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I am late 40's, here are pictures from this year in the last two months, as you can see in a couple I have plenty of grays growing in the front right down the middle where I normally part my hair, I tried plucking those suckers and they keep coming back, why do the gray strands seem thicker and stronger than regular color hair? Anyway I can't take it anymore, I will be getting it colored this month.
 

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40+ checking in! Great thread!

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I love all the diversity of the hair pictures and am so happy to see so many healthy heads of hair!

Those of us who are graying but not wanting to show it (yet), do you find coloring has changed your texture or has it changed the products that work (or don't work)? I find that my hair is more tangly, dry, and breaks more. Any suggestions for less damaging color? (I haven't been successful with henna - not seeming to cover my gray and a few times I got PINK hair :eek:)
 
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All you ladies look beautiful and give some of us "younger heads" (soon age 36) reason to stay on our game!

I was just having a conversation yesterday about this same thing -- at what point are women giving up? The convo came up after seeing younger pics of some of my friends who are in their 50s and 60s now. They were "stone-cold foxes" as my country boy Dh would say! And now they're ghastly overweight, hair is never done, wigs ragged out, ain't seem makeup in years. What happened? At what point did they stop putting in the extra effort and give up? Sigh. I just don't want to get to my "give up" point. ....but I guess this is all really a topic for a different thread!

Charla interesting that you mentioned the conversation with your Dh....I too have a country boy Dh (from GA), we talk about this topic occasionally and he points out via facebook photos of the 40, 50 and 60 year olds who were drop dead gorgeous but somewhere along the way they have just stopped putting in the extra effort...... then I think about my Granny (and women in her generation like her) who just celebrated her 92nd birthday who still loves to dress up, she takes great pride in her hair, clothes and will drive 100 miles to get a hat for church ha ha ha - so hopefully this will be the example I choose to live by. I am 100% certain that we choose what we do about our appearance--good and bad. Not everyone can afford expensive vitamins or jump on every bandwagon but the best moisturizer (water) is practically free. I am tickled when AA women say "my hair will not grow that long because of genetics" or age, the reality is our hair care practices are horrible and that keeps us at broken off shoulder length. That is the beauty of this board and others board like this. The knowledge and shared ideas break the old stereotypes and myths. I agree with OP that this is the perfect place to have this discussion.
 
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@Charla interesting that you mentioned the conversation with your Dh....I too have a country boy Dh (from GA), we talk about this topic occasionally and he points out via facebook photos of the 40, 50 and 60 year olds who were drop dead gorgeous but somewhere along the way they have just stopped putting in the extra effort...... then I think about my Granny (and women in her generation like her) who just celebrated her 92nd birthday who still loves to dress up, she takes great pride in her hair, clothes and will drive 100 miles to get a hat for church ha ha ha - so hopefully this will be the example I choose to live by. I am 100% certain that we choose what we do about our appearance--good and bad. Not everyone can afford expensive vitamins or jump on every bandwagon but the best moisturizer (water) is practically free. I am tickled when AA women say "my hair will not grow that long because of genetics" or age, the reality is our hair care practices are horrible and that keeps us at broken off shoulder length. That is the beauty of this board and others board like this. The knowledge and shared ideas break the old stereotypes and myths. I agree with OP that this is the perfect place to have this discussion.

It can be easy to let yourself go when you hang around enough other people who aren't making an effort or there just doesn't seem to be a need in your every day life. It really is just a decision to look good and keep yourself up that makes the difference.

I had to throw out a lot of stuff that was tempted me to just look a mess. Its easier to dress nice and to look nice when that's all you have in your closet. :yep: I try to keep my head nice but its raggedy :lol: I'm trying though.
 
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I laughing out loud because I look a hot mess as we speak!!!! I am currently 11 weeks post and this is the first time in my life that I have gone that long before getting a relaxer. Just glad this is not a skyping board.
 
