My Hair Confessional

[msa]

What was the insult, taco meat? It's only an insult when you give power to it.

I'm sure there are many who find taco meat pleasing to the eye, despite popular opinion. We all know how I feel about taco meat.

Come on now, something can be insult whether or not I "give power to it". Just like the word nappy, lots of people use it in a positive way but it can also be used in a negative way. The tone of her "taco meat" comment was clearly negative. She also called coily hair dirty and said that it looked ghetto. All that was extra and unnecessary.

 

[robot.]

Come on now, something can be insult whether or not I "give power to it". Just like the word nappy, lots of people use it in a positive way but it can also be used in a negative way. The tone of her "taco meat" comment was clearly negative. She also called coily hair dirty and said that it looked ghetto. All that was extra and unnecessary.

I really believe that something is only insulting when you allow it to be insulting to you. I'm not saying that there aren't things that are MEANT to be insulting. Obviously, there are. Something may hurt your feelings for a while, but that's only when you feed into it.

Like Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

 

[msa]

I really believe that something is only insulting when you allow it to be insulting to you. I'm not saying that there aren't things that are MEANT to be insulting. Obviously, there are. Something may hurt your feelings for a while, but that's only when you feed into it.

Like Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

Umm ok. If someone calls me a n*gger I'm going to be insulted. Doesn't mean I allow it to hurt my feelings or make me feel bad. But that doesn't make it less of an insult.

SK's comment didn't hurt my feelings and I'm sure it didn't hurt anyone else's. It was just unnecessary. She knows the type of people who frequent this board, so to say those things was just wrong. At the very least, it doesn't contribute to building up a community where everyone can feel comfortable.

Anyway, if you want to defend her fine. I'm not going to do it. Wrong is wrong and she shouldn't have said what she said. Confessions thread or not.

 

[robot.]

Oh well.

 

[robot.]

I confess that I absolutely can not stand to DC. I DC once a month.
I wash n go and KIM.

Sometimes I think a DC is too much work, but I just use the chance to throw together a bunch of stuff. Last night I dc'ed with some honey, coconut oil, shea butter, and regular DC. I was gonna throw in some EVOO and JBCO and some vatika frosting, but I thought that might've been too much.

 

[Chaosbutterfly]

But... um... yuck. I keep thinking about Taco Bell tacos, and that's unappealing in and of itself. Now, to picture someone's bead-a-bees in that Taco Bell taco... yuck.

Stop fronting, you know Taco Bell tacos are .
Now ya'll got me thinking of taquitos and tacos and enchiladas and burritos and hamburgers and all sorts of delicious meaty thangs.

 

[robot.]

Stop fronting, you know Taco Bell tacos are .
Now ya'll got me thinking of taquitos and tacos and enchiladas and burritos and hamburgers and all sorts of delicious meaty thangs.

i'm sorry. i've been at it all weekend. i miss my SO.

 

[AfroKink]

Deep down I don't think I'll ever surpass shoulder length.

I don't put pictures of my hair in my siggy or avatar, nor do I link my fotki, because of the hatred on this board.

Lys

 

[Kay.Dee]

I don't post much about my actual hair because I feel like I haven't seen much progress in the last year.

Sometimes I wish I didn't have any hair to deal with. I feel like I can't do anything right. Sometimes I don't feel like be natural, and miss being able to easily run a comb through my hair. And at the same time I don't feel the need to relax. I am not fond of the look of straight hair on me, and I personally don't like the message behind it. IDK why but right now being either natural or relaxed feels limiting.

Lawd somtimes I just want to shave my head and reach for the clippers, but luckily I realize that no matter how beautiful I feel I cannot rock the baldy look

And then sometimes when I hear discouraging comments about my hair, or hair type in general it makes me want to hang in there even longer. I may be taking forever reach my goal but I will get there eventually.

 

[Kay.Dee]

Deep down I don't think I'll ever surpass shoulder length.

I don't put pictures of my hair in my siggy or avatar, nor do I link my fotki, because of the hatred on this board.

Lys

Hey ms alyssa I remember visting your fotki and leaving a comment. I think we both suffer from the same problem.

 

[Foxglove]

So thaaaaat's why this thread blew up

 

[hiphoprocker]

so i've read 19 pages of confessions.. i had to get through it before i knew if mine were too silly

1. I am 23 years old and i still ROCK my baby hair.. as long as they stay baby length i will gel them accordingly

2. for some reason, people in my neighborhood are caught up in the rapture that is the banana clip.. I love to have a clean head of hair, blow it out (with a heat protectant of course, you guys taught me well) and put it in a banana clip.. oh the fullness and thickness gets em every time.. I've had people follow me out of a store and literally come to my car window and discuss amongst themselves the awsomeness of my hair in this clip! a little weird and creepy though. moving on

3. i make myself not look at all the weave i could buy in the bss. After all i am a recovering track and glue addict.

