This very awkward moment!

[NYCAngel]

To the ladies who put in weaves/extensions in their hair...How do you deal with your guy putting his hands in your hair? I've been seeing this new guy. There was this awkward moment when we were having fun on the couch and he put his hands in my hair. I had clip-in extensions. He took them back out but I could tell he was wondering what was going on up in that scalp of mine. He is hispanic, but I'm not sure how many women he has dated who have had extensions.

So, the question is do you ladies
1- address this as it happens or
2 - let him know before-hand that you have extensions in your hair or
3- say nothing if he doesn't ask

 

[chebaby]

i wouldnt say anything if he took his hands out and didnt ask. for all you know, he really doesnt care or is used to it.

 

[shunemite]

Just say politely, " I just got my hair done. I don't wanna mess up the style. It'll get messed up if you touch it". I had a white boyfriend way back when and that worked on him. He didn't touch my hair after that.

 

[winnettag]

I never say anything. I figure if they wanted to know they would ask.
I do try my hardest to avoid that situation happening though! lol

 

[shamarie]

Oh baby that is easy....Tell him..... "oh baby hold on a minute, havent you heard not to put your hand in a blac........LOL, naw im kidding. No just tell "Oh no honey, dont mess up my hair." or something like that.

 

[TeeWhyAre]

LMAO!!! This is covered in Good Hair. Nia Long let's dude know not to touch her weave & has on top weave secks. HTH.

 

[femmemuscle]

Nope, i just tell them before their hand reaches the finish line - i have extensions. if they can handle that? great..otherwise, i'll be having fun with someone else on the couch.

Years ago, my (white/italian) boyfriend discovered my weave. i had told him about it before. So one night he put his hand in my hair. and i said "I told you i have extensions." His reaction took me off guard. he just said: "let me see?" so i bent my head toward him, and he proceeded to feel the tracks. He had a few questions, i answered them.

When he was pretty much satisfied with our question/answer forum he just said: "This is sooo cool."

Eight years later, he's an expert at braids/twists/weaves. He has been known to repair any weave discrepancies when i used to come home from my old beautician. He swears one day, when he gets good enough, he will open a "weave repair shop"..for all cultures.

 

[Urban]

Nope, i just tell them before their hand reaches the finish line - i have extensions. if they can handle that? great..otherwise, i'll be having fun with someone else on the couch.

Years ago, my (white/italian) boyfriend discovered my weave. i had told him about it before. So one night he put his hand in my hair. and i said "I told you i have extensions." His reaction took me off guard. he just said: "let me see?" so i bent my head toward him, and he proceeded to feel the tracks. He had a few questions, i answered them.

When he was pretty much satisfied with our question/answer forum he just said: "This is sooo cool."

Eight years later, he's an expert at braids/twists/weaves. He has been known to repair any weave discrepancies when i used to come home from my old beautician. He swears one day, when he gets good enough, he will open a "weave repair shop"..for all cultures.

This reminded me of my ex (white) who used to help me take out braids and weaves. But I think I pushed it too far when I suggested I teach him how to braid so that he could braid my hair

 

[NYCAngel]

Nope, i just tell them before their hand reaches the finish line - i have extensions. if they can handle that? great..otherwise, i'll be having fun with someone else on the couch.

Years ago, my (white/italian) boyfriend discovered my weave. i had told him about it before. So one night he put his hand in my hair. and i said "I told you i have extensions." His reaction took me off guard. he just said: "let me see?" so i bent my head toward him, and he proceeded to feel the tracks. He had a few questions, i answered them.

When he was pretty much satisfied with our question/answer forum he just said: "This is sooo cool."

Eight years later, he's an expert at braids/twists/weaves. He has been known to repair any weave discrepancies when i used to come home from my old beautician. He swears one day, when he gets good enough, he will open a "weave repair shop"..for all cultures.

LOL, wow. Thats really funny. Thanks Ladies.

 

[Hysi]

that iz soo cute! i love it when ur man is at ease & involved with our hair. my husband does mine all the time. rollersets, take down braidz, dye, weave check, wig check (he calls them "hair hat"), he did my bc, and now he iz finding me a style for my new short natural do and buying the rollers that he thinks i need. OOOOH sexxxy man

 

[sheba1]

This reminded me of my ex (white) who used to help me take out braids and weaves. But I think I pushed it too far when I suggested I teach him how to braid so that he could braid my hair

Femmemuscle, I love it!!!


Now Urban, Girl, you give somebody and inch... Not that I wouldn't have tried it.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

I have wondered about this myself... I mean, how uncomfortable for both parties! If you tell him you have extensions, he MAY think your hair is really really short, even if you claim it's not. Some men are turned off by the idea altogether. I know it puts a damper on my enthusiasm to wonder if extension discovery is imminent, lol

 

[doll-baby]

I've never encountered that before, the guy's I've dated have never tried to put their hands in my hair before (with or without a weave). I guess they know better.
But just let him know that you would rather him not do that when your hair is "done", if it bothers you.

 

[honeybuni84]

i tell them point blank... i wear tracks and i like them.. you can pull on them, he can lightly run his fingers over the top...

no big discussion for me

 

[shunemite]

One guy I dated, when I went over to his house, one braid fell out of my head. He kept it, called me, and said, "you forgot something here". Next time I went over, he said, "here" and handed me my micro braid.

 

[NYCAngel]

One guy I dated, when I went over to his house, one braid fell out of my head. He kept it, called me, and said, "you forgot something here". Next time I went over, he said, "here" and handed me my micro braid.

How did you react shunemite? Did you just laugh it off?

 

[ChristmasCarol]

One guy I dated, when I went over to his house, one braid fell out of my head. He kept it, called me, and said, "you forgot something here". Next time I went over, he said, "here" and handed me my micro braid.

That just made my day!

 

[loveisnthehouse]

LOL, im loving all of these stories! My white girlfriend helped me take out a weave that I did. I sat down and she cut it out for me. Haha!