Ladies would you stay witha man the couldn't

[mj11051]

or wouldn't support your choice to go natural? This is not me, my hubby loves the hair and supported me thru all my hair trials.

 

[Skiggle]

*Waits for answers*

 

[Adaj]

Hell to the Naw!!! if a man can't accept you because of hair, then I mean really...you have no business being with him. I know some men prefer long hair rather than short hair. My SO is one of them. I have always wanted long hair, but could never really grow it past the point in my siggy. So, after finding you lovely ladies here, I am attempting to grow it for me and him.

 

[JustKiya]

If I was dating him, no.
If I was married to him, he'd have to get over it, and I'd support my damn self.

 

[LunadeMiel]

If I was dating him, no.
If I was married to him, he'd have to get over it, and I'd support my damn self.

 

[Nonie]

I'm with JustKiya. If he doesn't love what comes out of you naturally, he'll not be good for your child who might have the same hair as you and whom you do not wish to have his or her self-esteem destroyed by some ignant homo sapien that is supposed to uphold her/him and build her/him up and make that child feel good about himself/herself.

 

[mj11051]

If I was dating him, no.
If I was married to him, he'd have to get over it, and I'd support my damn self.

My feelings exactly.

 

[PrincessScorpion]

I have been with my SO on and off for 9 years. The last 4 yrs we have lived together. I have been natural for almost 3 yrs. He has not liked it, but he knows me well enough to know I am going to do what I want to my hair. He can put his 2cents in, but it still was my decision.

 

[so1913]

If I was dating him, no.
If I was married to him, he'd have to get over it, and I'd support my damn self.

Hello!!!!

 

[tiffers]

If we were just dating, no. But if it's my hubby, I'm not gonna rock my hair (or anything for that matter) in a way he's not attracted to. Luckily my dh supports me in WHATEVER I do. If it makes me happy, he's happy

 

[luckiestdestiny]

Even though I'm natural, hypothetically if I wasn't:

I Agree with Just Kiya.

No matter what I'd do it and he could leave or stay because it's my hair. And I wouldn't accept any ridiculous comments about my hair texture! He'd know to shut up on that subject because I wouldn't take it! Right now whether I wash and come out in fro state, or am in cornrows, or flat ironed straight my SO knows it's MY hair and he doesn't have any say in it. Although, he is good at complimenting me so that helps...him lol!

 

[MAMATO]

Yesterday I had a weird dream my husband all of a sudden decided to relax I was so against that decision and was trying to convince him to give up this weird idea because I've always known him with his short and nice fro...I am glad I woke up early enough, two more minutes I'd have had a heart attack

To answer your question, if I decide to go natural one day I'd understand my DH resisting the idea, that doesn't mean I'd accept it. He probably has a list of things that he likes from a woman and I certainly have mine for the ideal man...Only time and honest discussions will help you both to define them... That is why it is very important to take your time before you jump in a relationship, the longer you wait and explore, the longer is the list of conditions on the draft contract... but at last everybody is happy with the final agreement

But honestly I dont like man with bear, mustache, locks, braids, tattoos, piercings, jewelry other than a wedding band, a watch and some meaningful pieces of jewelry like the ones that grandpa wore during the 2nd war ... That is non negociable... Who can beat that

 

[ceebee3]

I wouldn't, but I'm with one who hates the fact that I relaxed my hair. He is very vocal about it.

 

[HoneyA]

I tested the waters today, told my BF of 5 years I'm going natural now and he said "sweeet" and sounded really happy about it. I was like oookay...although that said, even if he had said the opposite, I don't think I could leave him over that...our relationship is more than hair anyway.

 

[glamazon386]

He'd just have to get over it.

 

[RMichelleM]

yep. it's just hair, he doesn't have to like what i do with it. im an amazing person, he's gonna want to stay with me even if he doesn't support one particular choice; and im not offended if a man doesn't love any and everything that grows out of my body lmao! i know i don't love all of it.

 

[Fleurzty]

If I was dating him, no.
If I was married to him, he'd have to get over it, and I'd support my damn self.

Agree

 

[ingenious_mind]

He'd just have to get over it.

She couldn't have said it any better. I recently decided to transition and my boyfriend of 3 years was very supportive and encouraging.However if he wasn't then he would just have to deal with it....I mean it's my natural hair goddammit!

 

[kimmy89]

my boyfriend says my hair doesn't really bother him anymore, he says he knows that I wont listen to him( he likes straight, relaxed hair). He just smiles and nods when I talk about my hair, lol but loves me regardless.

