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MissAlinaRose

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As I was washing and detangling my hair the other day I was so amazed at how far I've come and how easy the maintenance process is now. That's when I began thinking back to everything that I have learned over the few short years of being natural. Here are about 5 things that I have found out about myself that has aided my hair journey:

1. I cannot do 50-11 sections when washing/detangling my hair
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When I first went natural I saw videos and read posts about how people washed & detangled in a lot of sections. Even when my hair was shoulder length this took waaaay too much time. The only thing I would ever really do in sections is moisturize to make sure the moisturizer is evenly distributed throughout my hair. But that's about all. My hair doesn't tangle, mat, or anything. If I had to use sections for something, the most I would do is 2 (split my hair in half). But all those little sections are a no for me.


2. Dry Deep Conditioning is the TRUTH for soft/supple hair
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I was never an avid deep conditioning person. That was until I tried the "relaxer method." As of late, I've been applying Silk Elements (Olive Oil kind) all over my head, letting it sit while I clean up or move around for awhile, then hopping in the shower. Once I rinse it out, I detangle at the same time.

Ya'll this stuff is so good that my fingers literally glide through my hair. NO JOKE. I really don't have to use a comb either, but sometimes I do just to marvel at how it just slides through. Detangling takes all of 5 minutes. It gets me every time. *oh and it keeps my hair smelling good too*




3. Protective styles have not always been a good thing!

About a week or so ago I did a twist set on someone's transitioning hair. Well right before doing her hair she had washed it right AFTER taking down a sew-in that she wore for 2 months. Her hair was so tangled!!

Retention comes best for most when the hair is tucked away. BUT, extensions (braids, weaves, etc.) left in too long without proper maintenance, a decent comb through, or scalp rinse every now and again could be a breakage disaster. Trust me I've been there before with braids!!

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4. Converting styles is my lifesaver

Let's just say I'm rocking a twistout and I want twists again. I am not going to wash my hair and start all over again. No way. I'm going to take two crinkly pieces of my hair, finger comb them a little and twist them back up. This cuts down on time drastically because everything is already sectioned and moisturized. Easy!
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(in this pic, the twistout is toward the front and the redone twists can be seen in the back. I am turning that twistout into twists again. And keep in mind my hair is always "done." Even if my twists aren't finished, I can put my hair in a cute style in which you will never know it's unfinished. I can't do that with wet/damp/shrinking hair).


5. The scientific method really works!

This is going to sound corny as all get out, but I have consciously used the scientific method to solve my hair woes. And, I'm willing to bet everyone in here has used it unconsciously.

I have to identify my problem first:
"How can I cut the time I use for my wash and style days in half?"
"What will consistently make my hair soft?"
"What will make my hair smell good the longest time?" or even
"What is the best workout style?"
etc.


Then I come up with some sort of educated guess about what I think would work, followed by some research (seeing what other naturals close to my hair texture are doing), a procedure to test everything out, the results, and lastly a conclusion that I document.

It works every single time.


*Do you have any hair reflections? What have you learned over the years about your hair and it's needs?* (anyone can chime in relaxed/natural/transitioning/etc.)
 
Throughout my year of being natural (and 16 years of being natural before my first relaxer) I've learned:

1. My hair doesn't need a lot of products.
2. My hair doesn't need expensive products.
3. Tho washngos are cute and simple, I will regret wearing them when I try to straighten my hair.
4. I don't care what my conditioner has in it...if it doesn't have slip, its not gonna work for me.
 
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Your hair is beautiful; and you're blessed w/so much hang time and still have a that pretty kinky texture.

I've learned:
1) My hair needs castor oil rinses to be able to hold water/moisture
2) My hair needs strong deep, natural, deep conditioning on dry hair to retain moisture (Aubrey Organics Gpb)
3) My hair doesn't need shampoo but my scalp does :). It dries my hair out but keeps my scalp squeaky clean when I use diluted shampoo in color applicator bottle.
 