4. i've only been on my HHJ since august but i've seen so much growth and retention that i get really excited.. like happy dance in the mirror excited

5. i see these pre teen girls with over processed hair, gelled up hard into a tight *** ponytail on the tippity top of their head, with an inch or less of hair sticking out the top and wonder what their mother's (or other maternal figure) hair looks like, because its her responsibilty to guide and advise on her daughters hair at that point in life.

6. Im addicted to how water feels on my hair and scalp.. Like i'll sit down in the empty tub with the shower running on my head for like 10 mins.

7. I'm scared of really long hair because i think people will automatically assume its a weave and i may never have the chance to prove them wrong. afterall, my lace wig fooled a heck of a lot of people.. including people i worked with.. but i was very critical of it and thought it was the most obvious thing in the world..

8. I only want to grow to APL.. maybe an inch longer... I can't imagine having hair longer than the longest weave im willing to wear.. I mean was .. was willing to wear (still recovering)

9. I'll only tell select people about lhcf.. the ones i dont tell are the ones i talk about on here.. i know, thats bad..

10. DH calls you guys my "hair friends"

that is all

 

[robot.]

Aw, number 10 is sweet. And number 9 is just good ***-covering insurance.

 

[Bachelorette]

Well...that sure nuff didn't stop anyone else.

I hadnt read the entire thread when I wrote that but now that I have that's definitely not what I meant by mine being offensive. LOL

 

[Misshairdiva]

9. I'll only tell select people about lhcf.. the ones i dont tell are the ones i talk about on here.. i know, thats bad..

I sooo agree to that!!!


My hair confessional:
I log more hours in this forum then I do watching tv or talking to humans..
OK, this may be TMI, when I am "coloring" with dh sometimes glance in the mirror and I am like " look at that sexy head of hair!"

I have bought lepard and zebra print silk pillow cases so when I stay in hotels I dont forget and leave them at a hotel!

I refuse to sleep on cotton. EVER.

I have nightmares that one day Sabinohair will stop making Sabino Moisture Block and my hair will go back to reverting.

 

[locabouthair]

Deep down I don't think I'll ever surpass shoulder length.

I don't put pictures of my hair in my siggy or avatar, nor do I link my fotki, because of the hatred on this board.

Lys

What hatred?? I dont get it.

I saw the pics in your fotki, and we are hair twins

Dont think you'll never get past shoulder. I had so many setbacks but I will keep on trying. It will take time but we will get there.

 

[fattyfatfat]

tomorrow I will be 10wks post relaxer! im proud of myself because Im usually running to the salon in less time.

I confess that I really want to punch the salon stylist in the face everytime she says "mami you need a relaxer". its like the only thing she says! gosh...didnt she go to school for hair? shouldnt she know how to deal with different kinds of hair?!!!

 

[mnemosyne]

tomorrow I will be 10wks post relaxer! im proud of myself because Im usually running to the salon in less time.

I confess that I really want to punch the salon stylist in the face everytime she says "mami you need a relaxer". its like the only thing she says! gosh...didnt she go to school for hair? shouldnt she know how to deal with different kinds of hair?!!!

If it's not "mami you need a relaxer" it's "mami you need layers." I only get the latter, but it's still funny to me.

 

[locabouthair]

tomorrow I will be 10wks post relaxer! im proud of myself because Im usually running to the salon in less time.

I confess that I really want to punch the salon stylist in the face everytime she says "mami you need a relaxer". its like the only thing she says! gosh...didnt she go to school for hair? shouldnt she know how to deal with different kinds of hair?!!!

They would always tell me I need a perm. You dont know how many times I would leave the salon pissed off.

I havent been to the salon is 5 months because I am wearing a half wig. I plan to become a total DIY.

 

[JayAnn0513]

Not everyone has to like every hair type!! I think stick straight hair is dull and boring, I'll never understand why a 3a/3b would relax ( I like curls) , and if I knew with 100% certainty that I had 4b-c-napp hair I'm pretty sure I'd still be texlaxing (i like curls) . I'm much to lazy to deal with it 100% natural. The best part is it's my hair and I can relax if I want to. In my case I BKT and I could really careless what anyone here or elsewhere thinks of that.

Some of the 4b's here are so defensive that I think they are trying to convince themselves that their hair is "good enough" and not the rest of us. If someone posted that they hated 4a hair I wouldn't even bat an eye.