 

[LoveLiLi]

Hmmm, I just dealt with this a couple of weeks ago. My SO went from loving my hair to insulting me over it. He later apologized profusely and claimed to love it - he was just joking before .

Honestly, I was upset. If he continued to make negative remarks about my hair, I would feel unattractive to my own SO, and I'm sure that would lead to a breakup. I don't do well with yt worshippers or people who look down on the very features they possess.

I would hope that I wouldn't marry a man who would give me sh!t and make me feel unwanted over my natural hair. So, SO or DH, he'd have to not only accept my natural hair, but like it. What the hell I look like keeping my hair straight and silky for a man with 4b-4z hair - he better think again. (Note: I wouldn't accept that nonsense from a man with any hair type).

 

[chebaby]

prolly not. that would make me feel like he'd be happy as long as there was a straight and silky wig laying beside him at night. i might respect his opinion but i wouldnt follow it.

 

[discodumpling]

I'm married to a man who would probably prefer my hair to be chemically enhanced. He can kick rocks...my Mama keeps my bedroom waiting anyway and after almost 20 years he knows i'm gonna do what I want...

 

[1QTPie]

I am a nappy, but if I wasn't, and he didn't support my decision, it would be too bad for him. I would certainly compromise and do more of the styles that he likes, but overall, too bad for him.

Just like I would have to get over it if he came into the house one day with his hair like Baron (VH1's G's to Gents. ) LOL!!!

 

[that_1_grrrl]

Nope. There is no way about it. Luckily, I am already natural, so any man should know what he sees is what he gets. No if, ands, or buts about it.

 

[LoveLiLi]

I am a nappy, but if I wasn't, and he didn't support my decision, it would be too bad for him. I would certainly compromise and do more of the styles that he likes, but overall, too bad for him.

Just like I would have to get over it if he came into the house one day with his hair like Baron (VH1's G's to Gents. ) LOL!!!

Whaaat!!! Uh Uh . If my boo came home looking like that all his stuff would be outside w/in 5 minutes. I guarantee. He'd have to take all of this --> :locks: elsewhere.

 

[bermudabeauty]

I change my hair styles like I change my drawls. Personally guys have always loved my looks. And I always change so often, even if there is a style they don't like they know I don't keep the same style very long anyways. Hair is minor and if a guy thinks my decision to be natural is a deal breaker for him..it is defiantely a deal breaker for me. I would want to be with someone that likes me regardless of my hair choice. That is hella shallow.

 

[Evolving78]

i decided to go natural after i was married. my dh has mixed feeling about it and he doesn't like the short fro or my twists, but he will be alright. i feel good about my natural hair, so whatever. now if we were dating and he had a problem or kept insisting that i relax, then i would have to let the brotha go. i been in a situation like that where this guy didn't like short hair. even though my hair was extremely short when we hooked up. i believe that was a control thing.

 

[Honey01]

My hubby is very resistant to me going natural. He equates it with looking like Erica Badu. His words. Truthfully, I want the option to look rock a Badu. I think he has come around some now that I told him I would try to transition versus doing the BC. The BC was really what got to him. It is important to me that my dh finds me attractive. However, this will probably just be one of those things he just has to get over.

The other day I was showing him Lauren/Southern bella (?) fotki to show him that naturals can also straighten their hair. I think I will show him the pics Ediese just posted.

Funny thing is, I wore the "Halle" cut for years. He loved it. Now, he would be devastated if I cut my hair.

 

[sqzbly1908]

My hubby is very resistant to me going natural. He equates it with looking like Erica Badu. His words. Truthfully, I want the option to look rock a Badu. I think he has come around some now that I told him I would try to transition versus doing the BC. The BC was really what got to him. It is important to me that my dh finds me attractive. However, this will probably just be one of those things he just has to get over.

The other day I was showing him Lauren/Southern bella (?) fotki to show him that naturals can also straighten their hair. I think I will show him the pics Ediese just posted.

Funny thing is, I wore the "Halle" cut for years. He loved it. Now, he would be devastated if I cut my hair.

I never brought this up to my DH (if I went natural) - my dh (and if I didn't have a dh - boyfriend) would have to realize that my hair is part of the package - I will have to be the one to maintain it day in and day out - hell men are natural any ole way and should be able to deal with us natural or not - it is not like we have a choice on how their hair is looking from day to day....

 

[Ganjababy]

NOPE..................