Excuses people make to justify their short and/or damaged hair

[silenttullip]

It's true... Even my lil sis told me
"most people still don't know anything about hair
since you told me what you've learned I've gained so much
info and length... People wash their hair every 2 months, no dcing or anything then get a perm"
I thought I was lazy for not moisturizing and sealing daily lol
it's true we are a special bunch

some. . .no, most. . . .actually, very few woman are as compulsive about hair care as we are. lol We're special.

 

[ericajoy]

This dang thread has kept me up until 1:00 in the morning. I even made myself some popcorn, no joke. Like I don't have to get up and go to work tomorrow.

It made me think about how we learn to care for our hair (or don't). My mom was always pretty careful when it came to relaxers and not putting rubber bands in too tight and things like that...(but I wish she had known about detangling with conditioner -- oh man). Even though I don't remember her actually sitting us down and teaching us what to do, some of her healthy hair practices were just ingrained.

Now having said that, I still had plenty of bad hair habits to unlearn. But I can't imagine where I'd be if my mom was one to relax our hair every 4 weeks or not use conditioner or something like that. That would be a LOT more to unlearn.

Anyway, just a thought...now good night evil thread, good night!!

 

[Missjae09]

Someone actually told me that their mother's hair wouldn't grow anymore because she's cut it too much! so I said do you mean she cuts it as fast as it grows? and she says "no, it just doesn't grow because she's cut it so much!" l I felt compailed to remind this person that hair grows from the scalp so cutting hair doesn't prevent growth, but it was no use, she was stuck on stupid ​

 

[NIN4eva]

Someone actually told me that their mother's hair wouldn't grow anymore because she's cut it too much! so I said do you mean she cuts it as fast as it grows? and she says "no, it just doesn't grow because she's cut it so much!" l I felt compailed to remind this person that hair grows from the scalp so cutting hair doesn't prevent growth, but it was no use, she was stuck on stupid ​

Wow. I wonder what it's like to go through life with a brain like that. erplexed

 

[Geminigirl]

yea this guy was telling me has good hair so all he needs to do is wet his hair in the shower and then he can comb his plaits out. He also told me his hair looks thick but its really thin, uhhh nah bruh it looks thin. And he also told me his hair is longer then it looks. His hair is maybe shoulder length and very thin and broken off and damaged. Sorry boo you don't have good hair. Yo people lied to you.

 

[Almaz]

Well no one would listen to me if I tried to give them advice anyway one lady was like

Well Almaz you Ethiopian I have seen most of the people in your family All the women gots long hair what can you tell me.

I was like Well Even though we all have long hair we take care of it or it will end up looking like yours.

 

[Janet']

Interesting, funny, and sad...all at the same time...

 

[lesedi]

yea this guy was telling me has good hair so all he needs to do is wet his hair in the shower and then he can comb his plaits out. He also told me his hair looks thick but its really thin, uhhh nah bruh it looks thin. And he also told me his hair is longer then it looks. His hair is maybe shoulder length and very thin and broken off and damaged. Sorry boo you don't have good hair. Yo people lied to you.

 

[laurend085]

Most popular "I dont got that good hair"

My mom told me I had sometime-y hair as a child Sometimes it would act good and sometimes it wouldn't whatever that means.

Also I just recently cut off my relaxed ends and have worn my natural texture (right now it's in a ps)

I got comments some backhanded compliments from family like "I didn't think it would curl like that" my aunt suggested I wear my puff to my sisters wedding and my cousin goes "OH NO!" like that would be a big disaster.

Then my future sil was over and she's talking about going "natural" because she's newly pregnant but what I think she means is just not getting a perm while pregnant.

My sister goes "it'll look good on you, you have that good hair". Ummm all you've seen is her permed hair and you only assume it's good because it's apl.

Also my sister has successfully broken her and my nieces from poor hair care choices ( putting heat on my 8 year old nieces hair everyday tight ponytails not taking care of my nieces hair after having a texturizer put on, my niece went from almost apl to nl in a matter of months)

But she blames it on the stylist.

In conclusion some people won't believe that hair can ever be healthy or grow like others.

 

[lolascurls]

Great thread!
I tend to just be quiet about haircare until people ask me!
I first direct them to some online sites to start off their research. Then, if they're keen, they come back and start asking me the pertinent questions. A new work colleague as recently joined the status of haircare buddy! She's so exicted taking care of hers and her baby girl's hair. She was starting to worry that her daughter may feel inferior to her mixed cousin's hair once they're past the baby stages of hair growth!

Some people will not listen though. I had two sisters (family friends) telling me they had 4c hair and not hair like mine (because they could see the smoothed waves at my 4a/4b hair in a protective style). They thought that relaxers couldn't fully relax their hair and they just couldn't grow.
Well, I threw in the "just co-wash and deep condition" line and I can only hope they will start there! Afterall, I'm still transitioning to natural so who knows what my hair will look like!
My work "haircare buddy" has now discovered the joys of baggying!

 

[prettypithy]

I recently showed my friend a growth pic of my hair and she said: "My hair was that long last year and a stylist cut it all off." Okay, I have known her my whole life and never seen it past chin length. And she wants me to believe she grew it to grazing APL without me seeing it? And no photo evidence? And a stylist just cut like 6 inches? I know stylists can be dastardly but for real?

This is also a friend who insists she could sit on her hair when she was little. Of course, I've known her since she was 7--it was broken off EL-NL then. She says her mom cut it when she was 7 and it just never grew back. SMH.

 

[curlcomplexity]

...I used to have really long hair when I was little, but then my mama/gramdma/salon lady/auntie gave me a "perm" when I was like 5 and it never grew back

This one I hear all the time!

 

[Incognitus]

^^Me too! Sometimes I wonder if the person actually believes the tale they are telling... Sometimes, if a person lies to themselves (or others) long enough, it becomes increasingly difficult to distinguish between fact and fiction.

 

[ladybettle]

It is so sad that the lack of knowledge about hair care among BW is very scary. I hate hearing about "good" hair and "bad" hair. It's just we do not know how to properly take care of curly kinky hair that it has become generational like a curse.

 

[ladybettle]

Knowledge is power.....