who else feels totally unattractive at times..

[mikal]

is it just me?? i go from feeling really great about myself yesterday to feeling like i look like utter crap ... (like today...erplexed) no particular reason why... just nothing looks right, nothing feels right, and my hair refuses to cooperate... is it just me or is it that hardly anybody seems to understand bc when you have an ugly day - even when everyone else is like "girl u look fine..." - my s.o. told me i need to get a hobby.... and my father looked at me kind of cross-eyed and got himself something to eat.. but whatever..... today im having an ugly day....just needed to vent and hopefully maybe somebody understands where im coming from...

so ladies...what do you do to make yourself feel better..

 

[classi123]

I usally listen to some good music or treat myself to something. I do my eyebrows and get my hair done if I have an "ugly day" and that usually fix my attitude..

 

[seeminglysweet]

I usally listen to some good music or treat myself to something. I do my eyebrows and get my hair done if I have an "ugly day" and that usually fix my attitude..

I agree with the eyebrow thing. Sometimes I'll just hide away at home all weekend if I'm feeling really bad.

 

[cocomyst]

I understand I have been going through this the past couple of days. I even blogged a lil about it on my myspace.

I look at pictures that I know I like/love of myself. It makes me feel better about myself when I look at pics where I can say , I look good in this picture.

 

[Duchesse]

It's not just you. Sometimes I feel like I look like complete crap, and don't want anyone to look at me, but on others I feel like a diva.

I think the best thing is to remember to be grateful. This may sound bad and shallow, but whenever I feel like this, I remind myself that I am attractive, and that there are plenty of people who wished that they looked like me. I just have to put things in perspective, and think about people with real physical deformities and how they must feel going about their day to day life. It makes me feel like a fool and selfish to complain about a bad hair day or pimple, or whatever.

We (females) can be so hard on ourselves sometimes.

 

[iris601]

That's very normal. I feel the same way when I look in the mirror. Then I'll get compliments that I'm looking good when I feel like I look like crap.

 

[guudhair]

I feel the same way...more often than not...sometimes listening to music helps and sometimes I just go to the gym.

 

[Napp]

yes i have a pretty low self esteem today i stayed home from school because i tried to style my fro and it just didnt look right and i felt so ugly

 

[mikal]

It's not just you. Sometimes I feel like I look like complete crap, and don't want anyone to look at me, but on others I feel like a diva.

I think the best thing is to remember to be grateful. This may sound bad and shallow, but whenever I feel like this, I remind myself that I am attractive, and that there are plenty of people who wished that they looked like me. I just have to put things in perspective, and think about people with real physical deformities and how they must feel going about their day to day life. It makes me feel like a fool and selfish to complain about a bad hair day or pimple, or whatever.

We (females) can be so hard on ourselves sometimes.

this is so true... thank you ladies

 

[mikal]

thank you all - you all are so incredibly supportive.. cant thank you all enough you all understand what im going through so well thank you

 

[drasgrl]

365 days of the year for me.

 

[pr3tty]

I have been feeling like this lately.... I have never been more than 4 weeks post (relaxer) and now Im 10 weeks and I have no idea how to do my hair. I dont like to wear my hair all the way back and I dont like bangs its just making me soo mad. People still comment that I look fine but I dont feel that way. The only thing that looks fine is my hair pulled back and like I said b4 It does not look right on me. I can vent all night so I will stop now b4 I cry. Im so not use to this and I hope when I relax this weekend it will be all worth it.

 

[Platinum]

You're not alone. I feel like that sometimes, especially after I had problems with severe breakage. I felt (and looked) terrible but I felt a lot better after I got some microbraids.

 

[KPH]

As someone already said, we are extremely hard on ourselves. If you believe in God all I can tell you to do is PRAY. I live in a state that I hate with a passion, only because my mom is here and I was afraid of her retiring and moving somewhere alone. I stopped caring for myself and became very depressed, I was extremely happy to make it out of 2007 alive. I promised myself and GOD, no more days like the days i spent in 2007, not only did i feel ugly as heck daily but i was broke and lonley. I have decided to thank GOD for every day and get back into taking care of me from head to toe and I want to say THANK YOU to the lady who mentioned this website in the vh1 salt and pepa message board, I don't know who she is but she's a member here and she listed the link and I have been on the road to recovery with my hair every since. I'll share this, once the attitude changes, the rest falls into place. If you saw me now, you would think I had beyonce money in the bank and no health problems. LOL, guess u can say i'm delusional but it is better than what i was in 2007.

 

[Likeyouneverseenme]

I don't suffer from low self-esteem, but right now I have some hair-esteem issues.

I absolutely detest my hair these days, I am 20 weeks post today and I have a friggen 4 inch fro under my relaxed ends. I hate it right now and all I want to do is to get some clippers and just get rid of everything.
I was looking fly as hell at school today, but I felt like my hair was straight jacked-up, and what’s the point in looking on point if your hair is a HAM?
I’ll get over it just having a terrible hair day…and a paper due…