My Hair Confessional

[jennboo]

I give up on this hair thing.

"Taco meat"... although that's what's growing out of your own head

"you prefer European beauty standards"... although you worship kim kardashian

"Jay-Z looks unkempt"... although he's rockin' a TWA like many women here

"so sad you don't love yourself"... although you are probably projecting

"I'm so glad I'm a type 3"... although you are a type 4 w/ heat damage

"i'm a type 4, see my really nappy hair right here in the back, aren't I so brave & down w/the struggle & new"... although you are a type 3 w/ heat damage

"all healthy hair is good hair"... although you always in the BSL type 3
threads and I ain't ever seen you in anyone else's thread

"locs look dirty/unkempt..." although your relaxed or loose natural hair ain't looking or feeling any cleaner

"why are you trying to use a comb its the tool of YT anyway" ... although you've never been seen without your Pantene & Joico

"I'm so informed and natural and anti-beauty standards"... although you pressed & curled & swangin' 11 months out of 12

"Why can't we all just get along"... although in the next sentence you're saying how much better relaxed/natural hair is than the other

"We're no different than YT or anyone else, we have no unique hair problems"... when CLEARLY we do.

I give up!

This post literally made me LOL. So true.

 

[SherylsTresses]

You asked Robotxcore so you here go......

I crave natural MBL hair.
I'm so in love with my NG that I may just go natural.
I'm soooo tired of my ends being dry and brittle with braidouts and loose airdrying. erplexed
I wonder of Roux Porosity control will tame my brittle ends on braidouts.
I'm 40 years old now and may transition to natural by 45 or maybe I'll start now.

 

[Neith]

I don't feel that having longer hair or healthier hair makes a woman "superior" to anyone else. erplexed

It makes me wonder if some feel inferior to women with longer hair. Sorry, you are not somehow better than me because your hair is longer. It's absurd in the same way as light people who feel that their skin color makes them superior to dark people imo.

On the real, I think prancing around thinking that your hair MAKES you is a little sad. I understand wanting to look pretty, but I wonder if some people put too much of their sense of self worth into their looks. If you're at the point where you think you are actually a better/more valuable person than someone with a bad haircut or unhealthy or short hair... I dunno, makes me wonder.



I honestly see beauty in every hair type. There is no hairtype that I think is not pretty when it is healthy. Bad cuts and bad care make "bad hair" NOT your texture.



Just like I chose to become natural when I wanted to, I leave that option open to other people. Do what you want to your hair when you are ready to do it. Someone with natural hair is not somehow "better" than someone with relaxed hair... they just made a different choice. Live and let live.




My hair is growing like a weed especially since my BC and I don't know why. When I did the BC 3 months ago my hair was right below my ear stretched. Now it is beyond my chin. I think it's a combo between tea rinses and coconut/castor oil on the scalp, plus healthier hair (more retention). I hope it continues. I will try to document it more too.



I wish I knew how to braid. I can't cornrow or flat twist no matter how much I try. I can only do single braids and twists (not all that well either) I'm too paranoid to have someone else braid my hair. I guess I will never have pretty braids




I plan to grow my hair very long if possible, but I won't share exactly how long until I have a bit more length so I don't look silly, lol

 

[LunadeMiel]

*Sometimes I daydream about what my hair will look like when it's at waistlength.
*I can't believe how beautiful my hair is. I mean it's Fiyah
*When I notice people staring at my big wash and gos, I add a little more pep to my step so that my hair can bounce. I also find a reason to turn around abruptly so that my hair can swing and hit my face. Yeah, natural hair can bounce and move.
*I can't believe that I'm almost BSB. I did the BCD on 2/8/2008 after a 6 month transition.
*I look soooo much better with long hair.
*When I see someone with chewed up hair I like to take a curl and just pull it very slowly so that I can show off the length

 

[Esq.2B]

I'm prettier with short hair. I'm almost sure of this . BUT I'm growing my hair out so I can say I have long hair.

 

[chebaby]

i confess:
somebody about to get hurt because the post ofice did not deliver my package even though it says they did.

i confess im tied of people not knowing when to keep quiet. i dont ignore, i teach.

i confess i had the funniest hair dream last night. i commited a crime with my hair dryer and the police and their dogs were out back. but i couldnt hide inside because my shea amla butter was out back. that dog was tryna tear me apart but i got my moisturizer though lol.

im headed to the po, they betta have my stuff.

