Did anyone stop caring about getting long hair?

[Saida]

I eventually would like to reach my goal to waist length, but for now I think I am more focused on the health of my hair, I dont really look for progress on how long my hair is anymore, but rather how healthy it is or if it's gotten thicker.

Just wanted to know if anyone is in the same boat?

 

[Forever in Bloom]

I have. I know I won't get there if I don't make strides everyday to protect the investment I have already made in my hair's health. I've been snipping split ends everyday. It's starting to look normal after months of neglect. I thought that when I went natural, everything would be smooth sailing. Now I know that is not the case. I have to work twice as hard to keep my hair in shape

 

[DivaD04]

I have. I know I won't get there if I don't make strides everyday to protect the investment I have already made in my hair's health. I've been snipping split ends everyday. It's starting to look normal after months of neglect. I thought that when I went natural, everything would be smooth sailing. Now I know that is not the case. I have to work twice as hard to keep my hair in shape

same here...i stayed having split ends when i was natural....nothing worked. i trimmed once since relaxing but i will wait until i reach sl b4 i get a good cut. the splits have stopped and most have been snipped anyway. i want long hair but all the time i've put in has been at a slow and steady pace while natural. my hair does not like the water here which makes it that much more uninteresting and dh already doesn't want to get a water filter just for my hair. i know i'll get there, i'll just have to take my time.

 

[LushLox]

For me my goal is healthy, thicker hair. Length would be lovely, but I really want the former things first.

 

[Millahdoowop]

Right now I'm feeling like that. Well not really, but right now my focus is getting my hair back to how it was. The length will be great though for my big a$$ afros.

 

[Phoenix14]

I want a healthy scalp first!! But I think my hair is healthy I guess now its time to concentrate on length

 

[lila_baby]

I agree with you Saida.

In the beginning when I was first starting my hair journey I would look in the mirror all

the time and be thinking, 'why is my hair not growing?' I wasn't appreciating the other

changes in my hair. It has gotten WAY thicker than what I started with and is SO much

stronger; I hardly ever get broken hairs any more just the shed kind with the bulb on the

end. I like Macherieamour's concept about setting goals for your hair. I think that I have

accomplished stronger hair & so now I want more moisturized hair then softer hair then shiner

hair. At the end of my list is longer hair.

I do still want longer hair but I know that this will come eventually but I am pleased with how far

my hair has come.

 

[NappturalWomyn]

I am no longer concerned about length. My concern is working with the length I have now. I bought a bunch of net hats in different colors to accent my BAA. I can cover about 80% of my hair in the winter when I take the twists out. My hair is thicker now than it was. If I continue to do the right thing, length will come but it is not the priority. Health is, inside and out...

 

[moneychaser]

I am more concerned about the thickness of my hair rather than length.!!!

 

[Lilakoi’s_Sister]

This is me. I too am focusing on thicker hair. Also, I've been wearing a sew in for a few weeks and it is a little longer than shoulder length. Quite honestly, all of this freakin' hair can be irritating. It has made me question whether I want to be bothered with all this hair. But, I still want to see if I can reach my goal, and after I do I'll probably cut it all off. lol

 

[zzirvingj]

It's not that I stopped caring about getting long hair (I still want full WL hair), but I am beginning to lose faith that I will achieve it anytime soon.

I am starting to care more about the "style" of my hair at this point. I think it's pretty healthy, and I will stay on top of my hair so that it continues to be healthy, but I have NO STYLE. I'm nearing 30, and almost 6 years of being natural, so I am DESPERATELY in need of a change to the whole wearing-a-bun every day.

I'm kinda scared to do anything to my hair because "not styling it" (the whole low/no manipulation routine), I feel, has gotten me progress and gotten me to the point where I'm at now. So it's almost as if I fear that I will lose progress by changing my routine and trying to incorporate more styles erplexed

*sigh* I'm kinda in a rut. Sorry for the random rant, lol...

 

[Ramya]

I've never focused on length. I focus on the overall appearance and health of my hair which is why I had no problem cutting my hair until it looked the way I wanted it to look. It took 3 cuts but my shoulder length hair finally looks full enough for my liking. Length will always come but what's the point of having length if it looks a thin, damaged, stringy mess. It just seems pointless to me.

 

[foxieroxienyc]

Yeah I agree a lot with what's been said here. At first I was really fixed on length length length. I set a goal to get from where I started when I got here in Dec 07 (around NL/SL) to get to APL in 1 year (Dec 08). I think that I still have that in the BACK of my mind, my hair has certainly grown a lot since the beginning of my journey. But it's become somewhat of a background afterthought. If I make it there, then awesome, if not, then ok I'll get there soon enough.

My focus now has actually been just doing everything I can to ensure my hair is in OPTIMAL HEALTH. I wanted to be able to care for my hair WITHOUT my stylist after taking out my weaves (which I rocked for two years straight). I've done that and so much more. Even with my shoulder length tresses, I'm ALWAYS getting compliments on my hair and it's health. And I even enjoy the process along the way, I wear it down, or up depending on how I feel. I rollerset, braidout, or flat iron if I want to. I focus on moisture and protein when needed, and my hair thanks me for that!

 

[Nonie]

I won't lie: I want long hair. Always have and probably always will. I don't keep checking for it though. I love the feel of my hair in my fingers that I just tend to focus more on enjoying the journey and hopefully length will just drop in on me when I least expect it.

