Are you a long time member with little to no progress?

[blueabyss333]

I could be almost BSL by now. Check my siggy. I hadn't realized how bad things were until I put that comparison chart together. I've a real problem with the scissors. My lack of progress is also partly due to lack of TLC.

 

[HoneyDew]

I am a long-time member, and I only recently started seeing length progress. But, mine is because I have been cutting my hair aggressively to get ris of the damage that brought me here. Now that that is over, I can chill out on the cutting and I am starting to see actual length progress, although the thickness I've gained over hte years is just as priceless for me.

 

[Determined22]

Been here almost a year, and I've gotten maybe half an inch of length. I chopped off my dead ends in June, and I've finally let go of direct heat (rollersets exclusively now) so maybe I'll get lucky and start to see some length. I'll just be happy with healthy hair though.

I was thinking of giving up on my length goals though - it seems like I'm never gonna get there.

 

[sareca]

It doesn't look like I've had much progress, but my hair has vastly improved in health. I was almost APL when I got here 2 years ago and I'm still APL now. Like HoneyDew I had to do a lot of cutting. Basically all the hair I came here with is gone. This is all new LHCF hair.

 

[soonergirl]

Hey ladies been a member for a little bit, and I have seen progress. It seems that we all can agree that our heads are far more healthier then before we joined..... At least I know I can.... Ladies I was gluing weave before I got here so there you have it... I have gone from unhealthy shoulder to almost apl healthy... So it has been a struggle but it looks like we will make our goals, those of us that still have them........I have learned a lot here and still do all the time...

 

[locabouthair]

I've made a little length progress but I will be stuck at SL for a while because I have to trim off damaged/thin ends. Plus the first year I was here, I wasn't even taking care of my hair. So i've been on this journey for about a year.

Sometimes people wonder why some people here dont have any progress but you have to get your hair healthy first. there's no point in trying to grow long hair if it's thin, and snapping and breaking off left and right.

 

[glamazon386]

Yep. I was here for a year with barely any progress. Then I BCed and started over. And all of my hair has grown back since then so I guess that is progress. But I'm just about back to the same length I started with. And the sucky part is that it's layered differently. At this length relaxed, I could wear a ponytail because my hair was longer in the middle than the back and sides. Now all the hair on my head is the same length. My bangs and nape are longer than they were as a relaxed head but the middle is shorter. So a ponytail is not possible.

 

[czyfaith77]

I could be almost BSL by now. Check my siggy. I hadn't realized how bad things were until I put that comparison chart together. I've a real problem with the scissors. My lack of progress is also partly due to lack of TLC.

I was just thinking this last night when I was catching up on updated fotikis. I was said to myself, "Wow, some of these ladies have been on here a long time and I can't really tell." It isn't that they can't grow healthy hair either. Many had beautiful heads of hair. Beautiful!!! But they simply could not leave the scissors alone. I know two who I know could have been to bra strap twice each if they left well enough one. One definitely should have been at waist length and some by now. But hey, we all do something quirky. I had great results due to this site. However, it was this site that peaked my interest about going natural and that is just what I did! It has been a wonderful experience thus far and I appreciate the ladies on this site for the many exchanges not just on hair but everything else.

This is off topic but I would also like to commend those ladies who give thoughtful but careful advice to the many younger women on this site. I was thinking about this a couple of weeks ago when I was reading a few posts. I saw a young lady (teenager) on here and and someone gave advice like a big sister should and I was so glad that it was given. It helped her make a wiser decision. Though we do have sisters on here who aren't kosher, there are more on here who are just wonderful and I am glad to see the sisterhood and love on the web among the ladies. Sometimes, it feels like one big "dorm", or whatever of ladies who have all types of exchanges from hair, to relationships, how to's. The recipe forum is real sweet (no pun intended) from Dlewis and Gymfreak just to name a few. Thank you for being so kind for what you all share. It is a wonderful exchange. I just wish we could meet more people like this on a day to day basis. I have a very best friend and we are alot like this but there are so few out there. It is nice to see black women unite, love, and support one another and not tear one another down (a majority of the time (Smiling)) Again, ladies thanks and happy holidays (Hannakah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, New Year and everything else!). Now, (Whew) I am finished with my detour.

 

[czyfaith77]

Oh and about hair, I would just like to add that I understand about the cuts and trims we have to do to obtain and maintain healthy heads of hair. I was not referring to that. What I was referring to was people who just love scissors (Smiling) And if you love them you just love them! I ain't mad at cha'. Heck, a pretty cut is refreshing from time to time. So please, do not take offense. This was just my observation.

