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While shopping this past Saturday, I had to double take a look at this little girl no more than 4-5 years old. She had her hair all down with a hair band. I thought is was so cute, thick and long............. I looked again and it looked stiff and too thick and even at the ends. I said "dang, that little girl got a weave" BTW mom had one too!

I have never seen a child with a weave!
 
I saw this too the other day, the girl must have been 7 if so old. I think its AWFUL...to me you are sending the message from very early that their own hair is not good enough...its just setting them up for self esteem issues later on imo. Plus if they keep it up they'll be suffering from receeding hairlines at 12....:nono:
 
When I see that I cringe. I just think its bad for a child to wear a weave. Whatever happened to braids, twists, ponytails and other little girl hairdos?
 
halee_J said:
I saw this too the other day, the girl must have been 7 if so old. I think its AWFUL...to me you are sending the message from very early that their own hair is not good enough...its just setting them up for self esteem issues later on imo. Plus if they keep it up they'll be suffering from receeding hairlines at 12....:nono:
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I agree.

Do you feel the same way about extensions (braids)?
 
Should be considered child abuse. It's really sad. My mom relaxed my hair when I was 7 because it was too thick and too long for her to handle. My dad cussed her the hell out for it, but my hair has not been the same since. It's just a reflection of the overall lack of knowledge about Black hair care.
 
Poor baby :nono:

I wore glue in wevaes for about 7 years before finding this site. I became dependant on them and felt inadequate and unattractive without one. When I joined LHCF, I stopped wearing them cold turkey and I seriously went through withdrawls. I felt that I just did not look cute without that 1b yaki straight down my back. I STILL get the urge to wear them sometimes because my hair isn't as long as I want it and some days I feel plain ugly because I don't have a weave.

All that to say..... If I'm going through this from only 7 years of wearing weaves, I can't imagine what havoc wearing weaves from the age of 4 is gonna wreak on this poor little girls mind. Her perception of beauty and self esteem are probably extremely screwed up. All because her mom wants to put on a band aid instead of actually fixing the problem :(
 
damn i find it sooo funnny:lachen:... yep i have seen it too many times. poor kids are walking like they have strain in their neck.. so sad! why do black mom's torture their kids like that?
my friend in lecture she (Guyanese Indian/Portuguese looking) was cracking on her best friend for putting weave in her 4-year old daughter's hair.. she kept going on about how black girls who wear weave "do the weave pat" all i could do was laugh :perplexed
 
Why can't people let kids be kids...
my mom would have never allowed that in her house....thats one thing that I agree is definately "grown"

those are the same girls who laugh at the other girls with cute, natural hair at school and tell them their hair is "bad" and "nappy"...so the bad message travels
 
tiffers said:
Poor baby :nono:

I wore glue in wevaes for about 7 years before finding this site. I became dependant on them and felt inadequate and unattractive without one. When I joined LHCF, I stopped wearing them cold turkey and I seriously went through withdrawls. I felt that I just did not look cute without that 1b yaki straight down my back. I STILL get the urge to wear them sometimes because my hair isn't as long as I want it and some days I feel plain ugly because I don't have a weave.

All that to say..... If I'm going through this from only 7 years of wearing weaves, I can't imagine what havoc wearing weaves from the age of 4 is gonna wreak on this poor little girls mind. Her perception of beauty and self esteem are probably extremely screwed up. All because her mom wants to put on a band aid instead of actually fixing the problem :(
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yea i wore glue in weaves for about 3 1/2 years, and i can say if i never saw this site i probably still would be wearing them. :nono: this will be my 1st summer with no weaves, i will be goin cold turkey as well. when i first got weave it was because my hair was thin and i wanted thicker hair. but then the longer i wore it the more i felt like the weave made me look preetier. so im goin to stop that. so i also think it is a shame for parents to do that to their little girls.
 
OMG. A kid with a weave.

We had a similar problem in the house a few months back. My DD found a phony pny in the house and she wouldn't take it off saying that she was pretty with it. ( mind you this was an old pony, tangles and matted not worn for years) I had to explain to her that her hair was beautiful and she does not need it. Haven't seen the pny since. She understood this at 3 yO.

I wish these moms that do this to their kids would think to do the same.
 
:nono::nono:shame shame never seen a little girls with a weave BUT I HAVE SEEN

little girls with chemical burns and bald patchs
little girls with their braids in so tigh their scalp is flaming red:burning:
little girl with a phony pony and the mother knew i was staring
 
I have a younger cousin who is probably about 14 or 15 now. Her mother, and grandmother, and great grandmother have all have snap short hair as long as I've known them. Four generation of women with hair that is barely ear length... I don't know whether they all have the driest hair type possible (in the 5's?) or if they have never moisturized a day in their lives or whatever, but as far back as I can remember, all of them have always had extremely short hair. Her mother permed her hair when she was very young and she just has the worst, broken off, bald head ever. She's been having all kinds of braids and weaves ever since then, and her hair is terrible.

Not long after I discovered good hair care practices for black women, I went to visit my aunt, and my little cousin was there (great grandmother and great granddaughter). She took out some glued in tracks, washed her hair, and then relaxed and flat ironed it in the span of my visit. My hair had already begun to start to grow out at this point and my aunt remarked on it, and after a little pressing I started explaining co-washing. The little 14 year old heifer looks at me and says "let me ask you something, how can you wash your hair with conditioner?"

..............:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:
 
I see this all the time :nono:. Its either weaves or relaxers by age 3 :wallbash:.

ETA: My baby girl (in siggy) only wears her wig on the weekends :lachen:.....is that bad??
 
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I think it's really sad. These parents are just teaching their girls to not appreciate their own hair. When I was a little girl in NYC, all the girls wore their real hair. Not nowadays! In fact, last year, I remember when I would pick up my sons at the daycare, down in Miami, I saw at least 2 little girls with weaves. Mine you, these are 3 and 4 year old kids! Man, I hope this is just a fade that will end one day!
 
I see this all the time around me. I've even been asked to do it for a few, but I REFUSE to do this to kids. Now adults, are a different matter, but kids? NOPE! I honestly DO NOT care how bad their hair is, but WEAVE I WILL NOT do for them. Now if it's so bad, I would use braiding weave hair to BRAID it up to try and get it in a healthy condition, but no sew in weave period. I don't care how CUTE it is!!

mrsjohnson75: :lachen:NOPE it's not bad, she's such a darn cutie!!!
 
cutiebe2 said:
Why can't people let kids be kids...
my mom would have never allowed that in her house....thats one thing that I agree is definately "grown"

those are the same girls who laugh at the other girls with cute, natural hair at school and tell them their hair is "bad" and "nappy"...so the bad message travels
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That ain't nothing but their ignorant mamas passing that on to them.:nono:
 
carib_n_curly said:
:nono::nono:shame shame never seen a little girls with a weave BUT I HAVE SEEN

little girls with chemical burns and bald patchs
little girls with their braids in so tigh their scalp is flaming red:burning:
little girl with a phony pony and the mother knew i was staring
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Sad, just sad. Little girls are the ones that I feel the most sorry for because someone is actually doing that their hair and they have no control over it.

Grown women should really know better.
 
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