Texlaxed and torn as to what to do.....

[eyunka]

For give any typing errors as i did not go back and proof read.

I have been here long enough to know what's doing wrong but i still have not figured it out yet. I have been texlaxing my daughter and my hair (4a/b) hair for almost a year now. DD's hair is doing really well with the exception of when it's wet it looks like she is very natural. I thought the texlax was suppose to give it a slight wavey thing going. There is mistake #1, apparently I'm not doing the texlax correctly.

Now with my hair I would think if I've been texlaxing for almost a year my hair should not be the same lenght as when i started. Yes i have trimed a couple times but nothing huge. I have mad breakage in the nape area and a little just below the crown area. Mistake #2. When i wash my hair i can see maybe about 2+ inches of bone straight hair left. Now if that is true my hair should be past APL.

Texlax our hair 8-10 post - mixture is the regular QP perm and conditioner for maybe 10 mins maybe 12.

I wash our hair once a week. I recently went to baking soda washes (2 months now) but before shampoo. DC once a month with QP DPR11. I use cheapie condition to detangle other wise.

Styling methods just depend if using no heat them i will moisturize our hair and pull back in a ponytail and laydown with a scarf. If i use heat i blow dry after adding oil the the hair and then flat iron once a week. The only thing i can figure out is maybe i am not detangling correctly. I don't alway start from the bottom and work my way down.

I'm torn between going back bone straight which my hair grew fine but i didn't like the thinnest. I love the thickness i have I'm just not retaining lenght. I don't know what to do.

I created a thread a whild back about the FHI flat iron. I complained that to DH that the flat irons i have was not getting the hair straight. You know every now and again i wanted a bone straight look. Once i used it i was like my hair feels too thin...that's crazy!!!!

I'm just frustrated on what to do....done venting now.

 

[FluffyRed]

I think (not an expert, though) that when you do a texlax, some hair comes out wavy and some just loosens the nap. Mine is more like a big fro, rather than a shrunken fro.

Like you, I prefer the thick appearance. I hate thinness in my hair, and using lye instead of no-lye, I have not seen 1-inch broken off pieces in months.

but I'm having to detangle so much, and working out so often, I think I might go a little straighter with a no-lye, as much as I don't really want to.

 

[msa]

For give any typing errors as i did not go back and proof read.

I have been here long enough to know what's doing wrong but i still have not figured it out yet. I have been texlaxing my daughter and my hair (4a/b) hair for almost a year now. DD's hair is doing really well with the exception of when it's wet it looks like she is very natural. I thought the texlax was suppose to give it a slight wavey thing going. There is mistake #1, apparently I'm not doing the texlax correctly.

Everyone ends up with different results when texlaxing. Texlaxing loosens what you already have, but it can't create things that aren't there. If you/DD didn't start with curls or waves, then you're probably not going to end up with any type of wave. I've seen on a lot of 4b (cottony type) people that they just end up with kinky straight hair that's easier to detangle but not much different from their original texture.

Now with my hair I would think if I've been texlaxing for almost a year my hair should not be the same lenght as when i started. Yes i have trimed a couple times but nothing huge. I have mad breakage in the nape area and a little just below the crown area. Mistake #2. When i wash my hair i can see maybe about 2+ inches of bone straight hair left. Now if that is true my hair should be past APL.

Texlax our hair 8-10 post - mixture is the regular QP perm and conditioner for maybe 10 mins maybe 12.

I wash our hair once a week. I recently went to baking soda washes (2 months now) but before shampoo. DC once a month with QP DPR11. I use cheapie condition to detangle other wise.

Do you DC with a moisturizing conditioner throughout the month? You use cheapie conditioner to detangle but it seems like y'alls hair is just not getting enough moisture (and maybe protein as well).

Also, I wouldn't do a baking soda wash and shampoo, that's just too drying. Do one or the other. At the most, just add a teaspoon of baking soda to your shampoo if you need to clarify but otherwise don't use the baking soda. You are drying your hair out and then not replenishing it with moisture.

I don't know if QP is no lye but if it is you may need to chelate to remove the calcium deposits left by the perm.

Styling methods just depend if using no heat them i will moisturize our hair and pull back in a ponytail and laydown with a scarf. If i use heat i blow dry after adding oil the the hair and then flat iron once a week. The only thing i can figure out is maybe i am not detangling correctly. I don't alway start from the bottom and work my way down.

