2012 Relationship Resolutions

LivingDol1

LivingDol1

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Is anyone trying to change something about their romantic life or lack thereof for 2012?

Please do share. We could all use some inspiration. :) Or at least I could...:look:
 
I refuse to go into 2012 begging someone to care about me - to reach out to ME when I am having a hard time and not expecting me to console him because 'it hurts him to see me hurt'.
 
I will start being social to a degree slowly
Take down my self imposed prison I have devised bc of my out of touch with reality perception that I'm not worthy of love,affection and proper relationships with men.
I will not feel as though I'm being uppity for sticking to my standards even though I'm not skinny.
 
I will dismiss any man that I have initial misgivings about and not fall into the trap that "it'll work out." :yep:

I went against my instincts twice this year. While the experiences taught me some things, I feel like I would have been better off if I listened to my gut.
 
I will be good to myself first, so I can be good to someone else.

I will listen to my mind, not heart when it tells me to stay away from certian men.

I will be more logical/practical.

I will date with my boundaries firmly in place.

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i will stop running my mouth so damn much about my past and giving too much info about my relationship to my friends.

i will do my best to allow my man to wear the pants and to give him space when he needs time to think, or is going through something.
 
I will trust my gut the first and second time. No need to give 3 strikes. (Going to work hard to get this down to 1 strike).

I will significantly shorten the time we are just "dating" and no longer leave it solely up to him as to when we get past this point. About 2-3 months tops.

I will only date men who have an identifiable relationship with God.

I will work on allowing the man to wear the pants and making him feel "needed."

I will consider more than just a pretty face and a nice body. :lachen:

I think that's all.
 
I will not throw or break anything when I'm angry.

I will be prettier when I'm just lounging around the house. No more jimmi hendrix head.

I will be the positive change I want to see in him.


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I will work on my anger/temper issues. I promise to never hurl another dish across the kitchen :look: It only happened that 1 time, but it will NEVER happen again.
 
I will stop nagging about insignificant things.

I will be more understanding & patient.

I will control my temper.

I will be more independent again.
 
I'm going to keep socializing and meet more men. I've met more men this year than I had in recent years... because I've stepped outside of my comfort zone. It can only get better from here.

I am going to invest in my personal life... just like I've invested in job hunts, interviews, and my work. If I want a relationship, I have to work hard at it. It will not fall into my lap.

I will try to not dog men so much. I haven't been feeling particularly positive due to one recent incident/misunderstanding... and it's not fair to me. There are good men out there who would be lucky to have me. I have to be positive that he is out there.

ETA--- I'm going to be honest with myself!! Which will translate to me being honest with guys. I can't be persuaded by someone else or the actions of others. I know there are some things in the dating world that I'm not for but are the "norm".... for several. I'm not a casual dater. I expect to be treated a certain way by a gentleman. I will not settle for less than proper treatment and respect. If something doesn't sit right with me, I have to move on. Bigger and better in 2012.:yep:
 
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Be clear from the beginning on what I am looking for

Set boundaries early and stick to them

Allow him to show me why he is a good catch instead of me telling him what I expect

No more second, third, or fourth chances

Maintain 2 to 3 month dating timeframe before deciding on whether to pursue longterm or cease communication

Exude confidence while on dates, show him why I am a great catch

Know my worth, dont allow anyone to downplay how awesome I am

**I WILL find my man in 2012**
 
DH and I to have a year with minimal disagreements
Both of us more Financially savvy, saving more... more abundant finances
Learn a new Language together
Get in shape together...so far so good.
 
To my honey baby dh as we prepare to celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary at the beginning of 2012. I love you dearly, but:

  • I am a night owl, get over it. I got over you getting up at 6am on the weekends (we're working on this one :giggle:).
  • Yes, I'm going to balance our checking account. Everyday. Right before bed. Sorry, I sleep better knowing how much we have and that everything that needs to be paid is paid. I will not allow you to make me feel like I'm being obsessive or worrying about money or sending passive aggressive messages to you that you aren't "providing". I just like knowing where we stand financially. You see how I basically just say, 'here's what we got' and that's it. I leave it up to you to get the extra money or whatever else we need. I do my part and you do yours.
  • I do my hair every other night, get over it. You know how you love the way my hair looks and you compare it to the "to' up" heads you see? It takes work, sorry. I'll continue to snuggle with you while I'm airdrying though. :grin:
 
i'm going to step out of my comfort zone, socialize more and meet more men IRL. i'm kinda over the online thing.

i will shut my mouth sometimes.:look: i talk way too damn much.:nono:

i will be more emotionally available.

i will initiate physical intimacy more frequently and accept it more readily.
 
