My natural hair is weird. If I am to grab my hair between my fingers and glide my fingers down in a smoothing motion then my hair feels silky. In fact, while I pull it straight it looks silky and has lots of gloss. When I release my hair it goes back to dull looking cotton fluff. So when people look at my natural hair they think that its dry and hard. Once they touch it in an attempt to style they are surprised by how it looks once the strands are elongated. This is also the reason why I was fooled into thinking I had 3c hair when I first transitioning. I have 4a hair. Its very dense but the strands are fine. The only thing that will keep my hair feeling and looking silky when my hair is in a natural state is using curl activator gel on dry hair.