I'm torn between going back bone straight which my hair grew fine but i didn't like the thinnest. I love the thickness i have I'm just not retaining lenght. I don't know what to do.

You should not use heat after applying oil. From what I've read it just fries your hair. I know it works for some people but I just don't think it's a good idea. Do you use any heat protectant before blow drying/flat ironing? If not, you need to get one.

Detangling gently is important but the lack of length retention is really from the rest of your regimen. You're stripping the hair with baking soda and shampoo, then not putting enough moisture back into it (or protein I suspect) because you only DC once a month, and then you're using heat on damaged hair without a heat protectant. You really need to get your regimen together so that you can retain.

 

[Ivonnovi]

/\ Everything she said.

 

[eyunka]

I will take a serious look at your suggestions and change accordingly. Thx so much for the advice. When i first started LHCF my hair was thriving. I will look into what i was doing there and make adjustments to the texlax hair.

Everyone ends up with different results when texlaxing. Texlaxing loosens what you already have, but it can't create things that aren't there. If you/DD didn't start with curls or waves, then you're probably not going to end up with any type of wave. I've seen on a lot of 4b (cottony type) people that they just end up with kinky straight hair that's easier to detangle but not much different from their original texture.



Do you DC with a moisturizing conditioner throughout the month? You use cheapie conditioner to detangle but it seems like y'alls hair is just not getting enough moisture (and maybe protein as well).

Also, I wouldn't do a baking soda wash and shampoo, that's just too drying. Do one or the other. At the most, just add a teaspoon of baking soda to your shampoo if you need to clarify but otherwise don't use the baking soda. You are drying your hair out and then not replenishing it with moisture.

I don't know if QP is no lye but if it is you may need to chelate to remove the calcium deposits left by the perm.



You should not use heat after applying oil. From what I've read it just fries your hair. I know it works for some people but I just don't think it's a good idea. Do you use any heat protectant before blow drying/flat ironing? If not, you need to get one.

Detangling gently is important but the lack of length retention is really from the rest of your regimen. You're stripping the hair with baking soda and shampoo, then not putting enough moisture back into it (or protein I suspect) because you only DC once a month, and then you're using heat on damaged hair without a heat protectant. You really need to get your regimen together so that you can retain.

 

[glamazon386]

I have been here long enough to know what's doing wrong but i still have not figured it out yet. I have been texlaxing my daughter and my hair (4a/b) hair for almost a year now. DD's hair is doing really well with the exception of when it's wet it looks like she is very natural. I thought the texlax was suppose to give it a slight wavey thing going. There is mistake #1, apparently I'm not doing the texlax correctly.

I think (not an expert, though) that when you do a texlax, some hair comes out wavy and some just loosens the nap. Mine is more like a big fro, rather than a shrunken fro.

Like you, I prefer the thick appearance. I hate thinness in my hair, and using lye instead of no-lye, I have not seen 1-inch broken off pieces in months.

but I'm having to detangle so much, and working out so often, I think I might go a little straighter with a no-lye, as much as I don't really want to.

I really think it depends on your natural texture. Everybody isn't going to have a wave or curl. It just loosens what's already there. I remember reading an article a while back that talked about texturizing/texlaxing and it said that everybody may not be a candidate for the wash and go hair look via the chemical. They said that if you put conditioner on wet natural hair it will give you an idea of what your curl pattern will look like if you texturize or texlax. If there's not a visible patter there you would have to manipulate the hair another way with the chemical to get a wave or curl pattern like wave nouveau, curly perm, etc. Or even texlaxing in twists. There was a member here who did that and it worked well for her.

 

[eyunka]

I have a question if I make the decision to relax my hair a little straighter...I don't want to say bone straight because i don't like that thin look, how would i need to do it? Start over meaning only relax the new growth longer or can i go over the texlax to straighten it a little more?

 

[glamazon386]

I have a question if I make the decision to relax my hair a little straighter...I don't want to say bone straight because i don't like that thin look, how would i need to do it? Start over meaning only relax the new growth longer or can i go over the texlax to straighten it a little more?

If you want your hair straighter, dou'd have to do a corrective relaxer and run it through the previously relaxed sections to straighten it out some more.