-I'm going to pray about things more, let God take the lead

-I'm not gonna try to force anything, just going to focus on developing my friendships. Looking back, of my best relationships have started from a friendship basis... and it gives you a better chance to get to know the guy without getting all your feelings involved
 
i will stop moving so fast in rlshps. every single one of my rlshps have become a rlshp w.in a week of dating. i dont blame myself for this entirely, i never ask the guy to be in a rlshp, but i COULD slow it down if i wanted to.

i will look cuter when i go out. instead of a lip balm, i could try a lip color. and it takes just as much effort to put on a crappy top as it does a cute one.

try to work on making eye contact with attractive males

step out of my shell, step out of my bubble and notice the ppl around me. i can't count the number of times i was out w. someone else and they asked me if i noticed how many guys were looking at me. most guys aren't going to approach unless i give them some indication that i want them too, but i can't do that unless i actually kno that they are looking...*sigh* i think that would be the more difficult one tho, i'm not quite certain how im supposed to go about this.
 
I will not move as fast and let God be the reason that connects us together.
Let the past go and take a leap of faith when the time is right
Don't compare or contrast my presence with my past
 
Regarding friends and associates, I will hire slowly and fire quickly. Take my time letting new people into my life and more quickly move on when/if I discover someone is not good for me. I will trust my instincts. As far as dh I will keep doing what I have been doing as it is working. Very high expectations, not taking responsibility for his or anyone else's mistakes, continue to be loving and affectionate, continue to focus more on myself than on others.
 
Regarding relationships in 2012 I will...

--go with my instincts and try to be honest even if it hurts... if I don't feel I'm compatible with someone I need to be honest about it right then

--be true to myself despite what anyone else says... this is my life... I need to take charge of my own happiness

--trust that things are as God intends for them to be... just because I don't have what I want now doesn't mean God doesn't mean it for me in the future. I'm a busy woman right now anyway.

--see people as they are not as I want them to be
 
I will not go back to my Ex, no matter how much he calls. He's my Ex for a reason.
I will cut off a toxic(user) friend for good and make new friends!
Fresh start!
 
I will allow deserving men into my heart.

I'll be more flirty just because.

I'll be more friendly in general.

I will not worry whether or not someone will 'play' me if I show interest.

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another resolution...

it's OK to date for practice and I'm going to do that this year.

I keep attracting and finding myself attracted to younger guys! I doubt that a serious relationship can grow from this pairing BUT they are fun, they like me, and well, hey, any practice will only help for later, right?

Gotta mix it up! My goal while finding a mate is to date a few guys at one time, so that i'm never focused on one. Then, I can have a true elimination process. Just good ol' traditional dating. Guys seem to have multiple options, so why can't I on the way? No more waiting by the phone! ;)
 
runwaydream said:
i will stop moving so fast in rlshps. every single one of my rlshps have become a rlshp w.in a week of dating. i dont blame myself for this entirely, i never ask the guy to be in a rlshp, but i COULD slow it down if i wanted to.

i will look cuter when i go out. instead of a lip balm, i could try a lip color. and it takes just as much effort to put on a crappy top as it does a cute one.

try to work on making eye contact with attractive males

step out of my shell, step out of my bubble and notice the ppl around me. i can't count the number of times i was out w. someone else and they asked me if i noticed how many guys were looking at me. most guys aren't going to approach unless i give them some indication that i want them too, but i can't do that unless i actually kno that they are looking...*sigh* i think that would be the more difficult one tho, i'm not quite certain how im supposed to go about this.
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What happened to the cute asian?
 
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I will work on communicating with him more and learning his communication style (which is quite different from mine).

I will work on not getting so annoyed because he seems to move very slowly and I move very quickly...with a lot of things.

I will work on just letting him be and trying to understand things a little more from his standpoint.
 
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