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longfroinghair said:
Y' know if a white girl posted a tweegram like that I'm pretty sure your friend herself would've been offended. and call her a racist

I think its worse because shes black and i feel like shes bringing her own race down
 
candy626 said:
I don't blame you.

I would expect that comment from someone whose racist against blacks. Not from someone who is black.

Its a shame that people cant respect others decisions. Even though i am natural, i don't go around saying stuff about relaxed heads because I'm not hitler.
 
empressri said:
WHAT?!?! The very race that tears down each other constantly and uses the n-word as much as a lynch mob??? Black women have the most opinions of how other black women should wear their hair compared to anyone else.

It doesn't surprise me at ALL and that is sad.

Its very sad and unfortunate ... Not to mention we went to college together at an hbcu ... Smh
 
*CherryPie* said:
I don't get why y'all would get upset by a statement made by someone on facebook. And the startement was not directly aimed at anybody in particular. That statement could have been for someone she was angry at. It seems that a lot of y'all just love being mad.

I'm not mad, i was offended. I just feel like statements like this are unnecessary. Normally i do ignore her because this is not the first time but enough is enough. #ijs
 
Yeah she is ignorant for saying that. I'm relaxed and would have been offended as well. Yesterday I was in line with my 9yr old daughter at Chipotle and the woman behind us asked if I loc my dd's hair. I said no its just double strand twisted. She went on to say how her 3yr old dd has the same type of hair and she don't like it. I said why not? " I just want it straight". Really?? I went on to tell her how I love my daughter's texture and how the twists just coils up so well at the end by itself. I told her please don't relax your baby's :-(. I talked about it to dd later and she said yeah, I heard her...I wanted to slap her.
 
^^^ Some people are just the worst. Like really?? She says that nonsense in front of your daughter? I cannot imagine what she says to her own child. Come 10 years from now, she will be puzzled why her daughter has such a low opinion of herself and seeks validation from all the wrong places.

I wonder if some people realize the key to building esteem in kids is not the infrequent big moments, but the every day little moments they consistently fawk up.
 
I think I would be offended as well, and I'm relaxed. It's okay to feel offended but I think it's important to realize that that is just her opinion and she's free to post it on her Facebook. No need to get all upset about it. Don't like it? Ignore it, or politely disagree.
 
I can understand you being annoyed (Although I'm natural and I wouldn't be). There's going to be a lot of people with criticism for natural hair. So it looks like you're going to be annoyed a lot.

I hear people saying negative things about natural hair. But I don't take it personally unless they're talking to me personally. Even then, I still might not get annoyed.

I'm not mad, i was offended. I just feel like statements like this are unnecessary. Normally i do ignore her because this is not the first time but enough is enough. #ijs
 
Honey this is what we as a people do. My dd is light with 3b hair. When she was little, I use to have people not believe I was her mother. In fact I had one woman in Walmart when she was about 1yr old walk up to me with her youngin and say "look sweetie she's light like you!" I tried to keep it moving but then the ***** looks me up and down and says "hmmm she's pretty. her daddy must be light skinned". It wasn't what she said, because hell her daddy is light, it was the tone and the implication. We can keep complaining about racism, but intraracial issues are a much bigger bane on black society if you ask me.

Oh yeah to answer your question op, I'm relaxed and I get highly offended.
 
See that's why I love facebook and twitter, you can find out who the dummies are REAL QUICK. And then you can treat them accordingly...
 
I see this type of stuff on Facebook all the time. Naturals bringing down relaxed and relaxed bringing down naturals. CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
I see this type of stuff on Facebook all the time. Naturals bringing down relaxed and relaxed bringing down naturals. CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!!!!!!!!!!!!

Nope, because some people are just not cool. And they enjoy being that way. It's pathetic, really.
 
Its very sad and unfortunate ... Not to mention we went to college together at an hbcu ... Smh

Girl I'm telling you, we're both in NY and I'm like well hell, is this the same friend?? lol! We went to high school together, I wonder if you went to college with her.

This girl is ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS talking about someone, this person is fat, this person is ugly, why are they this age and working here, I mean judgmental like a ****!!!

You would think she was the Queen of Sheba the way she goes on but it's not the case.

She does like the attention though.
 
In fact I had one woman in Walmart when she was about 1yr old walk up to me with her youngin and say "look sweetie she's light like you!" I tried to keep it moving but then the ***** looks me up and down and says "hmmm she's pretty. her daddy must be light skinned"

That don't make no sense. I don't know why people assume dark-skinned people will have dark-skinned children. And the fact that she had to point out that your daughter was light skinned was kind of weird...I could see if she was saying they both looked alike or something..idk...people can be really odd sometimes

I think I would be offended as well, and I'm relaxed. It's okay to feel offended but I think it's important to realize that that is just her opinion and she's free to post it on her Facebook. No need to get all upset about it. Don't like it? Ignore it, or politely disagree.

Yes everyone is entitled to their opinion, even if it makes them look ignorant.
And it sounds like OP took your advice and didn't engage in a long debate with her.
But at least she did challenge her a little bit. Some foolish comments do warrant a response, even if all you do is let the person know how ridiculous they sound.
 
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I just stated transitioning and it doesn't bother me. The comment is quite ignorant in my opinion. I know when Im fully natural and when I flat iron and its thick, silky and long. People going to remember that puff ball on the top of my head and be amazed.
 
LexiDior said:
I see this type of stuff on Facebook all the time. Naturals bringing down relaxed and relaxed bringing down naturals. CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yesss! The line must be drawn!
 
empressri said:
Girl I'm telling you, we're both in NY and I'm like well hell, is this the same friend?? lol! We went to high school together, I wonder if you went to college with her.

This girl is ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS talking about someone, this person is fat, this person is ugly, why are they this age and working here, I mean judgmental like a ****!!!

You would think she was the Queen of Sheba the way she goes on but it's not the case.

She does like the attention though.

Lol well i mean .... Did your friend go to hampton??
 
People are just always going to hate on people, OP. Some black relaxed girls will hate on black naturals and visa versa, just like some straight haired white girls will hate on curly haired white girls and visa versa. Same goes with skin color. White girls rip on other white girls for being too pale all the time.

Tis part of life, unfortunately.
 
Postal said:
I think I would be offended as well, and I'm relaxed. It's okay to feel offended but I think it's important to realize that that is just her opinion and she's free to post it on her Facebook. No need to get all upset about it. Don't like it? Ignore it, or politely disagree.

and/or delete them so you wont have to see the ignorance anymore.
 
I like when people like her show their ignorance so that I will know how to deal with them in the future. I like how OP made a simple, witty comment and kept it movin' because you can't have an intelligent convo with a person who is close minded.
 
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