My Hair Confessional

[Barbie83]

..... I confess that I used to be allergic to water. Humidity, rain, washing frequently, were all BIG no-no's. Now I'm totally opposite! Happiness to me is a ton of deep conditioner slathered all over my damp freshly cowashed head, with a plastic cap on. If I could wash/cowash and DC every day, I would.

 

[Soude]

Okay third confession:

I confess that im now suspect of everybody i see with decent hair products in their arsenal.. Ex.. was at DH's friends house last night, im also friends with his girlfriend... I went to the bathroom and was like she has motions moisture plus! and ORS products! and the Big bottle of Aphogee! and a bottle of S-curl but she wears a weave! and cream of nature poos and leave ins!!

this selection of products just screamed LHCF to me!! i wanted to ask her if she was a regular on a hair forum but i was afraid she'd just look at me like instead of

i didnt even think to buy half the products i have now in my pre-lhcf days so i automatically think if you use some of this stuff you just HAVE to be on here..

keeping my fingers crossed that i found my healthy hair soul mate in chicago

I actually asked a woman if she was Nikos's cousin. I prefaced it with if this question doesn't make any sense to you, forget thtat I asked it.

 

[Barbie83]

I actually asked a woman if she was Nikos's cousin. I prefaced it with if this question doesn't make any sense to you, forget thtat I asked it.

lol what was her response?

 

[Stiletto_Diva]

I confess:

~Somedays I wish I could shave the crown of my head and just let the rest of my hair grow. That way I won't have to deal deal with its fickle ways

~I'm thinking about becoming a straightened natural

~I wish I could wear wash and go's daily without having massive single strand knots.

~I wish I knew how to do nice hairstyle so I wouln't just always wear my hair in a twistout or puff

~I have no idea what my hairtype is and I really don't care

~I wish my hair would hurry up and get to BSL so I can prove everyone who doubted me wrong. HI HATER!

 

[Filmatic]

I don't like my TWA on me bc I think I look less feminine. I see other women with TWAs and they look beautiful and regal. I look hard. Funny I still get hit on all the time .


I miss my BSB length. Not the relaxing though.

I LOVE curly hair and have always wanted it. I'd get rollersets and weaves to have it. I never realized that I had it. For some reason it just didn't compute in my mind until I got here.

I use Crisco on my hair. It works wonders. I wish I had found this when I first BCed. It is So moisturizing and I don't smell like chicken. My hair is so soft and shiny. I think I'm going for the big can next time.

 

[Truth]

....I confess... Whenever my friend starts whinning about how her hair is shedding and breaking off bad due to chemical and color damage.. I laugh at her eternally.. BAD I know but hey..I tried to help but everyone wanted to dismiss my hair advice because "I washed my hair all the time" and she goes the hair dresser so it's "different" .. all I can do is laugh..

... I confess that people irritate me when they try to talk over me and downgrade my hair advice and i'm the only one who reached hair past their shoulders...

....I confess I use nothing but cheap products

.....I confess.. I love when girls follow me around the aisles and pick up everything I pick up

...I confess.. I love when someone weave checks me....Loved it when I was Relaxed and now that i'm natural it's even better..lol

....I confess Ive thought about going back to relaxers

 

[Nubenap22]

My personal confession.....I laugh at people I see with mugged up heads...I know my hair is growing and thriving better than ever since Joining and deciding to transition... The girls at my job says natural just aint natural ( scratches head yea I work with some pretty ignorant chics) but I saw them glare and talk behind my back when I wore my hair out 2 days since April around them ( beautiful braid-out).

I just want healthy hair that makes me happy and I want to pamper my head and do as I see fix not do something bc of what others say I should.

 

[Nubenap22]

I ALSO confess that the black women at my job have jacked up heads....even my bestfriend and mother are in standstill.

