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Natural by force or by desire???

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shetara20

shetara20

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Hello Ladies. I am going in my 17 weeks post my last relaxer(:spinning: thats crazy for me to think about!WOW!) and I tell myself everyday that I am going natural because I have to get healthy hair. I know a lot of women go natural because they just want to but how many women went or are going natural almost by force because they strive to have healthier hair????
 
I have relaxed hair, and so far my relaxer has been good to me, and the time frame I have to reach my goal is 4 years......but I believe in the long run I will eventually go natural, and if I don't see results soon, I will go natural sooner......so I'm not really being forced, but I think a person can have healthy hair whether it's relaxed or natural, but in the long run, I think natural hair will be better for me.......
 
SlantedEyezMiss2003 said:
I have relaxed hair, and so far my relaxer has been good to me, and the time frame I have to reach my goal is 4 years......but I believe in the long run I will eventually go natural, and if I don't see results soon, I will go natural sooner......so I'm not really being forced, but I think a person can have healthy hair whether it's relaxed or natural, but in the long run, I think natural hair will be better for me.......
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I do believe that a person can have healthy relaxed or natural hair. I think I should have stressed more that for me, I feel like this is my only way out of having bad breakage and a bad experience. I might relax again one day(if I cant handle being natural) but I wanna try being natural first.
 
For me, I'm natural by desire. I went natural so I could get a relaxer on a full head of virgin hair and prove to my stylist that my hair could take a relaxer if not damaged beforehand, but fell in love with my natural hair and never returned for that relaxer nor looked back.
 
Definitely by desire...my relaxed hair was long and perfectly healthy, but my scalp wasn't as healthy as it is now. Plus my natural hair is much more versatile and looks fuller than my relaxed hair when straight
 
Right now my hair looks like Lil Henry's (Seal and Heidi's boy). I'm transitioning to natural and then back to texurized.
 
I went natural by desire. I had healthy relaxed hair..reached my goals and all..but I got bored with it.

I love my natural hair and I dont think I'll go back to having a relaxer.
 
I'm transitioning and plan to go natural by desire, mostly.

A little because I'd like for my edges to get thicker (relaxers thin them out), scalp health (I've not had real problems in the last few years) and to avoid over processing, worrying about 2 textures (realxed and new growth), etc
 
shetara20 said:
I do believe that a person can have healthy relaxed or natural hair. I think I should have stressed more that for me, I feel like this is my only way out of having bad breakage and a bad experience. I might relax again one day(if I cant handle being natural) but I wanna try being natural first.
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I think it's ok to give natural a try. Have you ever seen BronzeG's hair journey? She was thinking of going natural and had a nice long 5 month transition. But then she relaxed again. She went on to have healthy midback length relaxed hair. She says she's still going to go natural eventually. Her hair really turned around with that 5 month break, though.

Here's a link to her journey http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDB-_-qXzKE
Here's another to her most recent relaxer update: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcn-wFBqMBo&feature=channel_page

She is such an inspiration to me, even though I'm natural. lol
 
I never had a problem with relaxers....so it's more by desire that i am natural. I just wanted to try my natural hair out and ended up loving it.
 
I'd say natural by force :grin:. My hair DID NOT agree with relaxers. I'm so happy I did it though. With all that I've learned about relaxers and hair care I could probably go back to relaxed and thrive but nope, now I stay natural BY DESIRE! :yep:
 
Both.

I transitioned twice before and kept going back to relaxers. My stylist did not like doing my natural hair. She couldn't get through it in under an hour like she could with my aunts' and my cousin's hair (we all went to the salon at the same time - bonding I guess) :ohwell:. She would complain and I would feel so self conscious because she really had to work when it was my turn, lol. So I went back to relaxers.

The second time I was in college and I was preoccupied with looking cute. So when the awkward stage came up I tried the Natralaxer (sp?). :rolleyes: My hair felt coated and strange after that, so I relaxed again.

This time I wanted to transition and I asked my SO at the time what he thought. He said he only liked girls with perms and I didn't want to feel like my SO thought I was unattractive. So, I relaxed for a few more years, but kept trying to convince him that natural hair was pretty. He didn't want to hear it. Finally, my hair started shedding horribly after each touch-up.

Then I tried the Phyto thinking my problems would be solved. My hair started coming out in clumps. I thought I was going to have bald spots. It thinned out sooo bad and I decided I couldn't get relaxers anymore - that experience was too scary.

So I had the desire as evidenced by previous transitions, but was forced. My SO didn't dump me when I transitioned, but I ended up dumping him for other reasons.
 
I went and voted both. My relaxed hair was so damaged it forced me to go natural. However, I wanted to go natural because I failed so many times. I BCd 8 times and went back to relaxing. I am able to do a lot of things to my natural hair and that is a first for me. This desire is growing stronger in me to remain natural for as long as I can. If I ever do relax again, it will not be bone strait and I will be doing long stretches. Right now, I'm not thinking about relaxing. I'm having a lot of fun with my natural hair.:yep:
 
I would have to say that I am natural by choice. Although I needed to be natural because of the damage to my scalp, I could have continued to relax what strands I have, and eventually burned them all out. So I had to make a choice. So I don't say I was forced to do it, I say I made a wise choice to leave the chemicals alone, and love my hair enough to give it a chance.
 
Excellent question! For me, it was both. I would have breakage problems with my relaxed hair every 6 months or so. Although I had APL+ relaxed hair on several occasions, I would have to trim/cut it to SL or shorter because it would thin out so bad. Also, I could not find a good hairdresser after moving to my current area, and I was unsuccessful with applying relaxers myself. The fact that my hair was always so curly instead of straight after relaxing was not very desirable to me at the time. As far as the desire, I wanted to see my natural hair. I became more confident that my natural hair would not look horrible and that I could achieve atractive styles after reading hair books and finding this site.
 
i started off going natural because my relaxed hair was jacked, and there was no way to salvage it. so i started a long stretch/maybe transition. and then the love affair began and i knew i actually WANTED to be natural
 
Definitely a choice (desire). I was fed up with perms, and the perming process, and an itchy scalp...I'm committed to my natural hair.

...just need it to grow faster! :yep:
 
by necessity, if i wanted to have hair. Everytime I tried to perm my hair fell on the floor like a Charlie Brown Christmas tree. I would love to texlax but, I have been natural for a very long time. I wish i knew how to care for my natural hair all of that time.
 
By desire. I am transitioning because I am tired of the scalp burns, having to worry about if I scratched before or was the relaxer on too long. My first stretch turned into a transition. I hoping that my hair will be heathier.
 
Desire. Looking back I realize I had no issues with my natural hair before, I relaxed b/c I was afraid of the reactions of others.

I want to give my natural hair a "chance" as an adult and accept it for what it is. I like being able to set myself apart from everyone else. :yep: If at a later time I want to relax again, then I will, it's not that serious.
 
By force.

I was born natural and forced to have this gorgeous mane of coily, kinky, frizzy, cottony, soft, unique, awesomely amazing hair.
 
msa said:
By force.

I was born natural and forced to have this gorgeous mane of coily, kinky, frizzy, cottony, soft, unique, awesomely amazing hair.
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:lol: Good answer.

And may the force continue to be with you.
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msa said:
By force.

I was born natural and forced to have this gorgeous mane of coily, kinky, frizzy, cottony, soft, unique, awesomely amazing hair.
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I wished I was forced when I wanted a relaxer... im payin for it now! (17 weeks post this tuesday!)
 
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