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nappystorm said:
I knew this was coming :lol: But yes, many people would consider her light skinned.
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I didn't read the whole thread, but am I really the first person to bring this up? I'm surprised:lol:. But yeah, I think she needs more people on that one. I've never, to my knowledge, gotten any shade due to my skintone.:lol:

I agree with previous posters...I think she has deeper issues.
 
I'm just saying, we can be discussing Casper the Ghost and someone will come in talking about "Casper is light skinned":ohwell:
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Southernbella. said:
I didn't read the whole thread, but am I really the first person to bring this up? I'm surprised:lol:. But yeah, I think she needs more people on that one. I've never, to my knowledge, gotten any shade due to my skintone.:lol:

I agree with previous posters...I think she has deeper issues.
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southernbella I think she was originally talking about her hair texture in the first vid but naturally her skin tone came up in the comments so she addressed it in the other 2 videos.
 
:lol::lol: To be fair, though, when the point of your rant is the fact that people are hating on you because of your light skin and "good hair", I think it's only natural that people begin to question the assumptions on which that argument is based. :giggle:
 
nappystorm said:
@southernbella I think she was originally talking about her hair texture in the first vid but naturally her skin tone came up in the comments so she addressed it in the other 2 videos.
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Oh ok. I turned the video off after a few seconds so I was going by the comments. Well, good luck to her. I hope she's able to get past all this.
 
reeko43 said:
Is this a contest about who can respond in the most ignorant way possible? Is there a video response to NikkiDior that presents a more intelligent point of view? These type of videos only further convince me that what NikkieDior experienced is real. People like this who can go off like this rolling their neck and contributing to negative stereotypes about Black women can't possibly behave any better in a real life setting.
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I cant agree with you more. The belligerent behavior is DISGUSTING. Whether Nikki has "issues" or not seems to be the lesser issue when listening to this hate. They seem to be as insecure as they are accusing her to be. If that is her experience than who are they to minimize what she felt, whether it was just her perception or reality. I'm sure she's been thrown enough shade in her life to know when someone is coming at her sideways. I have people do this to me quite often and it gets old and tiresome. You talk a certain way, you're not black enough, you look a certain way, you think you are better or you're stuck up..you drive a particular car or live in a certain neighborhood...it never stops, some people go out of their way to project their insecurities onto those they are envious of.They key is to take it with a grain of salt and be the best you that you can be regardless of others.
 
^^^I'm not going to discount her because I've personally witnessed fair skinned, curly girls bullied and beaten up on the regular because "they think they're cute".

I think very dark skinned and very light skinned girls both face unnecessary backlash from our community and it's sad :nono:
 
nappystorm said:
^^^I'm not going to discount her because I've personally witnessed fair skinned, curly girls bullied and beaten up on the regular because "they think they're cute".

I think very dark skinned and very light skinned girls both face unnecessary backlash from our community and it's sad :nono:
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I'm going to be honest. I never really seen any light skin girls get marginalized due to their attributes. BUT, I don't discount a person's struggles because I have not seen it.

I think some people don't believe things if they don't see it with their own eyes.

Folks just need to shutup and let everybody have their rant. NikkiiDior and anyone else who wants a little space to rant has the right to do so. Including HIMAY10NENCE and the other chick. The only exception I make to this rule is KimK, because she is a famewhore (sorry I thought all threads around these parts were supposed to include KimK for the next two weeks). :grin:
 
French Rouge said:
I'm going to be honest. I never really seen any light skin girls get marginalized due to their attributes. BUT, I don't discount a person's struggles because I have not seen it.

I think some people don't believe things if they don't see it with their own eyes.

Folks just need to shutup and let everybody have their rant. NikkiiDior and anyone else who wants a little space to rant has the right to do so. Including HIMAY10NENCE and the other chick. The only exception I make to this rule is KimK, because she is a famewhore (sorry I thought all threads around these parts were supposed to include KimK for the next two weeks). :grin:
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That's Funny!
 
IMO I think before she went to the event she was thinking to herself, "they probably wont accept me". Then when she got to the event any little thing that someone did seemed like they were "hating" on her. People might not have liked her because of her attitude, some people just have an uncomfortable presence about them.

But if this was not the case than I understand her being upset and hurt by it. Most black women are not haters towards lighter women. I have came across very friendly caring people who have not disrespected me because of an physical attribute. Their are rude and mean people everywhere who are not happy with their life, I don't think she should blame it on an entire community.
 