When you find something that works, stick with it. It's okay to try new things, but too much experimentation can lead to setbacks. My hair flourishes when I stick to what it likes :3


I don't need protective styles to grow out my hair. When I first came to this board I felt like everyone was saying "protective style or your hair will never get past x length" or, "you may think you're doing okay now, but wait until blah blah blah." It worried me b/c I knew that ps'ing 24/7 wasn't going to cut it for me. So I just decided that I would make sure that my hair was very healthy, and like there are many challenges on this board, I saw it as a challenge with an end goal that I could accomplish. Turns out...it's not that hard lol. As long as I do what my hair likes and meet its needs, my hair grows just fine. I am currently a little past APL after being 2 years relaxer-free. Here's hoping for BSL (or grazing) by Christmas!! lol


There isn't only one way to do anything. On YT ppl part off their hair in like 20 sections for a wash and go, spend an hour to do said wash and go, there are ppl talking about gel like it's the debil, and that you are some self hating negro for wanting definition (lol). I rebuke that!! I lubbs gel, gel lubbs me, and wash and gos can be quick, dangit!!


Protein can be your friend :3 ! A lot of ppl seemed only concerned about moisture on here when I first came, and seemed against protein, so I adopted that stance. I've come to realize over time that protein is important for my hair to thrive! I no longer avoid it.


I'll come back if I think of more :D
 
Your hair is beautiful; and you're blessed w/so much hang time and still have a that pretty kinky texture.
:love2: You're too kind!

When you find something that works, stick with it. It's okay to try new things, but too much experimentation can lead to setbacks. My hair flourishes when I stick to what it likes :3


I don't need protective styles to grow out my hair
. When I first came to this board I felt like everyone was saying "protective style or your hair will never get past x length" or, "you may think you're doing okay now, but wait until blah blah blah." It worried me b/c I knew that ps'ing 24/7 wasn't going to cut it for me. So I just decided that I would make sure that my hair was very healthy, and like there are many challenges on this board, I saw it as a challenge with an end goal that I could accomplish. Turns out...it's not that hard lol. As long as I do what my hair likes and meet its needs, my hair grows just fine. I am currently a little past APL after being 2 years relaxer-free. Here's hoping for BSL (or grazing) by Christmas!! lol


There isn't only one way to do anything. On YT ppl part off their hair in like 20 sections for a wash and go, spend an hour to do said wash and go, there are ppl talking about gel like it's the debil, and that you are some self hating negro for wanting definition (lol). I rebuke that!! I lubbs gel, gel lubbs me, and wash and gos can be quick, dangit!!


Protein can be your friend :3 ! A lot of ppl seemed only concerned about moisture on here when I first came, and seemed against protein, so I adopted that stance. I've come to realize over time that protein is important for my hair to thrive! I no longer avoid it.


I'll come back if I think of more :D
:clapping: YAAASSSS!!! We are -----><------I feel the same way about the bolded.

There's no wrong way to eat a reese's people! Find what works for you and things will get easier.
 
OP I love your hair it is so pretty!

What I have learned about my hair over the past 4 years is that:

1) My hair can grow past neck length, (its longest was BSL in 2009)
2) Unfortunately being natural is not for me... I was natural for 3 years and I tried every product and method under the sun but my hair was still dry and not thriving.
3) I learned that in my case being natural does not automatically mean no holds barred hair growth (My hair stayed at shoulder length for about a year).
4) My main mission is retaining length and showcasing it.
 
My protein moisture balance is not 50/50, but 70 protein/30 moisture. My strans are fine, and need more strength, than softness. My hair is already soft. But I know to retain the moisture, it needs the protein.

My hair likes heat. It likes to be straightened after being washed. SSK are evil. Because my natural hairs curls upon itself, they are inevitable. I have never had an issue with using heat on my hair.

OP your hair is :love:
 
1. Doing my hair in sections (washing, conditioning, using products, etc) makes a huge difference.

2. My hair doesn't do well with heavy protein. Light protein or "reconstructors" are best.

3. Henna is better for my hair than protein.

4. Seal, seal, seal!

5. When I started to lose a lot of hair, going to the doctor to get some blood work done identified the issue - low ferritin (iron stores). Since I started taking iron daily, my excessive shedding has cut down significantly.
 
- Grease is my lover and always will be.

- Washing and dcing in twist or braids is great

- Cheap products are just as awesome as expensive ones

- Finger detangling...it can miss me on that. :ohwell::nono: :lol:

- ssks...can't escape them. Part of being a natural head :yep:
 
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My hair likes heat. It likes to be straightened after being washed. SSK are evil. Because my natural hairs curls upon itself, they are inevitable. I have never had an issue with using heat on my hair.

