it to the "to' up" heads you see? It takes work, sorry. I'll continue to snuggle with you while I'm airdrying though. :grin:
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Girl 18 years...whatever you do he might not like it but it's working!!!!
 
ElizaBlue - Ain't that the truth! I don't know where all the years have gone!

There's so much more I wanted to add to this list, but I don't know if this forum could take how candid I really am. I tone it way down in my posts (or I try to).

We need a "Grown and Sexy" forum!
 
I'm going to give Love a try.

I'm not going to discuss the details of my relationship with my friends... Especially when we're upset with each other.

I'm going to accept the man that I have for who he is and not try to make him into what I want him to be.
 
Develop my relationship more with God.

I'm not going to allow my friends to suck me in their lives; where I have no room to breathe or focus about me.

I'm not going to worry (invest, etc) in other people's problems.....I have my own life to live.

I'm going to be more outgoing and expand my circle of friends/acquaintances.

I'm going to date and enjoy life. Not worry about getting married or whose beating me down the aisle.
 
Hmm, im going to work on my relationship with God and dh.

Unfortunately, ive given up on working on my relationship w/my in-laws. My family is growing and I cant begin to wait on/think of them.

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-be more active in my young cousins' lives: be a lending ear, emotional supporter, advice giver, etc.

-take God on my dates and into any burgeoning relationships

-be more consistent in maintaining friendships... Stop the flakiness

-be protective of my heart and spirit... With clear boundaries to enforce that protection

-focus on building friendships, not simply romantic relationships, with the opposite sex.
 
Build a much better relationship with God and myself. This is most important and the foundation for the below.

Learn to let go. I realize I hold way too much in, I'm the type to get angry or annoyed and stay that way for a while. I need to work on this particularly with my SO, my mo is usually to get upset and stay that way while seething for a while. Things just don't roll off me at all.

With friends, learn to speak up then and there if something is bothering me or whatever. This will lead to less resentment in the future and this goes for everyone actually. Instead, I usually will pull away fr the person, cut em off, or avoid them and keep it moving.



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I am going to try to re-pace myself in relationships. Slow down the throwing of the baby out with the bath water....(so much pun intended)

Stop hoodooing men until I know I'm willing to stick it out with them. Because that running around looking for me with a flashlight in the daytime, when it's over... is just not a good look for them .....:lachen:

Never ever even consider dating a man who tells me...

1) I'm not interested in your writing everyone has a hobby (still can't believe I did that)

2) My kids, mama, football, dog, cheese sandwich will always come first. (At some point...I'm coming second to NO ONE but God.)

3) Why do you go to the gym so much, take dance classes, read so much, stay up writing....

4) But the Cowboys are playing (when I say we're going to be late for church)
 
Brittster said:
Build a much better relationship with God and myself. This is most important and the foundation for the below.

Learn to let go. I realize I hold way too much in, I'm the type to get angry or annoyed and stay that way for a while. I need to work on this particularly with my SO, my mo is usually to get upset and stay that way while seething for a while. Things just don't roll off me at all.

With friends, learn to speak up then and there if something is bothering me or whatever. This will lead to less resentment in the future and this goes for everyone actually. Instead, I usually will pull away fr the person, cut em off, or avoid them and keep it moving.



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I can relate to the bolded. I forgot to add that. I have a tendancy to close off from everybody whenever I get hurt. In some ways I am doing it now.
 
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