 

[fattyfatfat]

I wish I had the courage to become total DIY. last time I washed my hair it became so matted and tangled . even though that was years ago, Im scared that if I wash my own hair, the same thing will happen again and the tears wont end! I dont mind going to the salon, but I DO mind when they try to press me to get a relaxer. why cant relax their attitude!

They would always tell me I need a perm. You dont know how many times I would leave the salon pissed off.

I havent been to the salon is 5 months because I am wearing a half wig. I plan to become a total DIY.

 

[tori_mama]

-This is the longest that I have gone without a relaxer.(11 weeks)
-I'm scared that I won't transition and will end up relaxing again.
-I know that black hair can grow long but am worried that mine will not. When I say worried, I really mean that I think about hair failure and have a tightness in my chest. Im getting it right now. Oh gosh!

 

[locabouthair]

I wish I had the courage to become total DIY. last time I washed my hair it became so matted and tangled . even though that was years ago, Im scared that if I wash my own hair, the same thing will happen again and the tears wont end! I dont mind going to the salon, but I DO mind when they try to press me to get a relaxer. why cant relax their attitude!

I get tangles when I wash my hair in the sink. Did you wash it in the shower or sink?

Try washing your hair yourself one day. It saves money and you wont have to hear them complain.

 

[fattyfatfat]

I washed my hair in the shower .

I get tangles when I wash my hair in the sink. Did you wash it in the shower or sink?

Try washing your hair yourself one day. It saves money and you wont have to hear them complain.

 

[chebaby]

i confess that even with my heat damaged bang area, i am totally in love with my natural hair. when i was realxed i thought i would be unattractive were it not for my long staright hair, and yet i never felt beautiful until now.

i confess i did a bad thing and twisted my whole head and then took it out in an hour. mucho manipulation.

i confess that i want to go to the bss tomorrow and get a few things. i need some more goody head bands.

 

[Barbie83]

I confess....

....that when I click on an exciting headline like "Progress Pics!" I'm always a little let down when it's a member who is type 3 and/or has had long hair this whole time (don't stone me! Just bein honest! I'm most inspired by type 4 ladies who make it over the long hair hump)

....that I look at the back of my hair in the mirror EVERY. DAY.

....that no matter how well a product may work or how much miracle juice it contains, I simply WILL NOT use it if it stinks

....that during a looooong stretch, I love to play in all the new growth and I love the volume it gives me, but I'm still married to Lye. (for now)

 

[Chaosbutterfly]

I washed my hair in the shower .

Did you wash after taking down braids or a weave?
Sometimes, if you don't take out all the shed hair when you take them down and you wash, you can end up with horrible mats and knots.

And what was your technique like?
I think washing in twisted/braided sections is the easiest way to do it, instead of just washing in one mass of hair. Since I've started washing/DCing in sections, wash days have become so easy. Almost no tangles, even at 14 weeks post.

Girl, don't be scared. Go and get your DIY on. You save money and time, and it's so much more relaxing, because nobody can treat your hair as well as you can.

 

[Galadriel]

Confession: I removed/hid some of DH's toiletries to make room for my bottles upon bottles of conditioner. My hair products take over all the cabinet space in the bathroom, the linen closet in our bedroom, and part of the kids' bathroom.

Sometimes when I buy more, I rush upstairs with it so he can't see what I bought or what I'm doing. I guess I'm a PJ.

 

[Neith]

Not everyone has to like every hair type!! I think stick straight hair is dull and boring, I'll never understand why a 3a/3b would relax ( I like curls) , and if I knew with 100% certainty that I had 4b-c-napp hair I'm pretty sure I'd still be texlaxing (i like curls) . I'm much to lazy to deal with it 100% natural. The best part is it's my hair and I can relax if I want to. In my case I BKT and I could really careless what anyone here or elsewhere thinks of that.

Some of the 4b's here are so defensive that I think they are trying to convince themselves that their hair is "good enough" and not the rest of us. If someone posted that they hated 4a hair I wouldn't even bat an eye.

Then there are people like me are thoroughly confused because if you ask me, there isn't too big of a difference between 4a and 4b, if you like one, I don't see how you can dislike the other?

I also confess that I didn't know that 4a vs 4b could be such an issue until I went natural and experienced it firsthand. Folks getting crazy because someone's coil diameter is 1/25th of an inch wider

I don't get it.

 

[Barbie83]

Then there are people like me are thoroughly confused because if you ask me, there isn't too big of a difference between 4a and 4b, if you like one, I don't see how you can dislike the other?

I also confess that I didn't know that 4a vs 4b could be such an issue until I went natural and experienced it firsthand. Folks getting crazy because someone's coil diameter is 1/25th of an inch wider

I don't get it.

I'm with you girl!