Single Ladiee, wigs and .....

[Foufie]

Nu-Nu

A girlfriend and I were having a conversation about wearing our wigs and tracks to protect the hair underneath and a change of style (like most ladies here on the board). But it got interesting when we started talking about the drawbacks of wigs. For me I was speaking on taking it off to go the gym (leaving it in the locker until I return) and what not and the fact that hubby hates for me to "take my hair off". I guess he wants it to be there or not. But it brought up the issue when like getting into a sexual relationship with a new man or even a simple fling or one-time thing. What do you do, "No wait, It's a wig, I have to remove it", or stay in a position that your hair is ot compromised (like that is gonna happen) or do you simply do what you do and hope for the best (meaning no coming off or even worst ruining it)???

I am not trying to be offensive and I hope this thread doesn't close because I truly am curious. For the married ladies and LTR girls I would say our men have jut about seen everything "hair" if you are a member of this board.....

 

[Country gal]

A guy I was dealing with use to complain about wigs all the time. I was wearing a wig at the time. I was a little paranoid. Apparently his ex girlfriend always wore wigs and would throw it on the floor when she got home. I think for men they don't want to see you all glammed up to only see the wig on the floor with your hair all pulled back.

My SO knows I wear wigs and weaves from time to time. He knows I wear my hair natura with no chemicals. We went on vacay and I was sporting a wig. When I would get to the hotel I would take it off at night. He would just laugh but was real cool about it.

 

[JustKiya]

Maybe I'm odd, but it seems like a man should already know that you wear a wig before you grace him with yourself, wearing nothing at all.

 

[glamazon386]

I've never removed a wig unless I was alone in the comforts of my own home. If the wig is on securely you should not have any problems with it coming off during sex. And of course pulling is a nono. I've never told anyone I was wearing a wig nor did they ask.

 

[aegis]

girl when my fiance and i were first dating and we decided to uhm..be grown...sometimes i would feel my wig sliiiide baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack. after i got up i went to the mirror and i had a halo of white glue and tape on my forehead. i had to get a scarf ASAP. lol

that's when i learned to power of sewing my lacefront on and then having adhesive in the front.

 

[Foufie]

Maybe I'm odd, but it seems like a man should already know that you wear a wig before you grace him with yourself, wearing nothing at all.

I mean yeah maybe, but some ladies have casual things jumping off or maybe you simply didn't want him to know. I guess that is why I am asking

 

[Foufie]

girl when my fiance and i were first dating and we decided to uhm..be grown...sometimes i would feel my wig sliiiide baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack. after i got up i went to the mirror and i had a halo of white glue and tape on my forehead. i had to get a scarf ASAP. lol

that's when i learned to power of sewing my lacefront on and then having adhesive in the front.

Okay a scarf...I can see that.

@bolded

 

[Foufie]

I've never removed a wig unless I was alone in the comforts of my own home. If the wig is on securely you should not have any problems with it coming off during sex. And of course pulling is a nono. I've never told anyone I was wearing a wig nor did they ask.

are those lacefronts, or just regular wigs? I know the regs have those snaps in the back (that is what I use). I don't own any lacefronts so IDK.

 

[glamazon386]

are those lacefronts, or just regular wigs? I know the regs have those snaps in the back (that is what I use). I don't own any lacefronts so IDK.

Regular wigs.... Some full wigs some half wigs.

 

[Foufie]

@glamazon...okay cool.

 

[Heavenly]

I've never removed a wig unless I was alone in the comforts of my own home. If the wig is on securely you should not have any problems with it coming off during sex. And of course pulling is a nono. I've never told anyone I was wearing a wig nor did they ask.

Nothing to add to this convo... but just want to say Glamazon you look FAB in your siggie! Wowsers.

 

[zenith]

...sometimes i would feel my wig sliiiide baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack. after i got up i went to the mirror and i had a halo of white glue and tape on my forehead. i had to get a scarf ASAP. lol

I'm guffawing at this here cause the same thing happened to me when i first tried a lace-front. I didn't have sense to wrap a scarf, when i went to sleep my edges were sticking to the pillow... talk about HAM!!