French Rouge said:
I'm going to be honest. I never really seen any light skin girls get marginalized due to their attributes. BUT, I don't discount a person's struggles because I have not seen it.
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I think the worst case of backlash toward lightskinned that I am aware of is back when I was a foster care caseworker. One of the high school girls that I worked with took part in a gang beating of a lightskinned girl with really long hair. The girls cornered her in the school library and beat her unconscious with books. They then cut most of her hair off with a pocket knife. When I asked the girl their reasons for doing this she stated "because that b thought she was all that cause of her hair. Well we took care of that!" The brutality of it never left me.
 
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reeko43 said:
I think the worst case of backlash toward lightskinned that I am aware of is back when I was a foster care caseworker. One of the high school girls that I worked with took part in a gang beating of a lightskinned girl with really long hair. The girls cornered her in the school library and beat her unconscious with books. They then cut most of her hair off with a pocket knife. When I asked the girl their reasons for doing this she stated "because that b thought she was all that cause of her hair. Well we took care of that!" The brutality of it never left me.
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This is so sad. A few things happened like this where I grew up too. I had a personal experience something like this but no where near as extreme.

Well I hope the drama settles down soon and we can go back to the regular scheduled programming hahaha
 
LittleLuxe said:
In general I'd agree with this. But overall I do find something super suspect about some of the responses. If you feel this way about all threads that's fine, but if this was a YouTube vid. of a dark skinned 4a/b claiming she walked into -fill in the blank- and was snubbed or felt excluded and was used to experiencing that people would be falling over themselves to co-sign, pat her on the back, comfort her.

Because it's someone of a lighter skin tone/different texture people claim: maybe she had a stank attitude, maybe it was your bad dye job, girl NOBODY jealous of YOU, yeah take it out on the WHOLE natural community why don't you???

I'm just wondering who that's helping to be honest. Is the point that someone of a looser texture shouldn't dare express any perception of discrimination because obviously only darker/happier girls experience that? Is it that suggesting discrimination or exclusion suggests she thinks she's special/better than others? Is it that white on some level people consider people Of this texture/color to be an enemy of their own struggle? Because they have it easier, ergo they shouldn't complain...but they sure better not brag either.

I'm just wondering. Sometimes I'm curious about some of this on a deeper level.
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I can't speak for people I can only speak for me. And it doesn't do any good or close any type of division by playing the well what if it was a dark skin nappy head girl who said it game. All of it encourages division.

It's a shame this woman feels as she does but as I have stated, sometimes you have to take a look at the man in the mirror whether you are type 3,4,5,6,7, etc. Constantly being offended by folk who you think are hating on you for your hair type is ridiculous and solves nothing.
 
EUnfortunately in high school there was a group of girls who tried to attack me at the mall. I did not know tm at all. I had never seen them or even interacted with them. I was at mcdonalds at the mall ordering food with my best friend. As we were working our way up the line I heard voices behind my cursing and talking loud but I paid no attention. Then it was getting louder and louder, saying stuff like "that 90201 wanna be bi#$$. I'm whoop her $%!, etc. I was like wow somebody is about get beat up, then it got even louder. So i indiscretely turn around and see the two girls are scowling, cursing at and talking about me. I didnt know them, i'd never seen them in my life. Thats when i realized it was about my looks (my complexion, my hair, my appearance) because they kept ranting and cursing saying "she thinks shes all that, Ima whoop her ...." So i just ignored the ignorance and my friend and i left with our food to eat elsewhere and avoid confrontation and the girls followed us, continuing to verbal assault and threaten us. I will just end the story. Theres nothing i did to those girls. I understood for some reason I embodied someone that causes them insecurity. I remember i was so hurt because i thought i just wish they could know me. i'm a sweet caring person, a good friend.
 
