I made the mistake and big Chop too early

[Princess2010]

Im sitting at this computer crying and lil overwhelm at the moment because i just cut the last of my relaxed and telelaxed hair off. I look like a boy and i refuse to walk out the house like this. My hair is i think like an inch in a half long and im scared of walking out my house like this. And its not like i can hide in my room forever i have class on Monday and i have no idea what to do excpet to wear a scarf or a hat. Don't get me wrong im glad im natural but i just don't see myself as a pretty girl anymore. I'll post pictures later tomorrow, because right now, i can even take a decent picture to post. i WAS SO WRONG TO CUT IT. I think im a 4 something

 

[Lanea87]

Wig?.................

 

[Princess2010]

Wig?.................

They don't look very natural on me, they look really fake.

 

[msa]

Girl just buy some cute headbands, wear some nice earrings and a cute outfit, and put on some make up (if you wear it) and rock that hair.

You could do a test run tomorrow by going somewhere you won't see anyone you know.

People respond to the amount of confidence you have in how you look that day. If you feel like crap, that's what people are going to reflect back at you. If you feel great, then people will notice and comment on that.

 

[Ms.Nigeria]

Get braids...

 

[Tarae]

Aww, just dress it up like msa said. You'll be fine.
Congrats on the BC, that's a big step to take.

 

[tottzu]

I feel you, a big chop can be overwhelming. Especially, if you are use to length. Sometimes it takes getting use to a new look. The first time I braided my hair I hated them for a few days. By the fourth day I was feeling them and now, I don't leave home without them. Hang in there. I bet you are looking too cute short and sassy. You can work it, rock your do!

I will be looking for your thread in a few weeks on how your are loving and rocking your fly new look. Good luck.

 

[Ericka]

You just have to get use to your new look. I'm sure it looks great, just add some products to enhance your curls and be confident in yourself.

Hope you feel better.

 

[tada1]

go to your bathroom mirror, look yourself in the eye and tell yourself how BEAUTIFUL you are. This is what I did when I first BC, and let me tell you my entire family was laughing at me for days after i cut my hair, but even through the laughter, most of them came back to say how nice my hair looked.

As long as you feel beautiful, no one can tell you different. Even now that i have extensions in, I still tell myself im too cute in the mirror I miss my short do cuz no one could tell me nothing once I slapped on some glamorous earrings.

Confidence shows, so exude it and keep your chin up

 

[Mook's hair]

Awwww, I'm sorry you're unhappy. But I bet you look fabulous. You just have to get used to the idea of having shorter hair. But don't worry, it'll be long again before you know it.

 

[TemiLnd]

Don't feel that way love. I am about to BC too (a few weeks) and Im soooo scared. But it is ladies like you that give ladies like me the strenght to go ahead. It may take some getting used to.
When I was natural, i was used to a huge fro and lots of hair. This time round i will have about half what im used to but I want to try and enjoy it. Worst case,, I dont like it and I braid it up.
Just wana say weldone though....

 

[brucebettye]

I am sorry you feel that way. Get some leave in conditioner and some gel and wear some nice big earrings and some lipstick and you will feel so much better. I hope this helps.

 

[GV-NA-GI-TLV-GE-I]

Im sitting at this computer crying and lil overwhelm at the moment because i just cut the last of my relaxed and telelaxed hair off. I look like a boy and i refuse to walk out the house like this. My hair is i think like an inch in a half long and im scared of walking out my house like this. And its not like i can hide in my room forever i have class on Monday and i have no idea what to do excpet to wear a scarf or a hat. Don't get me wrong im glad im natural but i just don't see myself as a pretty girl anymore. I'll post pictures later tomorrow, because right now, i can even take a decent picture to post. i WAS SO WRONG TO CUT IT. I think im a 4 something

Ah sweetie, keep your head up, though. You've done it and it's uphill from here. You are natural now. No more fear of the BC. What I'd do is get a really nice smoky eye look with a nice nude lipstick...or pump up the lip color with red or something bright that you like. Work it! Try Fantasia IC Gel in your hair and smooth the edges and secure your curls. You can look nice with very short hair. I've done it before. At the time, I was rather mad about it but I got lots of compliments...some of them from interested women ...no thanks....but anyhoo, it was cool that folks liked it. Don't worry, it'll grow out very fast. HOld your head up high Monday!

 

[Likeyouneverseenme]

I did the same and thought i was going to die.
Experiment with make-up and get some fly earrings and you'll get over it.
In a couple of weeks you'll love the fro, believe it or not, it really boosts your confidence. And guys will notice.
Rock it...that is the best way to deal with it.

 

[Supergirl]

Awww Princess,

I'm sorry. Hair can be a very emotional thing. I hope this initial unhappy stage will fly by for you. We all go through it when we lose more length than we were ready to. Here's a for you.

 

[suburbanbushbabe]

Have someone take some photos of you or take some yourself so you can get some distance about your look. I bet it looks nice. TWA's usually do. Rock some earrings and pop those eyes and cheekbones with good makeup.

 

[Lanea87]

They don't look very natural on me, they look really fake.