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Charla interesting that you mentioned the conversation with your Dh....I too have a country boy Dh (from GA), we talk about this topic occasionally and he points out via facebook photos of the 40, 50 and 60 year olds who were drop dead gorgeous but somewhere along the way they have just stopped putting in the extra effort...... then I think about my Granny (and women in her generation like her) who just celebrated her 92nd birthday who still loves to dress up, she takes great pride in her hair, clothes and will drive 100 miles to get a hat for church ha ha ha - so hopefully this will be the example I choose to live by. I am 100% certain that we choose what we do about our appearance--good and bad. Not everyone can afford expensive vitamins or jump on every bandwagon but the best moisturizer (water) is practically free. I am tickled when AA women say "my hair will not grow that long because of genetics" or age, the reality is our hair care practices are horrible and that keeps us at broken off shoulder length. That is the beauty of this board and others board like this. The knowledge and shared ideas break the old stereotypes and myths. I agree with OP that this is the perfect place to have this discussion.

swgpec My country boy is also from GA!:lol: I know what you mean about the 92 yo because I noticed that too. That generation age 70-90s seem to still be on point. I really believe it has to do with their generation grew up with the view that a woman acts like a lady (more prim and proper) and looked like a lady (they were to look like dolls, kept women, and it was to reflect their upbringing and family line, it was to reflect dignity even if they descended from slaves.) I see many women of that generation that I aspire to when I reach that age!
 
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The first pic is when actually started healthy hair practices (Aug 2010), the pic on the left was taken around Aug or Sep of last year I think. Currently I am grazing bra strap but I need to cut off of some thin bone straight relaxed ends.
 

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Hi "mature ladies"......thanks for peeping in. All of you look great! Love the hair pics!
 
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I love all the diversity of the hair pictures and am so happy to see so many healthy heads of hair!

Those of us who are graying but not wanting to show it (yet), do you find coloring has changed your texture or has it changed the products that work (or don't work)? I find that my hair is more tangly, dry, and breaks more. Any suggestions for less damaging color? (I haven't been successful with henna - not seeming to cover my gray and a few times I got PINK hair :eek:)

Strange you would say this. I use PM shines demi and I have been wondering if it has anything to do with my tangles, dryness and breakage. I really stepped up deep cond/hot oil treatments game to see it that makes a difference.
 
wavezncurlz said:
I love all the diversity of the hair pictures and am so happy to see so many healthy heads of hair!

Those of us who are graying but not wanting to show it (yet), do you find coloring has changed your texture or has it changed the products that work (or don't work)? I find that my hair is more tangly, dry, and breaks more. Any suggestions for less damaging color? (I haven't been successful with henna - not seeming to cover my gray and a few times I got PINK hair :eek:)

Hello Wavz,
I have just recently joined this thread and I love it. Love your curls too. I just recently tried henna for the first time and it does indeed cover the gray. I used Light Mountain natural with henna and indigo as the only ingredients. I did a lot of reading before I did it. I'm relaxed and 10 weeks into a 12 week stretch. I believe the henna-ing has made the stretch possible. I am usually right at between 7 and 8 weeks because I got some "motherland" hair and that is usually as much new growth as I can stand. I'm going to do henna again in another couple of months. I think the indigo was a little too dark for me so I'm trying a henna with indigo and senna to get more brown in the mix. I haven't posted any pics yet but I am APL for my shortest layers and somewhere between that and BSL at my longest layer.
 
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Wow! @reeko43 Your hair has taken off! What's your key to retaining?

Hey there Charla, and thanks :) I have to thank henna first and foremost. I have a mix of coarse and fine strands. The henna has helped to thicken the fine strands. I don't have a lot of breakage. I just use some amla so I won't lose my curl pattern. I haven't straightened my hair since my chop except for my April trim. That might be helping as well. I am seriously trying some of the advice here on the forum for techniques and products and I am learning so much!
 
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I love all the diversity of the hair pictures and am so happy to see so many healthy heads of hair!

Those of us who are graying but not wanting to show it (yet), do you find coloring has changed your texture or has it changed the products that work (or don't work)? I find that my hair is more tangly, dry, and breaks more. Any suggestions for less damaging color? (I haven't been successful with henna - not seeming to cover my gray and a few times I got PINK hair :eek:)

Before I started using henna I only used rinse after a permanent coloring disaster (while relaxed) that left me nearly bald. The rinse didn't change the texture of my hair but I never got the results I hoped for and was tired of rinsing every 6 to 8 weeks. I have very fine strands so initially I started using henna to help prevent breakage. The first application did not color well but I ordered the latest dye crop from Henna Sooq and gave the henna enough time for the dye to release. I have used henna consistently since then.
 
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I love all the diversity of the hair pictures and am so happy to see so many healthy heads of hair!