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ManeStreet said:
EUnfortunately in high school there was a group of girls who tried to attack me at the mall. I did not know tm at all. I had never seen them or even interacted with them. I was at mcdonalds at the mall ordering food with my best friend. As we were working our way up the line I heard voices behind my cursing and talking loud but I paid no attention. Then it was getting louder and louder, saying stuff like "that 90201 wanna be bi#$$. I'm whoop her $%!, etc. I was like wow somebody is about get beat up, then it got even louder. So i indiscretely turn around and see the two girls are scowling, cursing at and talking about me. I didnt know them, i'd never seen them in my life. Thats when i realized it was about my looks (my complexion, my hair, my appearance) because they kept ranting and cursing saying "she thinks shes all that, Ima whoop her ...." So i just ignored the ignorance and my friend and i left with our food to eat elsewhere and avoid confrontation and the girls followed us, continuing to verbal assault and threaten us. I will just end the story. Theres nothing i did to those girls.
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Lol at the bolded :lol:
 
ManeStreet said:
EUnfortunately in high school there was a group of girls who tried to attack me at the mall. I did not know tm at all. I had never seen them or even interacted with them. I was at mcdonalds at the mall ordering food with my best friend. As we were working our way up the line I heard voices behind my cursing and talking loud but I paid no attention. Then it was getting louder and louder, saying stuff like "that 90201 wanna be bi#$$. I'm whoop her $%!, etc. I was like wow somebody is about get beat up, then it got even louder. So i indiscretely turn around and see the two girls are scowling, cursing at and talking about me. I didnt know them, i'd never seen them in my life. Thats when i realized it was about my looks (my complexion, my hair, my appearance) because they kept ranting and cursing saying "she thinks shes all that, Ima whoop her ...." So i just ignored the ignorance and my friend and i left with our food to eat elsewhere and avoid confrontation and the girls followed us, continuing to verbal assault and threaten us. I will just end the story. Theres nothing i did to those girls.
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i kinda wanna know how it ended :look:
 
I just wanna know.....what is really the "beauty standard" right now?

Asians using skin whiteners and scared to gain weight.

Light skinned Black folks gettin beat up bc of their skin and hair.

Every race is thinking straight hair is better until recently.

But the White folks is tannin and gettin injections in certain areas.

What is REALLY going on in the world yo?
 
I used to have girls treat me like crap for no reason when I was growing up too. I'm not light skin and I don't have good hair. I think some chicks just like trouble and drama. I stayed away from those types. The "you think you cute" crap I heard often. I think we all can come up with some mess that happened to us that has scared us or affected us.
 
Watched all 3 of Nikki's vids. For her to leave after 20min b/c someone ignored her lets me know that she had some issues about going in the first place. So, maybe she shouldn't of gone period. Then she says she felt people staring her up and down...ummm idk man. Sounds kind like narcissism to me.

All of this could have very well happened, but it all could of been in her head too. But personally, I find it hard to believe that out of all the women that were there, she stood out enough for so many people to stare at her and treat her different. *ye shrug*
 
knt1229 said:
I used to have girls treat me like crap for no reason when I was growing up too. I'm not light skin and I don't have good hair. I think some chicks just like trouble and drama. I stayed away from those types. The "you think you cute" crap I heard often. I think we all can come up with some mess that happened to us that has scared us or affected us.
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Me too, especially in high school and I'm a brown girl. I think it's b/c I was very introverted, shy and quiet but not ugly and girls took that quietness to mean conceit. It happens to us all.Dark, light, brown. BTW, I definitely don't have what is considered good hair, I just always kept it styled nicely.
 
Hmmm. If ol girl ain't lightskin the what is she? Tan? Brown? Dark? I mean the opposite of dark is light so I am confused? How many other descriptors do we have?

ETA- I'm seriously confused.

excuse my typos i hate it as much as you.
 
I feel for her. People may not agree with her view point but at least she was polite, didn't call anyone out their name or insult anyone.

Himay and the other dummy acted like straight fools and made me embarrassed for them. Where do you work at that you can make videos called 'light skinned hoes' and it's all gravy? Or pop up in a towel and head wrap as if the world would explode if you didnt upload your video right that second? Smh.

I'd say they need to do better but chicks like that will never do better.
 
if many women don't like you before you even say a thing, and you are not nasty at all, usually it's a good sign :grin: (just kidding of course)

on a serious note: such a tricky situation, it can be full of misunderstandings and personal views, I really cannot give an opinion. I hope she feels better soon and I wish her a much happier natural hair show in the future :yep: I would not let this one be the last one if I was her, I would delete the bad experience with a good one, without assuming anything and without jumping to conclusions: what if she misinterpreted things? It can happen, especially if you have some negative past experiences that influence your thoughts. She may have met some nasty people, or she may be right, I think the issue of hair and skin is non existent if you let it be non existent, no matter who you meet.

(lol sorry I got slightly carried away with the red ink)
 
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I feel for her if that's how it really happened. But she can't have been the only person at that natural hair thing with that hair type, right? So... what makes her assume her hair was the reason?
 
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