OP your hair is :love:

This is another thing I've found out. All the "heat is evil!" cries kept me from trying it out until I did. I ended up liking it (in moderation of course). Those SSK disappeared! I did have a few splits but only at the very ends of my hair which was a quick snip away.
 
I only have a few since I haven't been on my hair journey long:

1) Air drying is my friend!
2) Washing my hair in sections is definitely easier! I hated washing my hair in a big ol' tangled mass!
3) Even though my hair responds very well to a flatiron, I don't really have the face shape for flat hair. Big and curly is the way for me!
4) Co-washing once a week is not as bad as it sounds.
 
1. I cannot do 50-11 sections when washing/detangling my hair
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When I first went natural I saw videos and read posts about how people washed & detangled in a lot of sections. Even when my hair was shoulder length this took waaaay too much time. The only thing I would ever really do in sections is moisturize to make sure the moisturizer is evenly distributed throughout my hair. But that's about all. My hair doesn't tangle, mat, or anything. If I had to use sections for something, the most I would do is 2 (split my hair in half). But all those little sections are a no for me.

THIS has been one of my discoveries as well. I do best with just two sections. I tried the multiple sectioning thing as well thinking it might help with matting and tangling but it just took up too much time and wasted more water.

MissAlinaRose - I see you have no matting or tangling... can you share how you don't get matting and tangling? Is it a certain product or shampoo? Or just simply your hair texture? I still get matting and tangling whenever I wash my hair.
 
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- My hair need to be stretched or it will tangle.
- Moisturizing and sealing several times a week is the way to go.
- I haven't used protein conditioners / treatments in months and my hair has been thriving.
- Henna and cassia are great! They make my hair shiny and strong. :yep:
- Low manipulation and protective styles keep my hair happy.
- Seamless combs are awesome.
 
Great thread! OP your hair....gosh :lovedrool: I hope to be where you are one day!

Things I've learned so far in this transition:

1. No glycerin. I find my hair is doing better without it.

2. Wash and detangle in sections. Disastuh if I don't.

3. Aloe vera juice is awesome!

4. Pre-poos make a difference. I can see/feel the difference when I don't do them.

5. Heavy leave-ins and sealants. I knew this for a while, but I only recently figured out the ideal products: Tresseme conditioner and Shea butter.

6. Cut waaaay back on the manipulation. No combing between washdays.

7. A little heat is good. My hair seems to do better stretched with a little heat.

8. CON poos. Namely Argan oil and Green label are awesome for moisture and detangling.
 
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@MissAlinaRose - I see you have no matting or tangling... can you share how you don't get matting and tangling? Is it a certain product or shampoo? Or just simply your hair texture? I still get matting and tangling whenever I wash my hair.
Poohbear I'm not totally sure, but I think it's the weight of my hair. My hair is not only thick but dense. And, I think it's because of the volume of my hair that I'm able to get some hang time in the shower reducing shrinking hair that tangles around itself.

Before I get into the shower for wash day I slather on my deep conditioner (silk elements) which makes my hair hang down. But once I'm under the shower, that pressure weighs my hair down even more as if it was straight. I wish I could show you. The pic above is a bit older and doesn't show the full effect.

Great thread! OP your hair....gosh :lovedrool: I hope to be where you are one day!

Things I've learned so far in this transition:

1. No glycerin. I find my hair is doing better without it.

2. Wash and detangle in sections. Disastuh if I don't.

3. Aloe vera juice is awesome!

4. Pre-poos make a difference. I can see/feel the difference when I don't do them.

5. Heavy leave-ins and sealants. I knew this for a while, but I only recently figured out the ideal products: Tresseme conditioner and Shea butter.

6. Cut waaaay back on the manipulation. No combing between washdays.

7. A little heat is good. My hair seems to do better stretched with a little heat.

8. CON poos. Namely Argan oil and Green label are awesome for moisture and detangling.
I agree with #7! This has helped me tremendously.