Ok one chic I work with wears a sew (blonde/honey) with her natural super dark brown front piece out for 3 months....and what sucks is you can see the front track is glued in!!! Every time we talk I cant help but stare!! Then when she takes it down beautiful hair underneath shes a 4 type ish doesnt know how to care for it...I refer here here and 3 months later her ends are raggedy and her SL hair has to be cut bc too many split ends she gets fustrated and texlases it....That woman needs to do a confession on her own


Moms has APL hair but for the last 5 yrs it has never gone [ast that!!! Shes quick to pick up the old school hot comb or the electric one.....But yet shes relaxed!!! (shakes my head) this woman loves bone straigh hair at the cost of not being able to style it her curls dont hold but for 5 min and her ends are ALWAYS frazzled.....I tried to educate her but she wasnt hearing it!!! she aslways wants to oil my scalp to run her fingers in it!!! (But hey moms does a mean scalp massage!!!)

My best friend....I love her to death but she knows shes wrong!!! Weaves Weaves Weaves beautiful...uses cheap hair....doesnt take care of them....forever stealing my products (except the secret stash) and i tried to put her up on some education I learned from here but shes acting like she deaf!!!

 

[Junebug D]

I confess I'm starting to like being relaxed... *dodges stones* It was actually fun washing my hair last night. No tangles!

 

[robot.]

I'm sorry, but @ the busted coworker stories. Everybody has one.

And I'm glad you're enjoying your hair, Shan!

 

[andromeda]

That I'm apprehensive about the unintended consequences of wearing half wigs for my transition. I agree with the belief that transitioning is a physical and mental process. Although I love my NG and have accepted it, I wonder if wearing a 4a/3c? wig is cheating myself? Am I depriving myself of accumulating the skills necessary to deal with my natural hair type? Will I be in for a rude awakening if I unwittingly become acclimated to "the look" of 4a hair? I'm not wearing a hlaf wig to avoid dealing with or wearing my natural hair, but I think my hair will flourish will low manipulation. When I wear it out, I have a severe case of hand in hair syndrome.

That I treat my relaxed hair like a red-headed stepchild sometimes. It's so pathetic and thin compared to my natural texture. Back in the summer I casually trimmed off inches twice. I just recently started being vigilant about stealing the ends. Before I would only seal them to ensure my "out" styles wouldn't have frizzy ends. I just want to be rid of the relaxed hair. Better yet, I just want it magically revert to my natural texture, so I can keep the length!

That I don't know how successful I will be in the napes and edges challenge. I think I've already made some process since starting my HHJ and I'm not sure how visible additional progress will be.

That I want bodacious hair and sometimes I'm afraid mine won't measure up. All I can do is be positive and have a consistent regimen, but I'm afraid it's not that simple. What if the perfect regimen is like a soul mate? I'm probably in the puppy love/like stage now and I don't even know what I'm missing out on. What if it takes years before my hair finds its destined match - that perfect cocktail of products/styles that will make it utter, "You complete meeeee!"

 

[robot.]

Rosa, you are silly.

 

[andromeda]

Almost forgot this one!

I confess I'm seriously considering checking out Dominican Essence. Maybe for a straightening around the holidays. I'm deathly afraid of heat damage but from what I hear, they're very attentive to natural hair..

 

[vainღ♥♡jane]

confession: i'm feeling really lost without my flatiron. =[ its like a drug to me- one i don't want to quit. ugh. this would be so easy to get over if i was already natural.​

 

[thehairmaverick]

Hey people, the newbie has a confessional!

*clears throat*

After two years of wearing sew-ins, my hair reached APL from NL. My 8 yo cousin compared her BSL hair to mines : "Your hair is still not longer than mines!"

Two years after my BC, I still wait for the day that my hair reaches BSL (or MBL ) so I can rub it in ...

 

[Chaosbutterfly]

Hey people, the newbie has a confessional!

*clears throat*

After two years of wearing sew-ins, my hair reached APL from NL. My 8 yo cousin compared her BSL hair to mines : "Your hair is still not longer than mines!"

Two years after my BC, I still wait for the day that my hair reaches BSL (or MBL ) so I can rub it in ...