Those of us who are graying but not wanting to show it (yet), do you find coloring has changed your texture or has it changed the products that work (or don't work)? I find that my hair is more tangly, dry, and breaks more. Any suggestions for less damaging color? (I haven't been successful with henna - not seeming to cover my gray and a few times I got PINK hair :eek:)
I will be getting my hair colored with Aveda hair color next week,Yeah! This will be the 4th time and so far I still have my same curl pattern and it is not as drying as traditional color since its made with majority plant oil extracts.

Even my hi-lights which are blond are still the same curl pattern. I do keep hair moisturized more often and have lost less hair due to split ends being cut off. I will be getting a redder color we will see how it comes out.
 
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I will be getting my hair colored with Aveda hair color next week,Yeah! This will be the 4th time and so far I still have my same curl pattern and it is not as drying as traditional color since its made with majority plant oil extracts.

Even my hi-lights which are blond are still the same curl pattern. I do keep hair moisturized more often and have lost less hair due to split ends being cut off. I will be getting a redder color we will see how it comes out.

I have been thinking about going to Aveda and getting a demi color. Do you get a permanent color?
 
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I have been thinking about going to Aveda and getting a demi color. Do you get a permanent color?

Yes I do get permenant color cuz I only color once a year, I'm not to concerned with touch ups inbetween, maybe that's also a reason why it's working for me.
 
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I'm on the color fence myself. My gray is concentrated in a streak on the front left side. I like it actually, but looking forward I can't see myself fully salt and pepper yet. I want to try henna, but the thought of the all the mess that comes with that gives me pause.
 
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I broke down and had my hair stylist give me a permanent color on Sat. I was tired of every 6 weeks reapplying a demi permanent (I was using Shades EQ at home) to deal with the grays. Now I plan to only permanent color once every 6 months or so and I will use the Shades demi permanent as needed in between to keep the grays at bay. I thought about henna for a hot minute but the mess of all the mixing is daunting.

I've been really babying my hair, DC every week, no heat between washes. So my hair felt very good after the color this weekend. I took my own conditioner (Aubrey GPB) for her to use so I'm sure that helped. I recently bought a stand-up dryer from Sally's and plan to start rolling my hair and sitting under the dryer (when not just wearing it wet, conditioned and in a bun) to avoid the flatiron.
 
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52 year old checking in. I've been transitioning now for 10 months. I've been having BKT done so that I can manage the two textures. I also started doing a permanent color since I started my transition. I had been nervous about it but my hair seems to be pretty healthy.
 

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I'm on the color fence myself. My gray is concentrated in a streak on the front left side. I like it actually, but looking forward I can't see myself fully salt and pepper yet. I want to try henna, but the thought of the all the mess that comes with that gives me pause.

Leave it out ,like I did with mine :)
 
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What's the name of the permanent colors you ladies are using?
 
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I read this whole thread...you ladies inspire me. I'm a measley 25 yrn old and due to depressive disorders...i a lot of times just let myself go:ohwell: But...i do and will try harder to take care of myself thanks to all y'all stone cold foxes!:grin:

I hope i look as good as y'all in 25 yrs!:gorgeous:
 
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What's the name of the permanent colors you ladies are using?

janeemat I buy Tints of Nature at Whole Foods. Its expensive ($17 a box) but the ingredients are not as harsh as Miss Clairol. I pick my poison basically LOL I believe you can also purchase this product at the Vitamin Shoppe.
 
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Doing the bump.........Anybody turn forty lately wanna join us!
 
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I'm mid 50s and so happy that I found this thread today! I started taking better care of my hair last Oct and I've gone from ear to collarbone length in about 10 months. I was just beginning to see/feel good about my progress when DH staged a mini-intervention (after seeing all the products I've bought) and said I needed to be "realistic" and recognize that there's no way I'm going to have long hair at my age... Call me crazy but I still feel the best is yet to come (hair and otherwise) and I refuse to give up on being a better me. I'm eternally grateful for the inspiration I've found on this board, and particularly in this thread.
 
I turned 44 last month. Had a blow out and trim a few days ago. Been natural since 2008, previously texlaxed.



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ETA: Been "going natural" since 2008. Instead of doing a BC, I opted for continous ends trimming.
 
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I turned 40 last December, people never believe me. I tell them forget "good hair", I have "good black". This pic was taken last year.
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Sorry for the big pic
 
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