- My hair need to be stretched or it will tangle.
- Moisturizing and sealing several times a week is the way to go.
- I haven't used protein conditioners / treatments in months and my hair has been thriving.
- Henna and cassia are great! They make my hair shiny and strong. :yep:
- Low manipulation and protective styles keep my hair happy.
- Seamless combs are awesome.
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All the important things I've learned on my hair journey:

- A clean and healthy scalp, makes for hair that grows long and healthy
- If I don't strip out all the moisture with Sh!tpoo, I won't have to work 2x's as hard to put it all back. Cleansing conditioners are my addiction!
- Ayurveda is worth the time it takes to learn about the different herbs, and oils
- Don't be afraid to put the Mixtress cap on...it's the only way to get it like how you like it
- Cones are Awesome. If it doesn't have enough, I put more in!
- My hair needs proten more than moisture. Ain't no body scared of protein over here!
- if it ain't broke, don't fix it...but don't be scared to tweak it a bit every now and then
- Just say no to Bandwagons
- K.I.S.S. :yep:
 
Do you have any hair reflections? What have you learned over the years about your hair and it's needs

All of you ladies are AWESOME and some of this has been quoted previously!!!
I love hearing what others are doing to maintain healthy hair and don't mind asking questions, however when it all said and done...You have to do what works for YOU!!!

My hair dislikes glycerin and gels. My hair loves Henna, ayurvedic practices, Clays, heavy leave-ins and sealants, Aloe vera juice and H2O. :lick:

I need deep conditioning at least weekly. I have tried DC as a pre-wash, which is a time saver and will try to incorporate more.

Hair typing is not an exact science. You can have several textures on one head. With that being said, you can learn from everyone regardless of hair type/texture. Healthy hair is not limited by length, hair type, natural, relaxed, heat styled, cone usage, etc.

Great Discussion!!! MissAlinaRose your hair is beautiful!!! :)
 
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1) Most longterm protective styles are enemies: Esp. mini anything or braids w/extensions. Medium to large twists and cornrows are ok as long as I keep them in no longer than 3 wks. Anything thats snatching my edges gets a hell no.Long story short, tons of trapped shed hair = tons of tangles and knots for me. Buns/updos are my favorite protective styles. However, I retain length w/o constant protective styles. Mostly b/c my hair still shrinks up to my shoulders and doesn't incur breakage from the tops I wear. Low manipulation is still a necessity though.

2) Cowashing is my friend: During my 1st year natural I tried cowashing with suave and vo5 products. For some reason both left a film/irritated my scalp so I swore off cowashing. However, this spring, I experimented w/ other conditioners such as giovanni SAS and the tresemme naturals nm. They worked! My hair feels and looks more moisturized now that I cowash weekly. The issue was the products, not the technique.

3) Heat is a frenemy: I have had a couple of setbacks due to matting (mostly wash and go induced). During those frustrated times I turned to heat in order to get my hair fully separated and mat free. However longterm heat use is not for me. Especially since I don't want my coils turning into s waves or straight pieces.

4) Keeping my hair stretched is a must. Letting it all shrink up = super long detangling sessions. I also need to keep it in 6 sections while washing. It's less confusing and time consuming for me.

5) Simplicity works. One step is cutting my shower trips down to one by doing a dc on dry hair before cleansing. I also keep things simple by using the same product to cleanse and detangle. Another step is detangling only on wash day and finger styling in between.

6) I never seem to stop learning. I've been at this for almost 3 yrs but somehow I'm still absorbing new info and trying different techniques.
 
All the important things I've learned on my hair journey:

- A clean and healthy scalp, makes for hair that grows long and healthy
- If I don't strip out all the moisture with Sh!tpoo, I won't have to work 2x's as hard to put it all back. Cleansing conditioners are my addiction!
- Ayurveda is worth the time it takes to learn about the different herbs, and oils
- Don't be afraid to put the Mixtress cap on...it's the only way to get it like how you like it
- Cones are Awesome. If it doesn't have enough, I put more in!
- My hair needs proten more than moisture. Ain't no body scared of protein over here!
- if it ain't broke, don't fix it...but don't be scared to tweak it a bit every now and then
- Just say no to Bandwagons
- K.I.S.S. :yep:
MrsJaiDiva I have thought about trying Ayurvedic products but need to know one important thing: how does it smell?? I have a keen sense of smell and there are certain things my nose don't agree with.


All of you ladies are AWESOME and some of this has been quoted previously!!!
I love hearing what others are doing to maintain healthy hair and don't mind asking questions, however when it all said and done...You have to do what works for YOU!!!