 

[locabouthair]

I won't lie: I want long hair. Always have and probably always will. I don't keep checking for it though. I love the feel of my hair in my fingers that I just tend to focus more on enjoying the journey and hopefully length will just drop in on me when I least expect it.

It always seems to happen like that. I always got length when I wasnt thinking about it constantly.

Im like you Nonie, I'm always gonna want longer hair until I get to my APL goal. But after a friend told me my hair looks damaged, I guess I'm just focused on it looking healthier and fuller.

 

[CurlyMoo]

I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting or even for long hair, however I am shifting the focus to something else. I have yet to stop caring about having long hair (and it's been over 20 years) but someday I will get to the point where I am not so edgy and obsessed about it. It's the first time that I decided on the goal length and actively kept a record of my haircare and regimen. Hair especially long healthy hair is a beautiful part of who we are. I think when it reaches fixation then that's a problem. I'm obssessed with length and working on ending the intensity of those feelings. I think the concern with damaged ends keeps me edgy and in a tizzy about when & how to trim. Once I lop these damaged ends off I will worry less and just let my hair do what it should do. But right now I am straight up :skitzo: about my hair.



Also, everything was pretty simple and I was headed toward soley focusing on healthy hair until MT entered my life. The results have got me Now I have to work my regimen around MT which has changed things. I find myself washing my hair more often than I have since I was swimming several times a week a few years ago. It has me concerned with overmaniuplation. I must say that when I was swimming and washing that clorine out of my hair, my hair retained so much length in a short period of time. Once I get my simple new regimen stabilized I will focus on maintaining healthy hair. But I will not stop wanting long hair just shift the focus. Because I really just want to forget about it and let it grow.

 

[Nayeli]

I am extra concerned with health and thickness right now. When I'm looking at my hair, lack of a significant length change doesn't bother me too much, but if I see see-through parts or short and long areas, I get paranoid. Maybe it's because I've already achieved a decent amount of length, so I am more than content in that area............for now

 

[*fabulosity*]

No, I haven't. When I had midback length hair...all I wanted was it for it do something other than "lay" there. I think it was because my stylist never did anything super cute to it.. it was just long and straight... all the time. So that was boring... when I started experimenting with colors and layers...it really took off... And I started letting people cut it way too much. Now I'm shoulder length and all I can think about is growing my hair back to at least half (BSL) of it's former glory. I am okay with the thickness and texture; I WANT THE LENGTH DAMMIT!!!! LOL..

Hair (if you ever get back to midback length).. I will take good care of you and never neglect you again...lol..

 

[Eisani]

This is how I started my journey. I didn't necessarily need thickness, but the health was (is) the most important part. Once health is achieved, everything else falls in to place. I have now reached a point where I'm no longer concerned about my hair health because it's healthy and happy, so I just sit back and watch it grow .

 

[youwillrise]

i havent stopped caring about getting long hair

but i've stopped thinking about it SO much

i do still think about it...but not on the level i used to. lol

i dont check my length every other day anymore

in fact, i hardly check at all.

right now i'm just trying to keep it healthy, moisturized, strong and protected.

which, i'm sure will lead to that length

 

[Simply_Kelz]

I wouldn't I stopped caring but, the other day I re-cut my bangs, they had grown out to about chin/mouth length .. and I cut them back up to my eyes, and GOOD LORD, that hair looked THICK and FULL, the front of my hair seemed so thin to me, so I'm definitely contemplating trimming much sooner, in hopes of thicker looking hair.

 

[glamazon386]

Me.... I don't care anymore.

 

[SandySea]

I concentrate more on length now, after my recent haircut. When I return to full SL, probably won't care too much anymore. I don't think I'll ever be BSL, MBL, or beyond. Realistically, I don't think I have the type of hair that will last long enough to grow that long. Don't mean to be negative, but APL is probably the best length for my soft, fine textured hair.

 

[spacetygrss]

I still care, but I'm definitely not obsessed. I just focus on good hair care and I know that the growth will come.

 

[Sarahh.]

Yeah, kind of.
Some days I'm like "hmm, maybe having short hair isn't so bad.."
but nahh, i want BSL!

 

[brownsugarbaby]

Honestly, I just did maybe about a week ago. I've had long hair and personally I don't think its all its cracked up to be. To maintain it can be a hassle if you dont know what you're doing. When I was forced to take care of my hair was when I ran into alot of problems. That is the very reason my hair isnt as long as it used to be. At the beginning of my hair journey, I was so obsessed with the idea of having long hair again that I didn't realize how unhealthy my hair was. But as I gradually understand this whole concept of 'haircare', I really am over long hair. Without the health, I could careless about long hair.

 

[SEMO]

I focus on health b/c with shrinkage it's hard to know when I'll reach my hair goal (collar bone length unstretched). But I'm happy with both the current length and health.

 

[HeChangedMyName]

I am started to focus less on long hair, esp because long hair has to be protected so much and you can't just wear it out because your ends will make you look like you have a long crusty broom on your head. I loved my hair when it was short.

 

[longhairlover]

I am actually tired of caring about my hair growth, it is growing but nowadays my ends are giving me issues.

I dont care anymore......ok i'm lying lol!!! i do care but I am not obsessing over it like before.

I think taking anything one day at a time is good, becoming obsessed sometimes is not good and then you may not see results.

 

[Paradox]

Since I've only been on this hair journey for about a year, I think I am still length obsessed.
It doesn't help that I listen to the hair song and come here every day.