 

[crazydaze911]

My boyfriend knows i wear wigs but he usually cant tell WHEN im wearing them cuz i am very paranoid and only wear ones that really really blend well. I usually take them off when he goes to use the bathroom.

on the regular, b/c of my paranoia - i dont even like someone hugging me tightly or rough-housing b/c it makes the wig move and pulls my real hair. Its really hard to keep it secured and in place without pulling or damaging ur real hair in the process.

TWICE someone (a different person each time) thought it would be cool/sexy to pull my hair while dancing at a club - these were pple i KNEW btw - WTF do guys think its ok to do that? idk. At those UNexpected times, i had to run to the bathroom and fix it - so embarrassing!...hence the paranoia which has lead me to take a break from wigs lately.

 

[*Frisky*]

I've never removed a wig unless I was alone in the comforts of my own home. If the wig is on securely you should not have any problems with it coming off during sex. And of course pulling is a nono. I've never told anyone I was wearing a wig nor did they ask.

hahahahahahhaa..that's my girl!! Work it!!

It depends on the level the relationship is on IMO...if it is just a guy that I was casually dating I wouldn't tell him it's a wig. All you need is some good hair pins and the wig shouldn't go no where but I wouldn't let the dude pull on it so I could find out

 

[crazydaze911]

maybe this is just my experience, but what dude DOESNT try to pull on ur hair during the act? lol

 

[glamazon386]

maybe this is just my experience, but what dude DOESNT try to pull on ur hair during the act? lol

One that knows he's not supposed to touch a black woman's hair period

 

[JJamiah]

Well I remember when I was about to do the doo with my husband for the first time; I was like hold on; I took it off and placed it on the table (we were in a hotel). He was so busy wanting to jump the bones he really didn't care about the hair piece, I did have very long hair crushed up under it, but I think If I had 2 strands he would have still loved me the same.


NOw that I think about it; that was funny!

 

[Charlie555]

The first time I wore a wig with my new boyfriend it was a short curly afro. We went to the club and I knew I was spending the night with him. So when we got back to his house I waited for him to go to the bathroom and I took it off & threw it in my overnight bag. I had neat cornrows under so I was ok. He comes out the shower and says, "dang you braid fast!" I laughed and explained it wasn't my hair. He was cool abou it. Plus he knows I have nice hair & that I'm on a mission to grow it. I was also comfortable because we have been friends for like 4 years.

 

[DaPPeR]

You see OP your in my head. I want to start wearing wigs again because my hair will benefit from the protective styling. However, I dont know how I will present this to the SO because ummm yeah hes rough...smh...I no longer want to sacrifice my hair care but this is a good question

 

[Dommo]

Just sew wig clips to the inside of the wig; They snap in place...Very simple.

He can pull on it and everything. I wouldn't take off a wig right before sex EVER, even if I was with the guy for years. That's just NOT sexy at all unless you're hair is in a doobie you can comb down underneath. But if its braids or something, leave that hair on until you're about to go to sleep. Then you can take it off in the bathroom and put a silk scarf on.

hth

 

[YankeeCandle]

I've never been in the situation you've described, OP, but I do wear wigs/falls/hairpieces from time to time. I am not good at fitting the wig on top of my head, minimizing the bulk of my hair underneath (I can't cornbraid), etc so the wig is always fairly precarious on my head. Any little pull could dislodge it (hence my annoyance of enthusiastic platonic hugs by friends and acquaintances).

Anyway, in the hypothetical situation you ponder, it would depend on my goals for the encounter. I could imagine I would react like this:

(a) One night stand: I would wear wig during the act(s) but afterward remove it front of him without a care...I don't really care what he thinks of me since I never have to see him again.

(b) Casual recurrent encounters that I believe/hope will NOT turn into a relationship: mention to him during a public activity/date that I wear wigs sometimes and then, whenever amorous situations arise, take off wig before the act(s).

(c) a person I am interested in having a long term partnership with: wait till many months (8-9 at least) before revealing I wear wigs. People have negative socialized ideas about wigs and wig-wearers, and I do not want to tap into those prematurely, possibly straining our relationship (e.g. if he reacts with amusement or incredulity, it could hurt me and lead to a fight).

ETA: after I have revealed my fascination with wigs to him, you can believe I will begin educating him about wigs and their long and illustrious history across cultures, their versatility, their protective styling potential ,and all the other wonderful things about them.