My hair dislikes glycerin and gels. My hair loves Henna, ayurvedic practices, Clays, heavy leave-ins and sealants, Aloe vera juice and H2O. :lick:

I need deep conditioning at least weekly. I have tried DC as a pre-wash, which is a time saver and will try to incorporate more.

Hair typing is not an exact science. You can have several textures on one head. With that being said, you can learn from everyone regardless of hair type/texture. Healthy hair is not limited by length, hair type, natural, relaxed, heat styled, cone usage, etc.

Great Discussion!!! @MissAlinaRose your hair is beautiful!!! :)
:thankyou:Because the thanks button just wasn't enough. I'm glad typing is starting to die down, but I know it's still alive and well. It doesn't describe your hair, my hair, or anyone else's to a T. We still have to discover what works for our unique heads.

6) I never seem to stop learning. I've been at this for almost 3 yrs but somehow I'm still absorbing new info and trying different techniques.
:yep: I feel the exact same way about absorbing new info. I love seeing what others are doing.
 
1) My own happiness with my hair/hair style is far more important to me than the healthy of it(yep...finally admit it). Meaning I'm willing to sacrifice doing something potential damaging to enjoy my hair (like using heat or coloring)
2) Relaxers was just not for me, in so many many different ways
3) With coarse thick type 4 hair I'm probably... no I know I won't have the patients to grow it any longer than BSL.
4) I'm very very lazy when it comes to hair
5) Wash and gos are very overrated
 
I like this thread!:grin: I love reading what other ladies have discovered about their hair.:yep: Here's my reflections.

1) Braids are my frenemy. I've been natural my whole life, wore my hair in braids until I was 16. It was fine when I was a child and did things like swimming but not now. My scalp dries out really easily but my hair itself is on the oily side.:nono: When my hair's braided it's too easy for my scalp to dry out and it's too hard for me to apply moisturizer in every place that needs it. I still get braids for vacation, but after 2-3 weeks they have to come out!:yep:

2. My hair does better when it's straight... and that's ok.
:yep: When I first came here I thought I was going to have to give up the flat iron based on what some ladies were saying. I focused on learning what my hair needs, what products it likes etc. and surprised even myself with how things turned around.

3. Moisturizing Conditioners are NOT my friend. I finally came to terms with that this year.:look: I use them as a DC when I'm on vacation since I swim everyday both in the ocean and in chlorinated water but they don't work in any other circumstance surprisingly.

4. Maintaining my pH balance is imperative to retention.
Maybe I need to find more acidic products or something but I can't do without my ACV mixture.:nono: I went without it once to see what would happen and there was a real difference. So no go.

5. Using shampoos/conditioners in rotation is better than having a staple. Having a collection of products is better because my hair has different needs on any particular day.

6. There's always something more to learn about my hair or anything hair related.:grin::grin:
 
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MissAlinaRose[/USER];16169173]MrsJaiDiva I have thought about trying Ayurvedic products but need to know one important thing: how does it smell?? I have a keen sense of smell and there are certain things my nose don't agree with.

Mostly the powders smell like musty tea. Not bad at all...just fragrant. Neem oil stinks like last nights tai peanut take out...but it's probably the BEST thing that ever happened to my scalp. Every herb and oil has a use, and can be So beneficial to healthy hair growth. And it's cheap! :grin:
 
@[URL="http://www.longhaircareforum.com/member.php?u=52671" said:
MissAlinaRose[/URL];16169173]@MrsJaiDiva I have thought about trying Ayurvedic products but need to know one important thing: how does it smell?? I have a keen sense of smell and there are certain things my nose don't agree with.

Mostly the powders smell like musty tea. Not bad at all...just fragrant. Neem oil stinks like last nights tai peanut take out...but it's probably the BEST thing that ever happened to my scalp. Every herb and oil has a use, and can be So beneficial to healthy hair growth. And it's cheap! :grin:
:lachen:Whaaat?!? I'll have to do some smell testing first.
 
1. Consistency is real out here.
2. Deep conditioning on dry hair with heat is the truth.
3. Emulsifying Wax, 'cones and Benhetrionium Methosuflate are not for me.
4. My hair needs water, cetyl alcohol and some type of oil in the first 5 ingredients.
5. The climate I live in supports the year-round use of glycerin to keep my hair super moist.
6. Petroleum jelly for sealing?: WE THE BEST!
7. Leaving my hair alone to do what it do is priceless.
 
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