This is really really really really really really mean to say, especially because she's a child, and I hope that God can forgive me for this one, but when I was eight, my hair was MBL (stretched) too. Six years later, it was at the top of my ears. I feel like everyone here as children had beautiful, healthy hair until they got their hands on it. So...just give her a few years. Unless she knows good hair care tips.

ETA: And congrats on your progress and welcome!!

 

[thehairmaverick]

This is really really really really really really mean to say, especially because she's a child, and I hope that God can forgive me for this one, but when I was eight, my hair was MBL (stretched) too. Six years later, it was at the top of my ears. I feel like everyone here as children had beautiful, healthy hair until they got their hands on it. So...just give her a few years. Unless she knows good hair care tips.

ETA: And congrats on your progress and welcome!!

Thanks for the welcome

Well the difference between here and other kids is that her mom and dad would NEVER neglect her and her sisters hair! I wouldn't be surprise if she had fairy tale Pocahontas hair by the time I make it to BSL lol...

 

[thehairmaverick]

This is really really really really really really mean to say, especially because she's a child, and I hope that God can forgive me for this one, but when I was eight, my hair was MBL (stretched) too. Six years later, it was at the top of my ears. I feel like everyone here as children had beautiful, healthy hair until they got their hands on it. So...just give her a few years. Unless she knows good hair care tips.

ETA: And congrats on your progress and welcome!!

PS- I would never rib it in directly , she is the sweetest girl and I love her dearly! She has matured so much in 4 years...

 

[Chaosbutterfly]

PS- I would never rib it in directly , she is the sweetest girl and I love her dearly! She has matured so much in 4 years...

Oh, nevermind then! Haha, I thought she was one of them evil little ones.

 

[shunemite]

This is really really really really really really mean to say, especially because she's a child, and I hope that God can forgive me for this one, but when I was eight, my hair was MBL (stretched) too. Six years later, it was at the top of my ears. I feel like everyone here as children had beautiful, healthy hair until they got their hands on it. So...just give her a few years. Unless she knows good hair care tips.

ETA: And congrats on your progress and welcome!!

You described my hair to a T.

 

[robot.]

Whenever I see a thread addressing naturals, I kind of go, "Oh! That's me now! *mosies right on in*"

 

[robot.]

I believe with every fiber in me that natural hair is the ultimate styling accessory. It adds instant flyness to any outfit.

 

[C@ssandr@]

That I'm apprehensive about the unintended consequences of wearing half wigs for my transition. I agree with the belief that transitioning is a physical and mental process. Although I love my NG and have accepted it, I wonder if wearing a 4a/3c? wig is cheating myself? Am I depriving myself of accumulating the skills necessary to deal with my natural hair type? Will I be in for a rude awakening if I unwittingly become acclimated to "the look" of 4a hair? I'm not wearing a hlaf wig to avoid dealing with or wearing my natural hair, but I think my hair will flourish will low manipulation. When I wear it out, I have a severe case of hand in hair syndrome.

That I treat my relaxed hair like a red-headed stepchild sometimes. It's so pathetic and thin compared to my natural texture. Back in the summer I casually trimmed off inches twice. I just recently started being vigilant about stealing the ends. Before I would only seal them to ensure my "out" styles wouldn't have frizzy ends. I just want to be rid of the relaxed hair. Better yet, I just want it magically revert to my natural texture, so I can keep the length!

That I don't know how successful I will be in the napes and edges challenge. I think I've already made some process since starting my HHJ and I'm not sure how visible additional progress will be.

That I want bodacious hair and sometimes I'm afraid mine won't measure up. All I can do is be positive and have a consistent regimen, but I'm afraid it's not that simple. What if the perfect regimen is like a soul mate? I'm probably in the puppy love/like stage now and I don't even know what I'm missing out on. What if it takes years before my hair finds its destined match - that perfect cocktail of products/styles that will make it utter, "You complete meeeee!"