Make the short hair you. Go wash it, and roll some gel in ya hand over ya hair to make the curls pop. Get ya big earrings and shine those lips.
***I didnt see that I already said what other were saying LOL

 

[Asia Part II]

Been there, girl, so I know what you mean! But everyone's right--the look will grow on you and you just need to experiment with different looks. Accessorize (including scarves--they can be really cute). And realize that there are some things you can do with your hair that are so much easier and better looking than when it's longer. For instance, try twisting small sections around your fingers with some hair pudding or beeswax till they look like lil Shirley Temple or pipe curls. You'll be amazed at the shine you get, and you can keep the curls for up to a week if you spritz and spruce in the mornings.

When I did my BC almost six years ago, I always wore scarves (Heather Headly days). I was so embarrassed that I lost my job cuz I refused to take my scarves off. Then I started experimenting and you wouldn't believe the complimemts I got when I finally just went out there full-force--especially when I did the coil look I described.

CONGRATS on your BC and clean slate!! You're lucky! I wish I had a resource like this when I did mine! I'd still been tryna figure it out on my own all these years!

BTW--you're in for an amazing journey as you get to know your natural hair and see it change over time. It's your baby and you can raise it from birth now!

 

[msa]

When I did my BC almost six years ago, I always wore scarves (Heather Headly days). I was so embarrassed that I lost my job cuz I refused to take my scarves off. Then I started experimenting and you wouldn't believe the complimemts I got when I finally just went out there full-force--especially when I did the coil look I described.

Really? Wow.

 

[MrsHdrLe]

I'm sure You're beautiful inside and out. Tell yourself how cute and brave you are b/c YOU ARE. Do like the rest say, ROCK IT GURL!!!!(this is us cheering you on**hugs**)

 

[loveable37]

I am waitin for a real good reason to cut mines off ,so your're not alone gurl hold ya head up.

wha can u do now nothing !
look online/store find some nice half WATER FALL/TREETOP EXTENSIONS BRAID ur hair to the back child keep steppin,dont let no one tell u its ugly browse on line find some nice hair styles .

I remember when i was 17 yrs old, i bought a texturizer for my hair thought it was a perm my hair was curly like.
I went back to store bought PERM put it in my hair MY HAIR melted like wax the beautician cut down to (1 INCH) I AM A MASTER IN BRAIDS.

 

[Princess2010]

Thanks ladies alot of yall's advice and comments are making me feel a lil better and smile. im just trying to find some accessories and handbands that look nice. thanks again

 

[Denise11]

I did the same thing, only my chemical was hair dye. Mine had to be cut to 1 inch too. If I had this site I would be a natural right now.

And OP, when my hair was cut to 1 inch, I got more compliments than when it was BSL. Men, women, and little children would compliment me non-stop!

I bet your hair is gorgeous. It's just gonna take a little time for you to get use to it. You'll be alright.

Hugs!!!!!!

I am waitin for a real good reason to cut mines off ,so your're not alone gurl hold ya head up.

wha can u do now nothing !
look online/store find some nice half WATER FALL/TREETOP EXTENSIONS BRAID ur hair to the back child keep steppin,dont let no one tell u its ugly browse on line find some nice hair styles .

I remember when i was 17 yrs old, i bought a texturizer for my hair thought it was a perm my hair was curly like.
I went back to store bought PERM put it in my hair MY HAIR melted like wax the beautician cut down to (1 INCH) I AM A MASTER IN BRAIDS.

 

[Faith]

When I went natural the 1st time I just took scissors and hacked away then I realized what I had done (WTH! ), I just braided it up. Congrats on the BC btw

 

[angenoir]

I know how it feels. I had a short haircut in May 2008 and I felt so weird about it. But I braved it and got used to it. When it had grown out a bit I just braided it up.

If you really cannot handle the length try braiding it up.

Good luck! It will grow out before you know it. (I am already inching toward SL)

 

[MummysGirl]

Im sitting at this computer crying and lil overwhelm at the moment because i just cut the last of my relaxed and telelaxed hair off. I look like a boy and i refuse to walk out the house like this. My hair is i think like an inch in a half long and im scared of walking out my house like this. And its not like i can hide in my room forever i have class on Monday and i have no idea what to do excpet to wear a scarf or a hat. Don't get me wrong im glad im natural but i just don't see myself as a pretty girl anymore. I'll post pictures later tomorrow, because right now, i can even take a decent picture to post. i WAS SO WRONG TO CUT IT. I think im a 4 something

Hey... I think you'll be more than fine with the advise you've been given so far. Best thing is to find out how to define your curls and use this opportunity to play with hair accessories and cute earrings!

Keep us posted and I'm looking forward to seeing your hair, I'm sure it's nice!

 

[rsmith]

I am sure it's not that bad. You just have to get use to the new you. Make sure you get you some scarfs and nice accessories. I am sure you are going to to make it just fine. You have all of the support you need here. Embrace who you are now.

 

[prettypuff1]

I did the bc and i had about 1.5 inches of hair......


I thought i looked like a boy.....



Girl but i still rocked, i had no choice but to rock it and it turned out fine...

 

[mz. new~new]

congratulations on your bc... it'll be fine, you just need to get used to it. it may take a couple days or weeks... but like others said, dress it up and be confident!

 

[Allandra]

The ladies here have offered some great advice. I bet dressing it up will work.