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I am so sorry that you are going through this. I sincerely said a prayer for you . I hope the best for you and your boys.((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))
 
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Gulp! I just saw this thread.

Keeping you in my prayers Godzooki. There is a reason and a season. Hoping your beautiful boys are managing well.

Please pop in when you can.
 
godzooki...we made it to almost 15 years and 3 kids so I feel your pain. But let me tell you, for the first time in my adult life (I got married young, 21 yrs) I truly know what it is like to be happy and content. I never felt that way married, even when times were "good"

So just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Things will get better but take the time to grieve because even when it is for the best, divorce is a tremendous loss on so many levels.
 
Thank you, INNSMOM! I know I'll be alright as far as our relationship having come to an end. He burned that bridge so thoroughly that I can't even imagine going back. Ever! Took me a while to realize I was smelling smoke before I even saw the flames. Now I just got to get to where I need to be. We got married at 21 also. You know, I'm 42 and I have never lived on my own??? And still won't be able to because I have kids, lol!
 
Forgive me for reviving this thread...I'm just floored. I feel like a family member just revealed this to me. Well you are family. I don't know what to say... we were all here for the last baby's birth...and some for the third...I just don't know what to say.

Other that it's Christmas day and I wish you all the peace and blessings for you and the kids your heart can hold. My heart goes out to you.
 
WOW, I'm sorry to hear this news. How are your boys?

Prayer will get you all thru. I went thru and didn't want to come out bitter or hard hearted so my only advise is to also PRAY for him.
 
Thanks ElizaBlue. That's why he's been missing from any new photos and all mentions on my facebook, if you noticed, lol! He's become the fb valdermort-he-who-should-not-be-mentioned on my wall. gn1g, the boys are handling it ok, considering...It's still pretty "fresh" though and their dad is doing some really bone headed things that he'll regret down the road but you can't talk to a rock and expect it to comprehend. Things are dragging because he dropped his lawyer and decided to represent himself...We're just now getting to the "discovery" side which, is going to get interesting.
 
Holy bananas :nono: I never thought i'd see this post from you of all posters. Your family is/was such a strong rock!!! I'm sorry that you and your boys have to deal with this and i'm praying you come through this with much strength and dignity. :bighug:
 
godzooki said:
Thanks @ElizaBlue. That's why he's been missing from any new photos and all mentions on my facebook, if you noticed, lol! He's become the fb valdermort-he-who-should-not-be-mentioned on my wall. @gn1g, the boys are handling it ok, considering...It's still pretty "fresh" though and their dad is doing some really bone headed things that he'll regret down the road but you can't talk to a rock and expect it to comprehend. Things are dragging because he dropped his lawyer and decided to represent himself...We're just now getting to the "discovery" side which, is going to get interesting.
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Oh believe me I've noticed. You can tell how your friends there are tip-toe-ing around and asking about you and the boys ONLY...lol.

He is a dummy...world class...let me be the first to say it for all those who think it. DUMMY. Why?

Beautiful wife (and thoughtful) and beautiful boys...what is he thinking? He will regret his actions sooner than later. Just be strong sister...you are winning!!!!
 
godzooki, you've been in my thoughts and prayers today. I'm available if you ever need to talk.
 
Godzooki, I' ve followed your beautiful family on lhcf and I just saw this today, and you and children are in my prayers.
 
godzooki said:
Congratulate me...11/11/11 was our 20th wedding anniversary...Too bad we're 3 months into the process of getting a divorce. What a way to ruin a great calendar date, huh? I've been told to look at both the good and the bad of it...Good is, this will be our last anniversary...Bad (for him at least) is it's considered a long term marriage as far as alimony. Anyone else went thru/going thru a long term marriage divorce or am I the only dinosaur? :perplexed
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16...he just remarried...but on the bright side, she has to pay his funeral bill now. My heart goes out to you and to the little ones. Hopefully, he'll break out of this stupid...but if not, you will all make it! OH, you'll feel like an absolute megalosaurus after 4 kids, but don't cave into those sentiments. Even dinos are loved.

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godzooki
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16...he just remarried...but on the bright side, she has to pay his funeral bill now. My heart goes out to you and to the little ones. Hopefully, he'll break out of this stupid...but if not, you will all make it! OH, you'll feel like an absolute megalosaurus after 4 kids, but don't cave into those sentiments. Even dinos are loved.

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Lol! Yeah, I do feel like I'm starting over as a dinosaur in today's world, that's for sure!
 
godzooki, I am just seeing this, I'm so sorry to hear about the end of your marriage. You are in my prayers but I understand the peace that comes with finally being able to see what was in front of you for the longest time.
 
Focus on your boys and your health. Keep/get fit by doing outdoor activities with them. It will help to boost your energy and get you feeling more confident.

Wishing you the best.
 
So sorry to hear this. You will get through this and be amazed at your strength.

1)Keep a journal. It helps you to see how far you've come.

2) Get on a budget now if you aren't on one. I made the mistake of living like there were still two incomes and it took me almost 2 years to get on track.

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First time seeing this. I'm sorry to hear about your pending divorce. I wish you and your kids well.
 
Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry to hear of this news! I hope you and the boys are doing well. Take it easy and be good to yourself. You're a strong woman!
 
gn1g we are doing good. Still in the process and will be for a while. Probably won't be done until July or Aug. Thank you for thinking of us!
 
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