 

[Kneechay]

- I'm only growing out my hair for the sole reason to show my sisters that when you go natural, the hair doesn't fall out as a result of some 'relaxer withdrawal' also, I envision my honeymoon when i emerge from a pool (or some body of water) with huge hair that's all mine running towards my husband

- Even though I know I'm not bald, sometimes I assume people think because I have a weave in, that I have no hair and I'm mad I can't prove otherwise.

- I'd love to get a sew in with a kinky texture, but I've looked far and wide and I've had the hardest time finding hair to match my own hair, so I just stick with straight hair to save time because it's hard to get an appointment with my stylist. I think if I could wear a kinkier sew-in similar to my hair, it would be much more beneficial to learning to take care of MY hair.

- I have heat damaged ends from when I straightened too much after going natural before LHCF taught me alternatives, and I LIKE them and wont cut them until I'm ready. It's MY hair and I'll do with it what I want.

 

[TeeWhyAre]

Gee Love, Esq. 2B, stop instigating. It's that stuff which gets people all excited and then they start acting foolish.

It's a confessional. She was being honest. And now she's done with it, so leave her be for now.

And yeah, I know I'm late.

I sowy =(. But I DID try to get us back on topic and kinda defended her by saying that it IS confessional so... gotsta respect the courage it took to get that out there.

 

[goodmorningruby]

A few weeks ago, my boyfriend said, "Pretty much everybody but black people have good hair."

I did not know what to say. I reminded him, his sister was black (and natural), his mother is black, nicca, I'M BLACK. And told him people of every race can have jacked up hair and ended the conversation right then and there.

I still don't know what to say. What's weird is, I didn't take too much offense to it and IDK why. Maybe because I know the poor thing is ignorant.

I honestly think if we were in the same room, and that came out of his mouth, I would've slapped him dead in it.

*GASP* NO HE DIDN'T!

 

[freshlikemoi]

I visualize my wedding day and the waves that I want. I see long bangs in the front with a part in the middle. && me Werrrrrrrrrkin' it!

 

[ladytee2]

I confess I never talk to anyone about my hair, this board or my regimen.

If hair ever comes up and why I am always in a bun I make a comment about recovering from color damage and that was like 2 years ago.

My husband asked me about my hair and what I was doing to it and I made comment about it growing and he said is that the only goal to grow it? I walked away because I dont think he would understand how badly I have always wanted long hair.

I have been offically on my healthy hair journey for about a year give or take a week or so but I am afraid to straighten because I will be very disappointed if I dont show any retention.

 

[goodmorningruby]

Looks like this is an "unpopular hair opinions" thread and not a confessions thread...

I got some unpopular opinions, but I'll refrain from posting them cause they ain't just about hair.

Casting pearls before swine and all of that...

Totally taking that route too. SMH.

 

[SimpleKomplexity]

What is with people feeling the need lately to confess how much they dislike type 4 hair? Seriously.

It's funny how folks feel so free to insult whole groups of people. Especially when they...

Nevermind.

Oh and sorry to break it to you but 4a hair ain't "good" hair. I don't know if you forgot or are just delusional but you aren't doing any better than the folks with "kinky coily taco meat hair".

AWW BOO HOO!!! People need to stop being so sensitive to these types of comments. I could care less who HATES my hair texture. I love it and thats all that matters. As long as we're imperfect, people are going to have their own opinions that dislike another person and their characterics based on something that is out of their control. I can't control how my hair GROWS out of my scalp anymore than I could control being born w/this brown skin color.

I'll tell others who are "crying" over posts like this the same thing I tell my 5 year old- Press your ignore button and keep it moving! I don't literally mean you have to ignore postersimstupid: )like these but you have to ignore what people say! 4B-CNAPP TEXTURE AND PROUD OF IT!

Lord thank you for this post!! Yes I know There are many who dislike fat people, black people, Scientologists, Immunati, he** I made a post a while back and asked if any of yall would date a person with disabilities and people let their true colors and said no they wouldn't and no I don't agree with it, but now I have come to realize everyone is entitled to their own preferences. Different topic but same principle. Just like a person can say that don't like how braids, dreads, rollersets look, I can easily say I don't like the way type xyz hair looks.

Do whatever you like. That's the preference. I ain't knocking ya. We all have room for different opinions, but we can agree to disagree and KIM. And that's exactly what I'm doing...KIM lol.

 

[Raspberry]

Oh and sorry to break it to you but 4a hair ain't "good" hair. I don't know if you forgot or are just delusional but you aren't doing any better than the folks with "kinky coily taco meat hair".