 

[Glitter]

I'm glad you started this thread - it sometimes bums me out to see people come on this forum and get like 3 inches of growth in 2 months. Meanwhile, I still haven't broken past SL and I've been on this site for close to 3 years (1st year was lurking). In fact, I BC'ed close to 2 years ago....still at SL.

To be fair, I realized that I can't be natural right now in my life - I like my hair straight too much and I have a problem with any type of knot because I have to cut it out/snap it off my hair. But I still don't have my "staples". Nothing really seems that bad for my hair

I also have not been very consistant with my vitamins or growth aids. Starting in Jan 08, I plan to go back on the nioxin and starting using a BT/MN mixture on my scalp. My dream has always been to be feature of the month....I'm going to get there, one day

 

[GodsPromises]

Yes I am one. I too should be at BSL instead I'm back at the beginning. I keep going cut crazy and at first I wasn't really taking care of my hair like I should. I am hoping for APL at least in the back by April and the whole head by the summer.

 

[SmartyPants]

I could be almost BSL by now. Check my siggy. I hadn't realized how bad things were until I put that comparison chart together. I've a real problem with the scissors. My lack of progress is also partly due to lack of TLC.

OK... any member within two feet of blueabyss333 is hereby deputized to take her scissors (forcibly if necessary)...















See how helpful we can be?!

 

[zoya_j]

I have been a member here for a while. When I first joined I was natural & flourishing. Then it got to be too much to handle & I got a texturizer. After that I started going to a stylist for my touchups who religiously 'trimmed' my hair every 8 weeks that I went in for touch ups. Next month will make a year I got tired of that mess and stopped going to her. After all this time I'm still scrapping for APL.

 

[youwillrise]

i guess you could call me an unknown long time member.

i first got to lhcf in 2004 when it was still free (under the username tasteslikemusic)
then when it went under subcription, i lurked for a couple years (the date you see on my info now is when i joined to lurk)
i finally paid my fee and officially joined this year.

anyway
i went through some changes w/ my hair
so i wont say i dont have any progress
when i got here in 2004, i was relaxed
and i was pretty much just trying to take care of my relaxed hair
then i started to transition around early 2005
a bit of time into my transition (july 2005),
i decided to relax...which i felt bad about
so 4 months later (november 2005) i chopped
then i chopped again (aka shaved it off) in march 2006

so, i probably would have been further along by now
but i'm happy with where i am. no regrets!

cant wait for more growth
no more cutting for a gooooood long while for me!

 

[blueabyss333]

Thanks girl!

OK... any member within two feet of blueabyss333 is hereby deputized to take her scissors (forcibly if necessary)...















See how helpful we can be?!

 

[wheezy807]

Been here almost a year, and I've gotten maybe half an inch of length. I chopped off my dead ends in June, and I've finally let go of direct heat (rollersets exclusively now) so maybe I'll get lucky and start to see some length. I'll just be happy with healthy hair though.

I was thinking of giving up on my length goals though - it seems like I'm never gonna get there.

You will get there, just keep giving your hair the tlc it needs. Don't give up!!!

 

[Leslie_C]

Ive been here a long time, but I had a couple of major setbacks causing me to start over from scratch. I ended up transitioning for a year cutting off all the relaxed ends....then I texlaxed my virgin head of hair in february of this year and this year Ive been very aggressive with caring for my hair. Ive made more progress this year than in all the time Ive been on LHCF.

Im glad I started over though because I think starting out with semi-healthy hair makes growing and retaining growth a lot easier. Ive seen progress come much faster this way. I wish I would have started from scratch when I first came here instead of trying to save severely damaged,over processed hair.

 

[MiWay]

I am a long-time member, and I only recently started seeing length progress. But, mine is because I have been cutting my hair aggressively to get ris of the damage that brought me here. Now that that is over, I can chill out on the cutting and I am starting to see actual length progress, although the thickness I've gained over hte years is just as priceless for me.

OMG! HoneyDew, you have made some great progress! Your hair looks wonderful. But I feel the same way. I've been on this board for 2 years, and I feel like I should be further along...and I've really only had 2 good trims. I'm sure I probably caused my own setbacks, but my hair is healthier, so I guess I can't complain.

