Tactful Decline

[longhairdreaming]

So I have a slight dilemma... I ran into the mother of one of my students in the grocery store and after some small talk she offered to do my hair. She commented on how she's never seen my real hair 'cause it's always covered with a scarf when she sees me-which is true. To entice me more she pointed out her hair(which I looked at with a LHCF eye and was not impressed ) and told me how she knows how to do a dominican blowout, wraps, chemical services etc... Now I'm wearing a u-part wig but it blends so well people really do think it's my hair. I don't like anyone's hands in my head. I teach her son and don't want any issues.

How would you ladies go about tactfully turning down the offer?

 

[Froreal3]

I would never let one of my parent's do my hair. Why does she feel so comfortable to ask you that? I'd just say, "I actually do my own hair, but thank you! I appreciate it. "

 

[BranwenRosewood]

Just say "No thank you".

 

[Dee Raven]

I would just say "no, thanks." Or my other tactic is to be like "really, ok, maybe one day." And then never bring it up again. You could tell her about your hair journey if you want to, but it's not really any of her business and it's your hair. I never feel guilty for not letting people do my hair. People have their own head of hair to play with, they do not get to be entitled to play with yours even if you hair is longer, healthier, different texture or whatever.

 

[Lissa0821]

I would say, thanks but I love doing my own hair.

 

[MzOptimistic]

I would say I do my own hair but thanks so much or you can say you already have a stylist.

 

[Mistycat]

No thank you and that will be the end of the convo

 

[Foxglove]

Just say no thanks and keep it moving

 

[Black Ambrosia]

Is she a stylist or someone that fancies herself to be good at doing hair? I'm asking because I've never known a stylist to point to their own hair as an indication of what they can do. Most stylists never come at you like that.

The others have given you good responses. Just politely decline. It sounds like she is trying to bond with you or develop a friendship. Also, it could be that she thinks you are struggling with your hair since she always sees you in a scarf and now you're wearing a wig. Maybe she is sincerely trying to help but doesn't understand that this is part of your regimen.

 

[danniegirl]

like others have mentioned just say no thank you

sorry if im being nosy but you have some really beautiful, nice and simple styles in your siggy how come she has only seen you in a scarf?

 

[yaya24]

"No thank you"

 

[Blessed&higlyflavoured]

If you want to be honest just say
"No, thank you, I don't really like other people touching my hair". I don't think that's rude at all.
My mum's been offering recently i just tell her i have to learn how to do it for myself.

 

[longhairdreaming]

like others have mentioned just say no thank you

sorry if im being nosy but you have some really beautiful, nice and simple styles in your siggy how come she has only seen you in a scarf?

No problem...those styles are my inspiration, not my hair, but she's only been at the school a handful of times and I just happened to be wearing a scarf.

 

[longhairdreaming]

Is she a stylist or someone that fancies herself to be good at doing hair? I'm asking because I've never known a stylist to point to their own hair as an indication of what they can do. Most stylists never come at you like that.

The others have given you good responses. Just politely decline. It sounds like she is trying to bond with you or develop a friendship. Also, it could be that she thinks you are struggling with your hair since she always sees you in a scarf and now you're wearing a wig. Maybe she is sincerely trying to help but doesn't understand that this is part of your regimen.

Black Ambrosia she says she's a stylist trained in Canada. I'm here in Cameroon where I've rarely seen a healthy looking head of hair(no offense to my Cameroonian ladies).

 

[danniegirl]

No problem...those styles are my inspiration, not my hair, but she's only been at the school a handful of times and I just happened to be wearing a scarf.

oh gosh it clearly says inspirations board

i get that, i have run into a few people in my life that always see me in braids

 

[LadyPBC]

Good response without being somewhat offensive:
Oh I have my own stylist (or) I do my own hair - but thanks for letting me know I'll keep you in mind/make a note of it.

 

[HappilyLiberal]

So I have a slight dilemma... I ran into the mother of one of my students in the grocery store and after some small talk she offered to do my hair. She commented on how she's never seen my real hair 'cause it's always covered with a scarf when she sees me-which is true. To entice me more she pointed out her hair(which I looked at with a LHCF eye and was not impressed ) and told me how she knows how to do a dominican blowout, wraps, chemical services etc... Now I'm wearing a u-part wig but it blends so well people really do think it's my hair. I don't like anyone's hands in my head. I teach her son and don't want any issues.

How would you ladies go about tactfully turning down the offer?

No Thank You is sufficient!

 

[AFashionSlave]

Just tell her, "I appreciate you asking, but I'm going to have to turn down the offer. I am very happy with my hairstylist and I don't want to change, but again Thank you for thinking of me."

 

[JaneBond007]

I don't know but isn't it funny people think they have the right to suggest salon services to you when they've never even seen your hair? She should be more concerned with her child's performance in academics etc.

 

[LiftedUp]

My stylist doesn't like me going to others but thanks for the offer.

 

[LexiDior]

Just say "no thank you"

 

[Snshyne]

I would say it is a professional conflict of interest due to parent teacher relationship.

 

[Lita]

I would say,no thank you..Very kindly.

Happy Hair Growing!

 

[lux10023]

ummm nooo booo! no thank you....lol

 

[CurliDiva]

I think it was TACTLESS for her to announce that you need to get your hair done by her or anyone else! :/