Sooo true. I have 4a-ish hair and single strand knots are primarily what drove me grow locs

 

[Raspberry]

Although I LOVE natural hair (any texture 1,2,3,4...... a, b, or zz) I HATE DREAD LOCKS………especially on women. Most locks that I seen in real life just look unkempt, rough, dusty, and unclean. Most women I’ve seen with dreads don’t look feminine. I'm talking about the heads I SEEN, so but stone me.

I will say that even though I have locs, I don't like locs on like 65% of people I see in real life, real silly I know

ETA: I was a weedhead when I had a relaxer, I'm such a goody two-shoes now that I'm locked up... ironic.

 

[MissRissa]

when i see other heads of hair i either go into weirdo gush/stare mode or into recommendation mode. like today we were in a meeting and immediately im like "she needs a honey treatment to soften that up and a good trim" and "lord knows a really good deep conditioner and some shea butter would do that head a world of good" or "maybe i could slip her some megatek and a nice oil blend and those edges would be normal in like 2 months". i go straight for the hair when i see people. even men.

 

[robot.]

No, a lot of Rastas let their hair loc up naturally because that is their definitition of "real" locks. Many of them believe that locks that are formed with beeswax etc are artificial.

But they still at least twist it, don't they? So that way they get a uniform loc? I mean when you literally leave it alone for weeks on end.

 

[robot.]

*GASP* NO HE DIDN'T!

He's out of the country right now, but I texted him, "You know I should've slapped the **** outta you for saying that."

Whoo. Can't wait till he reads that one.

 

[PPGbubbles]

Here are my confessions... Since I have gone natural I wash/co-wash every couple of days...My mom tells me "your not a white girl you need to stop washing your hair all the time. You think your hair would be down your back by now"

I often fantacize about the day my hair is down my back so I can fling it in her face

A lot of ppl like to play in my hair now that its gotten longer. I usually tell them stop.... but deep inside I love it when ppl play in my big curly fro

 

[Raspberry]

But they still at least twist it, don't they? So that way they get a uniform loc? I mean when you literally leave it alone for weeks on end.

No, rastas don't twist their hair, they don't care about having uniform locs... that's why you'll see many with very large ones that have fused together.

 

[Esq.2B]

But they still at least twist it, don't they? So that way they get a uniform loc? I mean when you literally leave it alone for weeks on end.

Nope ma'am, they don't twist it. They literally leave it alone for weeks on end. Sounds a bit weird, I know. But that's why they look really ununiformed sometimes. And stuck together. They'll be different sizes and sometimes looked matted. But that's the "natural" locks.

 

[Letta]

I confess:

That I 4got just how thick castor oil is and I put way to much on instead of just putting it on my ends like I intended. Its kinda greasy right now.

That if I do end up transfering to UMBC idk if I'll be able to maintain good hair health without my mom. I think shes my crutch.

That everytime I do my hair I wanna curse out my edges for being so short and messing wit the awesomeness that is my hair

That I kind of giggle inside because although my mom has been natural for about 5 yrs we have about the same hair length. I know its only that short becuz she got a haircut she didnt like but I feel like we're more on a level playing field and I don't have to feel bad for not having as much hair as her. Sounds crazy but I have a sick mind.

That when I go into the child haircare part on this board that I want to cry a little becuz I remember having that much hair and I kind of hate myself *strong word but I couldnt think of a better one* for hating having long hair back then

That another reason I don't like Oprah is becuz she did a makeover show when I was little and they cut off this woman's long hair and she looked so pretty that I decided to take the scissors to my own hair. DAMN YOU OPRAH

 

[naijamerican]

I confess that I am having a difficult time keeping my hair moisturized in this dry, colder weather. I am really concerned about my ends, so I'm thinking of getting kinky twists put in. It literally feels as if nothing - even my beloved Qhemet Biologics and daily co-washing - is working. I'm frustrated.

I confess that I firmly believe that if every Black woman went natural at least once in their lives, their confidence would skyrocket. I also confess that this week alone, I've seen more ignorant opinions about 4A/B hair than I have in my entire four years here. I'm beginning to see why natural hair is such a big deal among Black women.

 

[Chaosbutterfly]

when i see other heads of hair i either go into weirdo gush/stare mode or into recommendation mode. like today we were in a meeting and immediately im like "she needs a honey treatment to soften that up and a good trim" and "lord knows a really good deep conditioner and some shea butter would do that head a world of good" or "maybe i could slip her some megatek and a nice oil blend and those edges would be normal in like 2 months". i go straight for the hair when i see people. even men.