 

[back2relaxed]

Im glad I started over though because I think starting out with semi-healthy hair makes growing and retaining growth a lot easier. Ive seen progress come much faster this way. I wish I would have started from scratch when I first came here instead of trying to save severely damaged,over processed hair.

ITA...I BC'd in Dec 2006, and then relaxed my virgin hair in Feb 2007. I am soo pleased with the "new" head of hair. After years of relaxers, color, and everything else under the sun, my hair got a brand new start. And its 100% healthy. I'm glad I found the hairboards at the same time that I cut off all my old hair, b/c now I've done nothing but good things to my head. Now that I have finally gotten my hair trimmed even all around(except for the bangs)...I know I'm done w/cutting, and I'm on my way to my length goals!

 

[pistachio]

I had been lurking since 2003, and started at mid-neck length. In theory, I should be tailbone length or longer by now...

 

[bauderlady]

Been here two years, but neglected to take care of my hair as I should've in the first place. When I finally started taking care of my hair I had four setbacks.....still struggling with the weak thin middle part in the back of my head but I am gonna let it ride until I baby it back to health!

 

[_lovelyness]

** raises hand **

Been here for a while now. I'm a verrrry faithful lurker
But yeah, I should be beyond bsl now.
I was almost there, but had a major setback, which was very traumatizing for me, cuz i had to cut so much, and so many times. I was so disgusted by it all, that i stopped caring. Closed my fotki, went on a lhcf hiatus, you name it.
I also felt guily, cuz i thoughtb i brought it on myself by not being good enough with caring for my hair.

Thank god i fell on a wonderful hairstylist (she's a darling) who restored some hope in me, and babied my hair back to health. now i'm back at shoulder lenght (the lenght i started with, when i first discovered lhcf )

My hair grows steadily. But what bugs me the most (and i'm ashamed to admit it) is that, despite the weath of knowledge available on lhcf, and the years i've been here:
- i still don't have a foolproof regimen
- i still haven't found my holy grail products
- i'm the first to jump on product bandwagons (not as much as before tho')


Add to that, that i completly and utterly suck at styling my own hair .
I've tried it all: pincurls, rollersetting, airdrying, braidouts. Disasters after disasters

So yeah, I came to the conclusion, that i loove hair and everything related to it, but i'd rather let my hairstylist take care of it !!

 

[zora]

Yep. Old timer here. I've had a serious bout of cutting disease the past two years. Not to mention, I have really fine hair, so that makes it even harder.

Only since September/October have I been serious about my hair care and it's grown nicely in that short time.

But next year, I'm serious about reaching APL in the front and the back of my hair. I finally have a good regimen down, thanks to KiniKakes.

 

[sareca]

OMG! HoneyDew, you have made some great progress! Your hair looks wonderful. But I feel the same way. I've been on this board for 2 years, and I feel like I should be further along...and I've really only had 2 good trims. I'm sure I probably caused my own setbacks, but my hair is healthier, so I guess I can't complain.

Fo real! That's some seriously progress HD!

 

[ellennicole]

I totally feel like I should have more progress... but I have to admit that I am not 100% consistent with my regimen. I feel like my hair has been the same length for a year now.... I had really GREAT growth and progress when I first started, then I put in color (I was relaxed) and had to start over.


I am not nearly as dedicated as I should... but hopefully that will change. While I think that my hair looks healthy, it's not NEARLY as long as I know it can and should be with proper/diligent care. My stylist always cuts the sides of my hair and trims the back.... so I've been layered for a good two years now. I'd really like my hair to be all one length. My back is much longer than the sides.

 

[bluediamond0829]

nope not any--im starting to believe that i will never have any hair thats long enough to be put in a nice cute short style ugh....

 

[honeycomb719]

Another looong time member with little to no progress in my eyes. I could list a bunch of setbacks and reasons why I think my progress hasnt been better, but I wont. Simply put, Im not CONSISTENT!!!

 

[pattycake0701]

*raises hand*

I've been lurking on this board for a LONG time. I'm not even freaking APL yet. And just when I started to see some progress this year, its currently breaking off because I started using the blowdryer

I'm thinking about getting a weave and just letting it be for a while.

 

[charmtreese]

I've been on my long hair hussle for about two years now. I started off at chin length and in the in between time I had setbacks and trims which leaves me where i am now. My plan was to be near bsl by now and Im barely apl. The good news is my hair is healthier and stronger....so I feel good about that. I just need that length now. I feel it in my bones 08 is my year for BIG things!!!!

 

[Sistaslick]

. . . man oh man . . . don't even get me started.