Ladies would you stay witha man the couldn't

[lilsparkle825]

my bf made a big deal, but i am the type of person to say "get over it" and keep it moving. after a few weeks he stopped being so vocal, and he complimented me "in his own special way" one day. LOL

 

[LivingDol1]

lol. no. if he doesn't like it and makes it a problem, he can head out the door. if i were going to change my hair, be natural, chop it off, that's my business. not his. who would want to be with a guy who cares that much anyway?

we accept that men lose their hair and grow it on their backs.... so a man should appreciate you, hair and all.

 

[LayneJ]

My hubby is very resistant to me going natural. He equates it with looking like Erica Badu. His words. Truthfully, I want the option to look rock a Badu. I think he has come around some now that I told him I would try to transition versus doing the BC. The BC was really what got to him. It is important to me that my dh finds me attractive. However, this will probably just be one of those things he just has to get over.

The other day I was showing him Lauren/Southern bella (?) fotki to show him that naturals can also straighten their hair. I think I will show him the pics Ediese just posted.

Funny thing is, I wore the "Halle" cut for years. He loved it. Now, he would be devastated if I cut my hair.

That made me smile; that's a sweet gesture.

Natural hair is very versatile! I have a bunch look of natural friends on Fotki you can look through if you want: http://members.fotki.com/NaturallYlayne/about/

Some long-haired naturals you could show him, to help bring him around.
http://members.fotki.com/Sera252/about/
http://public.fotki.com/brownsugar07/
http://public.fotki.com/Poetist/

And a thread about Naturals with Fotki's: http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=112975

Good luck with your transition!

OnTopic: I wouldn't date someone who couldn't support me, especially with something as trivial as hair. If I were married, I'd compromise by straightening somewhat frequently until he got used to seeing my natural hair, then I'd stop.

 

[Solitude]

If I was dating him, no.
If I was married to him, he'd have to get over it, and I'd support my damn self.

Exactly. If he is boyfriend, he can hit the door.

If he is my hubby, I wouldn't break up my marriage over it, but that ish would hurt.

 

[mj11051]

Thanks for your answers ladies. I asked this question because of something I read on another hair board and for the life of me, I can't understand why some woman allow a hubby or s/o to control them. I really didn't give a hoot if my hubby liked my hair or not, I was gonna be natural. I didn't ask him his opinion, I told him I'm going natural. I can understand you loving your man and always try to keep him happy, however what about your own happiness.

 

[Honey01]

That made me smile; that's a sweet gesture.

Natural hair is very versatile! I have a bunch look of natural friends on Fotki you can look through if you want: http://members.fotki.com/NaturallYlayne/about/

Some long-haired naturals you could show him, to help bring him around.
http://members.fotki.com/Sera252/about/
http://public.fotki.com/brownsugar07/
http://public.fotki.com/Poetist/

And a thread about Naturals with Fotki's: http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=112975

Good luck with your transition!

OnTopic: I wouldn't date someone who couldn't support me, especially with something as trivial as hair. If I were married, I'd compromise by straightening somewhat frequently until he got used to seeing my natural hair, then I'd stop.

Thank you so very much! Good looking out.

 

[hypek]

i dont know... if he really had an issue with it, then yeah, i would dump him. i wouldnt want to be with someone who made a big deal over hair. its hair... get over it!

by the way, my bf asked me the other day when i was getting a touchup. i told him that i was "transitioning to become natural" (just testing the waters) and he was like, "ooooh, your NG feels good!" he said natural hair would look good on me, but he wouldnt want me to BC, just transition. but then again my bf has an obsession with my hair and wants to touch it all the time... esp my NG so he would be IN HEAVEN.

 

[blacklove0607]

Probably not - I'd give him the chance to get over it - but it is my hair and my decision - not really open for debate. It just seems tooooooo shallow to me that he'd have an issue with "hair" when there are so many more serious things in life. One of my close friends battled breast cancer and lost every strand of hair during chemo - imagine a man telling you something about your hair when bigger issues arise in life?