ME TOO.
I will sit on the train/in class and come up with entire regimens for people with busted hair. There's a white girl in one of my classes with the most split ends you have ever seen in your life. Literally, every strand ends in a split .
Anyway, every time she sits in front of me, I spend the whole class thinking "Umph, she knows she needs to reach for the scissors and give herself a good trim, all them split ends", and I can't concentrate.
And when I'm getting onto the train/bus and notice someone with tore up hair getting off, I get kind of mad, because I can't make up a regimen for them.

 

[Poranges]

LMAO...I knew this was too good to be true, this thread did not get so long without drama. The chronicles of LHCF and these confession threads. This mess is just getting too much with this good hair/bad hair...I'm tired of hearing this ish...who gives a damn...its hair....hair ya'll...kinky, coily, curly, wavy, straight...if its taken care of its nice...please the ignorance shalt not be spread...there has been an overflow of this mess in the hair forum lately and this forum was the only place I knew I could come where the ignorance was at bay...but now..

 

[LadyPaniolo]

My hair confessions:

- I *know* I need to do more protein treatments. I know this. And yet, for some reason, it doesn't end up getting done, and as a result my hair is so over-moisturized it's like rubber.

- When my hair is loose I wish and dream about the easy care involved in having braids or a weave... and then when I get my hair weaved up or spend a week putting the braids in, I miss my hair so bad that I can't WAIT to take it down again. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

- My relatives have not seen my hair out since Christmas, and it was in its shrunken state. None of them are black, they have no clue about shrinkage. I'm going to my SIL's wedding on Sunday (and I really DON'T want to go) and I wished I had my own hair out and flat ironed to show length, to let them itches know how long and fly my hair really is. ESP since I just got my longest layer to WL, you can't tell me NOTHING>

 

[shunemite]

I find kinky coily taco meat looking hair unattractive.

My confession is that I'm so proud of myself, because I have 4b hair and after reading your post I'm not bothered at all because I know I have beautiful hair. 5 years ago this would have bothered me, it's the exact thing I grew up hearing from peers. I have a good regimen and I accept myself the way I am. So I pray for you that one day you will be able to look at another black person's hair, accept yourself, and love yourself. Enjoy your life. There are so many people of other races calling your own hair "ugly hair". You don't have to find someone with "uglier hair" to call your own hair beautiful.

 

[robot.]

Here are my confessions... Since I have gone natural I wash/co-wash every couple of days...My mom tells me "your not a white girl you need to stop washing your hair all the time. You think your hair would be down your back by now"

I often fantacize about the day my hair is down my back so I can fling it in her face

A lot of ppl like to play in my hair now that its gotten longer. I usually tell them stop.... but deep inside I love it when ppl play in my big curly fro

We are >>>here<<<! On all three.

I can't even go shopping with my mom because I shop in the "white girl" aisle. I don't even let it get to me anymore. I'll show her one day...

 

[Jade Feria]

...I wash/co-wash every couple of days...My mom tells me "your not a white girl you need to stop washing your hair all the time. You think your hair would be down your back by now"

I often fantacize about the day my hair is down my back so I can fling it in her face

Meeee tooo!!! She tells me the same exact thing. She says that Black hair shouldn't be washed often.

My Hair Confessionals:
Sometimes I think that "they" don't want Black people to have healthy, long hair, so they make the "black section" of products with the crap ingredients while they advertise all the good stuff for others and make it seem like "their" stuff is not for "us"...

I anticipate the days when people will challenge my hair and try to "weave-check" me.

I had a setback early this year. Well, more like a standstill, idk. I was not taking care of my hair like I was supposed to. I was so lazy with it..quick to throw it under a wig. Which would have been cool if I took better care of it. My hair stayed the same length as my avatar, just past APL. It was growing, but I wasn't retaining length. UGH! I started sticking to my hair care regimen about 2 months ago, and I have no intention of dropping it..no matter how busy I get!

 

[♥Lamaravilla♥]

Lord thank you for this post!! Yes I know There are many who dislike fat people, black people, Scientologists, Immunati, he** I made a post a while back and asked if any of yall would date a person with disabilities and people let their true colors and said no they wouldn't and no I don't agree with it, but now I have come to realize everyone is entitled to their own preferences. Different topic but same principle. Just like a person can say that don't like how braids, dreads, rollersets look, I can easily say I don't like the way type xyz hair looks.

Do whatever you like. That's the preference. I ain't knocking ya. We all have room for different opinions, but we can agree to disagree and KIM. And that's exactly what I'm doing...KIM lol.

There is a difference between saying you don't like something or aren't attracted to it, and calling 4b-z hair taco meat ...

*shakes head and leaves thread*