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Do you FIGHT or EMBRACE your hair?

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This question occurred to me as I was responding to another thread. I think it's important as anything approached with a sense of joy and thanksgiving tends to flourish. That said, I know that like a lot of other Black women, a HHJ can sometimes take a lot of time and attention in an otherwise busy life. I am going to make more of a concerted effort to not just pay attention to e.g., low manipulation, cones and protective styles but also having really positive thoughts of gratitude as I struggle to comb out and detangle when necessary, deal with sticky hard protein treatments, spend about 2 hours getting in and out of the dryer in order to do a DC and a roller set. Just thoughts ... Haven't been on here in a while because, well, life happens. But, as I am feeling particularly proud of the health my hair these days, I though that I would share and inquire.
 
Both, I fuss at all the work i put into my hair (which honestly is not alot but still) and very happy when i see the end results
 
Well said, OP.
ITA.
I embrace my hair 100% and when I treat it well, we tend to be on the same page about our style for the day.
I don't know if I ever *fought* with my hair but we had our arguments when I was a briefly straight-haired lady. I've found life to be so much easier when I just do what my hair wants most of the time. Then, the 20% of yearly control I'm allotted, I can use when I really need it. :-)
 
I embrace her. Never saw a reason not to. She has been good to me. Does what I want, when I want. I realize when she is relaxed she does not do the bone straight thing unless I go to get my hair done professionally. I accept that and my fluffiness. She loves water, so I give her lots of it. We are the best of friends!

I felt like a cornball writing that. LOL!
 
I think it's fly that you refer to your hair with a pronoun! I think that I'm gonna imbue my hair with some feelings too:lol:

Lucie said:
I embrace her. Never saw a reason not to. She has been good to me. Does what I want, when I want. I realize when she is relaxed she does not do the bone straight thing unless I go to get my hair done professionally. I accept that and my fluffiness. She loves water, so I give her lots of it. We are the best of friends!

I felt like a cornball writing that. LOL!
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I embrace my hair.....until this past week, when my sides are so long and it's gettin froey versus fadey. So now I'm fighting it to have it lay in a way that looks OK until I get it cut lol.
 
I embrace my hair, but I also embrace everything I decide to do. If I am doing it, I am going in 100%. My hair also doesn't give me a reason to fight it and fits my lifestyle so it is win-win.
 
I have been transitioning a little over 10 months and I have not embraced my hair. I've spent months watching YouTube videos and reading blogs of my thick, long-haired idols, only to discover that I have fine, thin, curly hair. So I am struggling with this new reality.
 
I embrace my hair. But it took a while. It's like building a new friendship. You have to get to know each other and accept each other first.
 
I've tried to fight it and it just didn't work out. I tried to make it be something it wasn't and was left disappointed. So now I work with it. I make it the best it can be. Like with makeup I accentuate its positives and camouflage its flaws.
 
I embrace my hair. Wash day has never felt like a chore to me. I try to think of it as my personal spa time. Especially since I have 2 small children.

But sometimes I do get frustrated when my styles don't hold, or I put a lot of time & effort into a style for it to last for like 6hrs :lol:
 
Spent my whole life fighting which was useless-nature prevailed. Been natural for bout 2 years and learning how to work with it but its a whole new ball game not knowing my texture and what she likes. Journey is really the correct word.
 
I embrace it until I'm confronted with a reason to fight. That's when I CHANGE it....cause I don't have the patience for all of that fighting.
 
I embrace my hair and treat it well, but I do not enjoy my hair at all. It's time consuming, fragile, thin/fine. I prefer the way I look with long hair but I've come to terms with that fact that my hair will never be long, so I wear braids/twist extensions a lot. I love my hair, I just don't think looks good (7head, low density, bleh)
 
embrace..... i love her and she loves me! i leave her alone for the most part, twisted and moisturize her using the lco method. when she gets a lil tangly its time for a trim. she's so soft and silky smooth! juices n berries do her right!
 
Fought my hair for many, many years. Trying to get it bone straight when it didn't want to. I had a red hot hatred for my hair. More than anything I wanted it to stay straight. So glad those self loathing years are behind me.
 
I am embracing it at this point. If its frizzy okay I'm rocking frizz. Beating my hair into submission means beating myself bald.
 
I embrace the results but sometimes its seems like a fight getting to them. At times I really miss the APL hair that I could do anything I wanted to it and have it look good every single day. I do really like my hair now but wash day is its own little time consuming journey every weekend. Whenever I try to save a little time by wearing my hair in a fro one day, trying a wig, washing every 2 weeks instead of every week, the punishment for that shortcut rears its head in tangles and breakage.
 
I embrace :hug3:

And to me, embracing my hair means being extra gentle when brushing and detangling. It also means finally taking care of my hair based on its own "profile," and not some generic expectations about what African-American hair needs.
 
I used to fight (for years).

I have finally come to embrace it and it feels wonderful. I never would have thought my hair would like me so much if I only listened to what it wanted. It's been like day and night.
 
Embrace, :yep:. My hair is strong, and there is a lot of it on my head. I have taken care of my hair, and now my hair is letting me know...that I can have fun with it as long as I am gentle and reasonable.
 
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