When i went from natural to relaxed I felt like a traitor. But i wasn't trying to impress anybody. It took me a long time to get over it because i love my naps. I still love them. So... You love yourself and your hair. You are also looking to reach a goal. and that's what its about for you. You'll have to take the wig off and wash your hair, so you'll have to learn how to care for it...lol... So bump all that guilt and wear the wigs. You won't get acclimated

 

[imaccami]

I don't keep my ends perfectly trimmed because I like for it to be obvious that this is my real hair. I don't let them get to be a mess but they aren't perfectly trimmed either.

I get lots of compliments on my hair and never once been asked if it's a weave.

 

[shunemite]

I went to a housewarming today, and I caught myself staring at another woman's hair and how dry it was!

 

[andromeda]

I'm running out of storage space for my V05 conditioners.

 

[beans4reezy]

I got a package- it was my Oyin's Juices and berries- my heart skipped a beat.
Then I get a delivery confirmation- my silk scarf is on its way- my palms got sweaty.

I am getting that Junkie, Tyrone itch...I am addicted to getting hair products in the mail....it makes me high.

 

[Vonnieluvs08]

I don't know how I feel about wearing my natural hair for a photo shoot this Friday. It's not that I'm not proud of my hair...it's that my hair is horribly uneven due to cutting out heat damaged hair on the left side.

I don't know what I want to wear for it either but the hair is the more important problem...LOL!!

 

[halee_J]

I confess that I love being the biggest baddest fro in the room (not terribly difficult in Scottsdale, but still) At 5'8" I tend to stand out a bit anyway - you pop a fro on top of that and I'm a skyscraper.

I see people looking and I shake my hair a little extra for them. I will check out the corner of my eye to see if people are staring. They are.

I love how my hair makes me stand out. Yeah - I was cute with straight hair, cute with a long shiny weave, "glam" and all that, but straight up - I'mma baaaaaaaaaaad ***** with my natural hair. I feel like I could be wearing a sack and KILL IT based on hair alone.

Sometimes I just daydream about all the different styles I can/will do. I can spend a good hour or two

I know it's wrong, but when I see people with dried up unkempt looking relaxed hair I make a point to touch my hair (see how soft), shake it a little (It mooooooves!) and I hope they see it and it encourages them to try a new way. And if they hatin I hope sour salty bile chokes em out.

Even though I haven't been buying any products lately (happy with what I have) I can't help but check out the hair aisle and read bottles. I'm nosy.

When I was a little girl I had hair that was MBL. I knew it was long, but nobody else did. And when I said so I know they looked like I never recognized how pretty it was so I ran around with a towel on my head wishing I had long pretty shiny hair that hung like all the little white and puerto rican girls in my class....

Nowadays the only hair I want is MINE.

lachen:is bile really salty? Seriously tho, ITA. You gotta do you Rock on!

 

[halee_J]

When i went from natural to relaxed I felt like a traitor. But i wasn't trying to impress anybody. It took me a long time to get over it because i love my naps. I still love them. So... You love yourself and your hair. You are also looking to reach a goal. and that's what its about for you. You'll have to take the wig off and wash your hair, so you'll have to learn how to care for it...lol... So bump all that guilt and wear the wigs. You won't get acclimated

*sigh* me too. I spent almost 6 months transitioning and then B/C rocked a mohawk TWA for a while, but I it was so hard for me to keep my hair moisturized. I became a PJ. bought just about every DC, moisturizing poo, clarifying/chelating poo and leave-in moisturizer mentioned on this board. I literally had a room full of sh*t. And my hair was still dry. Then I started concocting all kinda natural homemade stuff ppl came up with on this board. They were good for a while but ultimately still very dry. I remebered when I was in high school my hair was MBL and relaxed and it was thriving, so I gave up.

Not saying that it was impossible 'cause probably if i actually stuck with a few things then I would have evenually got some staples and a reggie. I really love my natural texture but maybe for my habits my hair thrives better relaxed. I still get some dryness issues but nothing like when I was natural.